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What bars did you used to love that you now hate? - Weblogs.baltimoresun.com

What are some bars and clubs that you used to love but can't stand now? It could be spots that have gone downhill over the years, like Reefers in Fells Point. Or it could just be spots that you went to every weekend but just can't imagine yourself ...

Coco Before Chanel - KDRV

"Please do not be cynical. I hate cynicism. For the record, it's my least favorite quality. It doesn't lead anywhere. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard, and you're kind, amazing things ...

Slugs: Get them now, or they'll get you - Oregonian

I'd like to say, "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful," but since I write about gardening, I'll say instead, "Don't hate me because I don't have slugs." Also, don't hate me because I said I would post this last Thursday. I got a new dog and took the ...

Why I (now) hate Apple - ZDNet Blogs

I can’t say that I have always hated Apple. Granted, I haven’t been a huge fan of their products, but to my mind, Apple was just the vendor of a product that I used infrequently, if at all. They weren’t something to get worked up about. I have ...

Easy last-minute lasagna is a lifesaver - Detroit News

I have a love/hate thing going with lasagna: I love to eat it, but I hate to make it. Especially now that I've been off my feet for ... 30-Minute Meals, No-Cook Meals and Reliable Sides, the book has given me some great ideas and taken the guess work ...

I So Hate Winter -- and Now You Will Too! - Huffingtonpost.com

A list of tips on getting through winter from one who's decided the W word is inhuman. 1. Forget layers. Pretend it is warm--fake it. Walk outside proudly and stupidly. 2. Get cheap flights and get out of here. Even Virginia. Just use Weather.com and ...

School cancels prom after lesbian demands to bring ... - Adelaidenow

EDUCATION officials in Mississippi cancelled a high school prom after a lesbian student launched a public battle to bring her girlfriend, The Clarion Ledger reported. The Itawamba County school board said it was axing the Itawamba County Agricultural ...

Michael Moore interview: Capitalism, Barack Obama and ... - Den Of Geek

Michael Moore is, whether you love or hate his work, the man who has opened the door to documentaries getting wide releases in cinemas. His latest movie, Capitalism: A Love Story, is only getting a limited UK release, but it’s out now on Blu-ray ...

Robert Pattinson's new movie ends how?!? - New York Post

Ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you about my abhorrence of plot-ruining spoilers. I hate hearing them, I don't like giving them and I rarely talk about them. However, I stumbled upon a spoiler for the new Robert Pattinson movie that is so ...

Fitness profile: Laurette Wright - Reading Eagle

Occupation: Front desk director, Gold's Gym in Wyomissing. When and why you began to exercise: I started exercising when I was 46, and I went to the doctor and we were discussing life changes like menopause. His recommendation was to exercise five ...

Open Question: am i wrong to be annoyed at him for being too keen all the time?

ok so one of my close male friends and i get along really well. I met him while i was dating a guy....during that time my friend told me that he liked me. that was ok i didnt mind... now that im not dating anyone......my friend keeps telling me over and over how much he likes me, all my good qualities.... He keeps pushing for me to tell him how i feel about him and when i say i dont think i feel that way. he tries to analyse me and push for reason why not? He also wants tp push for me to kiss him, to see if anything is there. he makes me cds and texts me alot....... but this seems to annoy the crap out of me. and i do care about him, and i should find it flaterring ...but i just hate him putting pressure on me. more

Open Question: Need help..Dont have a social life...?

Okay so..I've bin sitting at home for probly almost two year's now I did play soccer but now thats over all i do is sit at home all day doing nothing. I don't want to do anything i am very depressed/suicidal/ I am on home study..I have no friends just my room were i escape...and live in almost every day...I want to go to school but i dont like were i live and i have really bad Anxiety when i try to talk to people. I feel like something is wrong with me and nobody else out there is like me..i hate myself...Also living with greif of my twin sister dieng has effected my life so much Any tips? on how to help my problems..please..Thanks. more

Open Question: Have i pushed him away! please help me!?

i walked away from my bf because he was treating me like crap and has such a big ego he thinks he can treat women like crap and they will still be there so i had enough and walked away, he begged me to stay and not to go back to my ex, but all hes ever done is say stuff, he never showed me how much he wanted me back he thought just messaging me and calling me for a while would work but it didnt i wanted him to show it properly but he never did, hes taken me for a mug, i lent him £160 which i never got back, he never took me out for a meal once nothing, 'lost' his so called job, lost his place and was sleeping in his mums car, i stuck by him and he promised he would change and get sorted so we could be together properly and i waited for months and nothing changed, i put his behaviour down to his living circumstances and he promised he would be better once sorted, well when he got sorted nothing changed, he got cocky, letting me down, msgin girls behind my back whilst asking for another chance, he broke my heart and hurt me so much especially when i know i did nothing to deserve it. the break up has gone on for 7 weeks i tried no contact but gave in now and then and replied to him which made him even more cockier when i thought he would be sympathetic and nice it actually made his turn more nasty so i started to ignore again, then we got into an argument the other day and i mistakedly asked to meet him for one more goodbye for closure and he saw that as bait and threw it back in my face sayin no fuck off you had your chances, i had someone else over today, i dont miss you, etc and i ignored him and didnt bother to reply and now i havent heard anything since and i feel its officially ended on his terms and not mine like it was when i first walked and i feel even more mugged off like hes got the last dig in, i want him to message me and beg me again and realise what hes lost and what damage he has done, he realised when i first broke up with him but i feel coz i gave him some attention its pushed him into not caring anymore like ive annoyed him, i dont want to be one of those ex's guys laugh about and say how irritating they were, i wasnt even like that to him i just feel hes used me to worm his way in so he could be the last to break it off to make him feel better about me rejecting him and i hate it, i wanted to walk away with my head held high with his begging me back but now its all gone wrong and i feel so upset will he crawl back again i really want him to, it will help me move on quicker i will never take him back its just the principle of coming out on top after everything hes done to me and how much hes ruined everything because of his ego and immaturity. is he hurting deep down coz i did dent his ego by leaving him to get back with my ex and i did warn him i would if he didnt change his ways. please help me! more

Open Question: why are you on yahoo answers right now?

im procrastinating =/ i hate homework ;_; what about you?? :D more

Open Question: Need help on Dying my hair dark blue?

Hewwo :) My hair is all black right now and i want to dye the top of my head all dark blue Do i have to bleach it? before doing the blue because i really dont want to..i hate bleach Anyways if anyone could give me some suggestions :) thanks!Alright thanks everyone!! :) I'm gana get the dye tomarrow and see how it turns out! :O more

Open Question: Ladies - Do you sometimes feel like your married to a 6 ft toddler?

I know alot of you have or was married for years to the same man and do you ever feel like the longer you're with him the more dependent he becomes on you. My husband has medical problems and I have no problem taking care of him and making his life as comfortable as possible BUT sometimes I feel he takes me for granted.. Like last night, after working two jobs, I come home only to find out that I failed to read his mind that he wanted Tacos. So out I go to get his Tacos. This is one of many ways he takes me for granted. Everytime and I mean everytime I want to go visit my family for the weekend he comes up with some ailment where he cant walk or he's sicker than a dog, so feeling guilty I stay home. Only to find him 1 hour later feeling fine. He doesnt want me to have friends. The man is like a dog meaning he follows me everywhere. Im in one room watching TV and in he comes, picks up the remote and changes the channel. I try to take a nap and he turns the volume up on TV. Im interested in a show and he starts talking to me. He stares at me when I eat till I give it to him, at which, he didnt want anything prior to fixing it for myself. These are just a few of many things he does. He cant even bend over to take his shoes off, or clip his toenails which by the way are like horsehooves. And nags constantly, talks about everybody and gets mad at me because I dont feel the same way. I just want to shove a bottle in his mouth and send him to bed at times. The man actually whines if he doesnt get his way. I gain weight, he complains, I lose it, Im too skinny, I try to diet, he bakes my favorite cake. And he cant stand the fact that I could be in a good mood and actually happy. He had the nerve to tell me one time that I only see the good in people. Everytime I try to grow a nub of a wing on my back he wants to bite it off. He's the worse backbitter I have ever seen in my life. The MAN IS DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!!!! The idiot actually spanked me with a switch one time, and raised his fist to my face because I walked thru a doorway at the same time and startled him. I sware I hate him at times. By now your probably thinking why have I come to the Senior Citizen Section, the reason is your words are sincere, honest, wise and mostly life experiences. I have been married to him for going on 25 yrs and hes 18 years older than me. So what do you suggest I do? (Leaving him is not an option at this time due to his ill health and financially, all I can do is pray at which I do) So again, unless God comes to my rescue, what do I do, any suggestions?@Sara Thank you, that strengthened me and made me cry. more

Open Question: Im really scared of my teacher?

i recently posted a question about how creeped out i am of my teacher. HE is really old and always picks on me and uses me as an example to explain stuff.and recently he basically went on and on about my ,love life in front of the class. Kinda confusing but dw.Anyways i get a very bad vibe from him. Like every time before his class i feel sick and very nervous.Throughout the whole class im nervous that he'll pick on me. Today once again he picked on me to read when i didn't even volunteer when he never forced anyone else to read. Is it normal to feel like this cause i am soo nervous and i hate my class now. I basically dread going to it. I've never felt this scared of a teacher. Please help i am really creeped out he also always stares at me im like 14 and hes min 50 years advice please?? more

Open Question: Shouldn't I hate myself for being fat?

There has never been a time when I haven't hated my body. My family definitely is one of body shame and I also had a bad experience involving the body when I was young and I guess it scarred me. Mainly I hate my weight though (I've hit a disgusting plateau these past few months, even though I also am an excessive-exerciser, and it's making my hatred of my weight all the worse). Deep down something tells me that even though being all bones won't solve my issues it just might make them better to deal with (starving brings with it the constant pain, the permanent self-punishment, the paranoia, the bruising, the weight loss, etc., and while I'm now EDNOS, and thus mixing my starving with other messed-up eating behavior, I still have the same weight goal and the same hope that it will help me with at least something). I've never understood why people don't shun me. People think I'm nice for some reason (kindness is Jesus and I'm not Him, so I'm evil, but no one believes I'm not good so I just keep it to myself and change the topic when they bring it up), but why should my personality make things easy for me? I'm fat and I take up extra space, thus I'm selfish. I try to be okay with my body, and I am so thankful for all it can do, but I'm mad at myself for being huge (I'm tall as well, so I look like a giant). My brother is the only person who tells me I'm fat and who calls me evil (this hurts, because I always try to build him up and because my worst fear is being evil, but he's still right), but I deserve for everyone else to know I'm awful, too. I know how wicked I am and I don't understand why no one else is willing to see it. It's sweet of people to be kind to me, but they really should call me out for being the scum I am. Does this make sense? I have a lot of guilt issues and every time someone tells me I'm good I feel all the guiltier, and I feel like the fat on me is proof of my sins. I despise myself and I feel like people being unwilling to shun me or to be mean to me is some sort of sick punishment for having been born bad. Isn't it right to hate myself for being fat though (I don't know, it just makes sense to me)? Thank you for your time.Just to be clear, I only feel this way about myself. I was told about Jesus being in everyone when I was little and I believe that and see that in others; this post is only about my self-hate and I in no way feel this way about others. I hope I haven't offended anyone, if I have I'll delete this, and I'm really sorry. Thank you again. more

Open Question: okay i bought a Used Dell D520 Laptop with a Norton 2010 active subscription into next year?

but i wiped the Computer Clean using wipedrive 5.0 just to give it a fresh start for me but i wrote down the norton serial number,end point,current sku,family sku,media sku, i sent them a an email saying i bought it from personX but i need to reinstall it which means i need the password etc will norton still let me keep this subscription active even though i now own this Computer? Also this Computer Came with Windows Xp Pro with Service Pack 3 i wrote down the Product Key on the sticker on the bottom of the computer but when i wiped it clean since i didn't have the ( Windows XP Pro SP 3 CD ) but i have the Product Key how would i acquire a Matching Copy i mean the very 1st person who owned this computer already bought the copy of windows that's why i hate how stores install windows but won't give you the disk they'll give you the Product key which is stupid right now i am running Windows XP Pro SP 2 with a different serial making mine ungenuine how can i acquire it will microsoft give me a copy for free i mean i have the sticker with product Key? more

Open Question: Do you ever feel like a failure?

I'm 24 years old. I was just looking on Facebook at people from my high school graduating class. Everyone is married, has kids, graduated from college, has a good job, etc etc. I've got like 1.5 years left to finish my degree. I live with my mother (while going to school, free rent). I'm fat, I'm socially ackward, and I hate my life. I always thought I'd be somebody and that all the losers I went to school with would fail because they were dicks to me. Now I'm jealous, and angry at these people for what they have and I don't. I know it's childish and petty, but I really wish I could sock some of them in the face. more

Open Question: Psychology or International Relations? IB Diploma related?

Hi, I'm a sophomore and I'm stuck between 2 majors Pscyhology and International Relations. I'm taking Psychology as a class now, and I can say that I'm really interested in this topic and I would like to major in it. However I'm also interested in International Relations. If I want to do International Relations I would have to take Higher Level History and Higher Level Business, but I want to do Pscyhology which involves Higher Level Biology and Higher Level Chemistry, and possibly Higher Level math which i'm not planning to do. I love Psychology, but I'm OK at math but I dislike it. I hate geometry, like algebra and the rest. I don't like the idea that i hve to know alot of math to take pscyhology. My question is: Is becoming a psychologist DIFFICULT? or is becoming a diplomat or a politician more difficult? is it true that you have to go through medical school to become a pscyhologist? please help :( Thanks more

Open Question: What can I do about my relationship with my mother and her gambling addiction?

it's seriously taking over her life and affecting everyone around her. before i even knew how serious it was, i had to move out during my second year of college because we were constantly butting heads (usually about money). i just found out this past year how severe her problem is. she gambles her paycheck away before she even gets it. her bank account is constantly in the negatives. overdraft fee after overdraft fee after level 2 overdraft fee and so on. she can't even afford her bills and she asks to borrow money from other family members or friends. somehow after all of this, she still doesn't believe she has a gambling problem. it's her "only way to have fun" but she can't do it for free because "there is no point." she has no one to talk to because she is so stressed out, but she's willing to shut me out of her life since i talk down to her ever since i found out. it's hard not to. i know that speaking to her normally will save the relationship between us, but if i know she's still doing it, then it's as if i don't even want to talk to her. it's like she's not there anymore. she's not my mom. i don't know what to do. i've tried contacting the gambler's hotline and they can't do anything if she's not willing to get help. they sent her information packets and she threw them away. i don't know what to say to her without cursing or talking down. how can i change her mind. right now she says she never wants to talk to me again because i am disrespectful, so i just don't know what to do. my little sister still lives with her.. she is in high school and it is putting a lot of stress on her as well. i have tried telling her that it hurts me, but she doesn't understand how if it's her money and not mine. how does she not understand??? it doesn't help that she's completely foreign, straight from the philippines.. i mean she speaks english and she's been here for 20 years but stilll... what can i say to make her understand? i know i need to try really hard to speak to her without raising my voice. the only thing left that i can think of is to pray. she says she hates me, wishes i was never born and never wants to talk to me again, but she's my mother and i love her.. and i've told her this.. that it hurts me too but.. ugh it's just so much sh*t. more

Open Question: My boyfriend went limp during oral and sex?

A little background info: This has never happened before in the five years that we've been together. We've been living together for four years. I'm very experienced in bed. Without sounding...full of it, I give great oral. I found out about a week ago that he has been masturbating to porn. That hurt a lot, especially since he promised me for years that he wouldn't watch porn. I wish that I was open-minded enough to not care, or not take the fact that he was getting off to porn personally, but I did. And I do. Therefore, I (and like I said, I hate it) but I made steps to make sure he doesn't do it again. And he's okay with that. He told me he didn't need it and it was more out of boredom since he's been unemployed. With all of that said, what the hell happened? Why did he go limp? I find out he's been watching porn, and now that he hasn't, is this a factor? Does he need it? I'm a very attractive woman. I was even wearing sexy lingerie. I just don't understand. It just seems to coincidental.ALSO: I've given him head about four times in the past week with no problems. So I can't imagine it's because we had the porn issue about a week ago.Wingy- we're both 23... more

Open Question: I don't know what to do anymore. advice please?

A few weeks ago my dad came home drunk. He started talking to my mom in a foul way and he kept raising his voice to her. Then I walked in the room and I heard him say "Your still alive? I want you to die." He said that to me more then once. Once when he was drunk and when he was sober. I went to my room and just broke down crying. Who says that to their child? I would never say that to my child no matter what they've done. Now I see him as a different person, its like all my love for him is replaced with this anger. I know its wrong, but I keep hearing those words in my head. I tried avoiding him, but today I couldn't take it anymore. He came inside the washroom as I was brushing my teeth and said "Its my turn. Get out. I need to brush my teeth." I stared at him and he said "Why are your looking at me like that?" I couldn't keep it inside anymore so I told him it was because I hated him and walked off. I know I shouldn't off said anything. I should off just walked away, but I didnt. I dont want it to be this way. Please help me out. more

Open Question: AQAURIUS WOMAN IN A LOVE TRIANGLE WILL I COME OUT A WINNER?

OK SO IM AN AQUARIUS YOUNG LADY 24YRS OLD AND IM IN LOVE WITH AN ARIES MAN 32YRS..... WHO JUST SO HAPPENS TO HAVE A DAUGHTER WITH A SCORPIO WOMEN 27YRS OLD WHO HE IS NO LONGER IN LOVE WITH AND NEVA REALLY WAS,. CLAIMS TO FEEL TRAPPED IN TRICKED TO BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT NEVA GREW EMOTIONALLY JUS PRODUCED A CHILD... OKAY WELL ME THE AQUARIUS, HE THE ARIES FELL IN LOVE INSTANTLY AND NOW TALK ABOUT OUR FUTURE TOGETHER HE SAYS HES LEAVING THE SCORPIO AND TAKES ACTION. BUT I JUST DONT THINK THE SCORPIO IS GOING TO LET IT BE THAT EASY AND SUPPOSEDLY SHES INTO GIRLS AND JUS WANTS HIM AROUND FOR THE IMAGE OF IT ALL?! SOO WEIRD I HATE HER!! VERY INTERESTING TO ME BECAUSE MY MOM IS A SCORPIO AND WE ALWAYS HAD AN LOVE\HATE RELATIONSHIP, AND IT SEEMS SHE ALWAYS BEEN JEALOUS OF ME AND MY DADS RELATIONSHIP COULD THAT HAVE BEEN SOME TYPE OF FORSHADOWING TO THE FUTURE AND IM ALWAYS IN A BEEF WITH A SCORPIO GIRL WHATS UP WITH THAT???? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME LOGICAL FEEDBACK THANKS GUYS AND GALS <3 HOW DO I GET RID OF THE SCORPIO!!!!!! more

Open Question: HORRIBLE MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

ok i just want to see if you guys think im overreacting about my mom. she claims shes been pregnant for 2 years 'cause "god told her she is" all she does is sleep 14 hours a day then get on facebook/farmville, not joking, she doesn't leave the house or even leave her chair except to vaccum(e?) the house ussually 2 or 3 times a day, she hasn't cooked in weeks, she has a woman paid to clean the house once a week 'cause she's "too busy/stressed" (wtf) she makes my 6 year old sis and 10 year old bro sleep 14/16 hours so they "won't bother her" she took my older brother and i out of public school when i was in 2nd grade (i'm 14 now) now she "homeschools" us, i know for a fact that my little siblings haven't TOUCHED their school books in over a year, my little brother is about 4'9 tall and only 50 lbs cause she doesnt make him eat, if he doesnt like it, both of the little ones sleep in her bed with her every night (i thought 6 was stretching it?) her parents hate her and wont see us anymore cause every time they talk she SHOVES religion down their throats (as she does to everyone else too) my 6 year old sis is still in diapers my little brother nursed untill he was 5 she "spanked" my older brother untill he was 17 yrs old, i'm worried about my little brother and sister...they have zero friends and will never be able to go to college or do anything with their lives cause she doesnt make them do their school work and they won't get diplomas........ (sorry for the spelling/grammer i'm tired.) anyway, do you think she's a bad mom? what should i do? i cry all the time cause i wish i had a life/friends :/&& i'm not allowed to date, i know that's not a big deal cause alot of kids my age arent either (though they all do :p) i'm like, not allowed to date EVER, she says im supposed to live with her untill i "find a husband when youre at least 25" (i dont want to get married thank you, she got a complete 1950's mindsetting) she says dating is of the devil? how the fuck am i supposed to "find a husband" i dont want to what so ever but i dont understand her logic? honestly i've writen i hate mom all over my journals since i was 8 years old :/ so i dout (spelling, sorry) that it's a teenage "i hate my parents" thing@logan haha no sadly this is real, and erm i said she sleeps that much, i dont :p@mr warrior, uhm, technicly, my dad pays for the internet, (could you not tell she doesnt have a job if all she does is sleep?) anddd bahaha NO actually the school taught me how to read k-2nd grade? and i've tought myself to type, e.e thanks more

Open Question: What dog breed would best suit my personality/lifestyle?

I have been doing heaps of research and I honestly haven't found a breed that 'fits'. They say that you should get a dog closest to your personality. Like my friend, she is a loud, passive aggresive, large (personality and weight) and she got this Koolie/Collie thing, sweet and eager to please. In other words they just don't work together. The collie wants to be patted and is very affectionate, loving and wants to please, but if my friend finds her annoying at times, she will correct her with her big loud passive aggresive personality, which the collie doesnt take too well, she is amazingly submissive and confused. I am quietly confident, I am a loner but I want to be one. I hate being forced into a big social occaision, especially when the other person or people are really loud or really arrogant/B*tchy. That being said around people or friends I know, I am very hyper. I dont have any BFF's because I am very untrusting towards,...anyone. I will not open up to people. I guess i'm more of a observer rather than a get involved-er. I am also very active, so an exercise partner would be good. So what breeds would suit my personality and lifestyle? They have to be big. ( now I know that getting a certain breed doesn't guarantee personality. Certain breeds have certain traits. Like the shar pei is fully guard dog, very suspicious of strangers. I know these are generalisations but I honestly am stuck in the bred department. I know I want a big dog that has a nice long coat )oh yea, no labradors/ crosses. Never ever met one ive likedI want a dog with a long coat that needs alot of grooing. They look better too. more

Open Question: Will he ever regret what hes done?!?

i split up from my 8 month relationship as to cut a long story short he lied to me about everything, from his job to where he was living to impress me and he msgd girls behind my back..i believe he never cheated but msgin is still as good as cheating to me. i lost all trust and walked away back to my ex, he hated this and turnt nasty calling me names, saying he hates me, im a bed hopper, all i was good for was sex, it was all my fault etc, hes a player and i think im the first girl to actually walk away from him and this hit him hard, well the split up has been draggin on for nearly 7 weeks, i did the no contact and he would start messaging me sayin he misses me and loves me and will i give him another chance, then as soon as i reply to one of his messages he flipped and turnt nasty again was this just to reel me back in? well weve argued so much about everything he expects me to just drop what hes done and have a clean slate which i cant do as he has never proven he was sorry, i asked to meet him the other day for one last goodbye for closure and i was hoping for a nice message back but nope i got a nasty one back saying im taking the piss out of him and iv had my chances etc he twists everything so i just completely ignored him so later that night he messaged again sayin im the one playing games and he had someone else over today and he doesnt miss me or have feelings for me anymore and to fuck off etc so i carried on ignoring him and now i feel iv ruined being in control of the situation and the ball being in my court, i feel now hes done this hes forgotten about what damage he has really done and that he wont regret it in the future as i havent heard from him since where as before he was upset he lost me etc and said he would never fall in love again and now hes angry at me like ive done something wrong and hes the victim and tried to make it look like hes walked away from me...is this just another one of his games? will he message me in a few days or do u think this is it now? i do miss him the old him so much hes a different person now and i just want him to realise what hurt he has caused me thats all but hes been so nasty did i let the break up drag on too long for his to regret?! please help! more

Open Question: someone has accused me of benefit fraud...got customer compliance officer coming im terrified?

some nasty person has phoned the benefit fraud line on me, saying im not a single parent and my bf lives here which he doesnt...im terrified its in a week..i didnd sleep a wink last night....i have severe mental illness and my bf has epilepsy we look after each other...he lives with his mum but stays over to look after me and i help him...ive told the dla this and he has...and now this...im so scared im off to the psyc hospital this morning as know im on verge of having breakdown as this is final nail in the coffin for me as got terminally ill father....i know its my next door neighbour as he hates me for being out of work and hates kids.....has anyone else been in similar circumstance....please help me more

Open Question: How can I describe my character's smile?

So it's three in the morning, and I've been writing for about an hour now, and I've come upon a bit of a problem: I'm too tired to think coherently, but I'm too sick to go to sleep (I have a cold, I can't stop coughing). So that leaves me sitting here frustrated because I can't figure out how to describe my character's smile. Let me describe him to you: His name is Christopher. He's tall(ish), he's well-mannered (the book has a bit of an Old English feel to it, so it's prim and proper), he's smooth (for lack of a better word), he's charming, and he looks my main character in the eye, which is something no one ever does (her eyes are coloured, no one else's are- I know it's been done before, but it's not the basis of my plot, so I don't mind). So my main character, London, is flustered, nervous, and feeling very vulnerable, but also slightly intrigued. She's described him as "mysterious". Now let me fill you in a little more (I know, I've been told I give too many details, but...it's 3:10AM now, I'm tired): London, after meeting Christopher for the first time, was utterly confused and distracted. When Christopher left and another boy went to introduce himself to her (oops, forgot the setting: it's a dinner/dance party thrown for her by her father, the King, even though she hates socializing), London didn't hear a word he said and left him standing alone in the middle of a crowd. Now (hey, I'm actually skipping some details, believe it or not!) Christopher is kind of making fun of her (jokingly, not meanly), and he SMILES. So far I have crinkled eyes that lit up, and that's about it. I got stuck when I tried to describe his cheeks. I don't want them to be dimpled, but is there another way I can describe them? And what do you think- crooked smile? Normal smile? Charming, cute, cocky? I'm willing to give him a cocky smile, but he isn't a pr*ck. He's kind of like Ricky Ricardo from I Love Lucy, he's just better looking and he doesn't break out into song. And although there is a little romance, this wouldn't be put in the romance section if it were published. It's more of a fantasy adventure type story. So...yeah. Help? more

Open Question: could someone revise this paragraph for me please =]?

Boys don't cry is the movie i decided to watch for my reaction paper.Th reason i choose the firmly boys don't cry with Hilary swank is because i was really interested in the topic of what a transgender person went through.I never watch a movie like that and got my attention.Th movie was about a girl named Tenna Brandon but she only went by named brandon.She had everyone under the impression she was male not a female,she had always felt as she was born into the wrong sex.As the movie goes on Brandon falls in love with a girl named lanna.the problem is that he does not admit to her right way that she is really a female.After awhile Brandon admits to lanna she is really a girl but lanna doesn't mind at all she had already fallen in love with her.When lanna's friends find out that Brandon had been lying to them all that time they get super furious and to get back at her they brutally rape brandon.after all the dilemma Brandon and lenna decided they wanted to escaped all the drama and live a happy life together but that did not happened. Lotter and Nissen then find out that Brandon was staying at cadence house. they went there and shoot her in the head. .Brandon died in the scene and lanna was heartbroken. The movie ends with a letter Brandon wrote for lanna. 1.the first fact i learned from the movie is that people like Brandon go through alot of pain just for being themselves.they are not treated right at all. 2.second fact i learned was that some people have so much anger towards people that are transgender to the point they will killed an innocent person that haven't done anything to them. 3.I learned that people that are trangender people don't choose to be diffen They have always known their has been something different with them . I never knew that as strange as that sounds.i had a different point of view towards them but my opinion has totally change. 4.another fact i learned is that if u love someone you stick with them no matter what just like lanna did with Brandon she did not care. She knew she loved her eventhough she was a female. 5.Last thing i learned about the film was that not to judge no one by their sexuality but of what they are inside. no one deserves to be treated difrrent. My reaction about the film was that gender is not defined by whats between your legs.Its how you feel inside.I f someone feels they were born into the wrong sex.They should change it not matter what people say about them.i couldn't believe people saw being a transgender person as a deadly disease.It was shocking to see the hate towards them.It made me furious and confused that someone will kill a innocent person. Now i see how a transgender person fights for their rights and what they believe for.At first i did not understand the topic of transgender but now i do i have a really different point of view.i respect their courage. more

Open Question: Why is it that no matter what I do...?

The breakup with my ex almost a year and a half ago still bothers me. Sure, she broke up with me on my birthday, after over 2 years of dating. Sure, she started dating again within a week (with the guy she basically cheated on me with). Sure, I went through months of hell with nightmares and other issues. But, by now, shouldn't it not affect me anymore? I have an amazing and wonderful girlfriend now. I am getting good grades. I feel much better than I ever did when I was dating her. But, every mention of her or something, I feel like my stomach is being ripped out of me. The few times I have stumbled across pictures of her (Like on my photobucket or computer itself) I feel an adrenaline rush and I want to punch something. Usually, it leads to dreams about her, which I promptly wake up from, but it still leads to a restless night. What is wrong with me? The enough time has passed, and everything is much better than it was beforehand. I have heard that no matter what, the first love is almost impossible to be completely gotten over. She was not only my first love, but my very VERY first relationship. It lasted over 2 years, and within those two years were amazing times with her, even with the couple problems we encountered. As you can imagine, it was also my first breakup, which I know is difficult by itself, but considering the circumstances of why it happened, it felt about 50x worse. Could that be what it is? Just the first love issue? Or is there something else? Before you say that you think I still love her, know this...Even if I was single and desperate, and she was in the same state, I would NOT, for ANY reason, take her back. The amount of pain she put me through warrants complete isolation from her (Which I have tried, and she has tried to become friends again). I know I don't love her anymore. I borderline hate her. I hate who she has become. I could not take her back, even as a friend. I just want to know...Is this normal? Is this just an extreme case? What the hell is wrong with me...Why can't I just stop acting this way whenever she is mentioned? more

Open Question: please help me i feel helpless?

hi !...i am a girl of 11th science in india n hav realli tough studies ...maybe thats one reason of me feeling down ...my parents are really supportive n i think my family life is only the best part of life .. it not that i dont have many friends but i kinda feel alone and down..me and my best friend dont interact much she has got her 12th n things seem different i think she dosent care n seems the friendship seems dull now ...i got many other friends but as ive changed the school i dont have much face 2 face contact with them ...i cry a lot wen i am alone n feel miserable many times ..they are many jealous girls around me and few fake people ..but seens like evil wins over good !!... i just stay homw studing and wasting time ..i dont roam and all ..but ive been waiting for life to be a bit intresting ..i am very happy go luck when i am not alone !!..n even very cheerful ...i am sooooooooo boared with life and i hate to just sit n sit ...and i roam and all my friends do stay a bit far away n the others who roam are quite big flirts !!!>....i am soo .pissed off ..n just cant get to know what to do .....help !!!!!!!!!........... :'( more

Open Question: Why do my boyfriends always really like me at first, but end up hating/breaking up with me later?

I don't understand what it is...at first, a boyfriend will always want to be around me, want to see me everyday, and everything is amazing...and after a while, he'll end up trying to get out of seeing me as often (but in a roundabout way), start to show signs that he dislikes me, tells me that I 'try to make him feel guilty', and then he'll blatantly dislike me and finally, he'll break up with me. One boyfriend even cheated on me, and we stayed together but he broke up with me 3 times much later in the relationship. What is wrong with me? How is it that I make people feel guilty, which apparently forces them to do what I want, even if they don't want to, and how is it that I don't see myself doing this? I don't mean to make people feel obligated to do anything they don't want to, I don't even notice if/when I actually do this...so how do I stop it?? And how do I stop making my boyfriends hate me? ...I'm beginning to believe that it's not possible for people to stay in love with me, and that I'm supposed to live life single and without a partner...how can I fix this? SHOULD I fix this? Or should I just let it be? I'm in a relationship right now for slightly over 1 year, and I feel like he's starting to try to stop hanging out with me, but is still beating around the bush about it...I'm afraid he's going to start getting to the point where he blatantly tells me he doesn't want to see me, and that we're headed for a breakup (him breaking up with me, of course). Please help me fix this before it gets to that point =( more

Open Question: Having issues with my insecure mother!?

Where do i start .. My mother divorced my father 11 years ago. I have recently started having a relationship with him. My mother told me he left because he didn't love us kids anymore and that he didn't want to be a father and husband. I have always believed her because I didn't know who my father was. She told me though most of my life how of an a** he was and how much she hated him and talked down on him to us kids. Which made us think he was a really bad person. He never made an effort to be apart of our lives till this past Christmas. Now my mother is throwing things in my face, i cant believe that you would do this to me, your choosing him over me, your only talking to him for his money, saying really hurt full things to me about him and the choice i made to make him apart of my life. She is also pushing things on my 4 year old son, that she still loves him and that he will miss him and she will always be thinking of him (like shes never going to see him again). I have had long talks with her that im not choosing one over the other, and that I want to know his side of the story on why he left and didn't make any effort. She still doesn't understand. I would like some advice on what to do. And or if you have been in this kind of situation. more

Open Question: what am i doing wrong?

Im not really looking for advise but i guess i need to get it out somewhere so this will be the place and any input will be greatly appreciated. I am a young man in my late 20's and single, i have not dated women in a while as i dedicated most of my 20's trying to make a career of my life and fighting to write the wrongs that iv suffered in my life. I was last in a relationship 5 years ago which lasted 3yrs the relationship ended quiet badly and i latter learnt that the girl i was so dearly fond of was gay. Even though im still friends with this girl i had since destined to never be that emotionally involved with anybody, thus my present issue. Now that iv got my studies aside and working iv been trying to date as much as i can but for some unknown reason women seem to show interest at first contact but seem to repel when ever i approach them and even though i consider myself an average looking guy women just don't seem to have an appeal for me, well the funny thing is that women that im not attracted to always seem to go head over heals for me which is kind of frustrating for me coz i really hate breaking the heart of a person that i have no feelings for. I guess the big question is how does one strike that balance where they meet a person with a common attraction, at least to give it a try and see how it works,i seem to always meet these women that always give this excuse that they are already in relationships so at this point im Pretty much meeting already involved people or pretend to be. more

Open Question: feeling weird, guilty and anxious...?

I did something today i regret. i had sex w/ a friend that i really regret doing. we only did it for 5 min and then stopped and i went home cause i was uncomfortable. now it's 3 hours later.. I took a xanax just now cause i felt really anxious. I hate this feeling and I don't know how to get rid of it. more

Open Question: I dreamed about her twice in two nights?

I didn't want to get into too much detail, but I used to be close to this girl. I never really appreciated her then and never made a move. She now has a boyfriend who she loves and they have been going out for 6 months. IDK, I guess I never got over her completely, but I have fallen for her. I've been somewhat depressed and hated myself for not appreciated her. Im better now, but like I said, I haven't gotten completely over her. We still talk, she just avoids me alot since she knows I have feelings for her. Well, last night and the night before I dreamed about her. The first one, I went to her house, and we went for a walk. then a big storm was coming, and we ran for my car, then I woke up. The second dream, I didn't remember much, but I do remember dreaming about her, we hugged or something, or I just saw her. IDK, this never happened to me before, dreaming about someone twice in a row. Does anyone know what this can mean? I havent talked to her in about a week. I am 18 and so is she.I try so hard not to think about her, why do I dream about her now? Is this a test of focus? To just swallow this pain and desire and ignore it? more

Open Question: Do I trust the school or should I just stand on my own?

I am in a school district that is strapped. When I first started I was a mom who volunteered for 2 years. I have been working as an aid for this school this school year and all the people that I have been close as a volunteer have been hating on me. I have gotten over the haters but now it is time for the budget and I see one of my main haters trying to take my salary. How do I deal with this diplomatically?. more

Open Question: very sad... i really need help right now?

I know this is long and i apologize for that. Okay i am very sad and have been for about 5 years, i am on anti-depressants and am seeing a psychiatrist, i wish i wasn't so sad all the time. I Absolutely hate life and myself. I am a 18 year old girl, i'm fat (5' 4 and 240lbs), and not attractive obviously, i've tired to diet multiple times i lose 10-20 lbs but then i gain it back. I feel so bad and out of place when i hang out with my friends because they are all thin and pretty. I have never had a boyfriend and am a virgin, my friends all have someone who loves them and i feel i will never have that and if some guy ever does lower his standards enough to be with me i already know it would be an abusive relationship because i don't respect myself so why would he? My friends, all of which, are younger than me who have ALL had boyfriends and have had sex. When they complain about their boyfriends it makes me angry because i just think "well at least you f*cking have a boyfriend be thankful for that". I have never had a job and I can't get a job in my town because of the economy. i cut myself but haven't done it in a couple of months. i pretend to be happy for my friends' sake, they all know i suffer from depression and i have talked to some of them when i have felt depressed before, for 5 years they've always told me it'll get better but how do they know? they're younger than me! how do they expect me to believe that line of BS. But i feel i can't talk to them anymore because i feel i am pushing them away and i know they are getting tired of me being this way, as am I. Also i can't call a suicide hotline because it would show up on my cell phone bill and my parents would see it. My family is okay, i guess, but my bro makes me hate life and myself because he is always putting me down. So i am alone, broke, and depressed. I feel like i have nothing to live for. I am probably too scared to actually kill myself but i'm so tired of my sh*tty life. What do i do? thanks for reading and your answers, i appreciate it. Oh and don't tell me to find god or whatever, I am a atheist and there's no changing my mind. I gave up on the hope of there being a god a long time ago. thanks again. more

Open Question: Should I just say F! the world?

I am tired of being this way, i am soooo Happpy beyond belief, charismatic, just great to be around, fast forward to like two hours and i am a complete and utter mess. I have crazy mood swings that have been getting worse. i am happy, then i wanna die. I have no aspiration right, really. It's just I don't want anything. I am single, i broke up with her. There is a new girl who has entered my life at just the right time. She is amazing, she cooks for me, we can talk for hours. Really the most amazing girl i have ever met. Well almost. When i say i have lost all aspiration i mean I train MMA and that was my only savior before but now I seem to be losing that, with all this shit going on in my head, i can't focus, I just wanna graduate and Move away from everyone, i am moving to Wisconsin away from California I hate it here. i hate the people, the scene, everything. I never tell anyone my problems but I have begun to tell the girl I met, and she tells me hers as well. I know i am moody because I my Zodiac Sign is Cancer. But I just can't stop the voices and the feeling of dread and the thoughts of death and the VOICES! i feel like i am losing my mind slowly like i am in a slow moving elevator and every floor is another piece of my head going away. i have friends i guess, a few. I work out constantly but even my body is weird, I seem to be getting bigger and bigger and i just jumped up to lifting 205lbs. But even lifting doesn't make me happy. All I think about is it all being over (school that is) I want this girl so bad! but i am also happy being single. Not to mention my mind withering away. So what should I do people that I haven't thought of myself? Should i just say Fuck it and live life like i have been, not caring and letting whatever happen happen. Right now i feel like if i died i wouldn't mind. In fact the other day I thought of my old gf who killed herself and it was like it was all happening again I couldn't breathe and i just cried for hours. I want to dream Like i used to but my sleep is blackness these days. Dreams used to console me. Someone give me advice before I lose my mind completely. more

Open Question: How do I get myself out of an emotionally abusive situation?

I'm in high school and although I am well liked and accepted by the "popular group" at my school, I am a very shy person who finds it difficult to reach out and get close to other people. I have many acquaintances but have never had more than a few good friends at a time. Right now, my "best friend" of four years is pretty much the only close friend that I talk to at school (I have a few other friends that attend different schools). My family has always disliked her but when I first met her, I liked the fact that she was blunt and confident and always stated her honest opinion while most of my other classmates couldn't even form an opinion. Slowly, over the years, the traits that I once found endearing have become toxic. It's hard to explain because her cruelest tactics have a lot to do with disgusted/unamused facial expressions, sarcastic/snotty tone of voice, and uncomfortable/unavailable posture. There are so many things that I can't even name them all but: she never greets me or says "hi" and always waits for me to say it, she won't walk with me in the halls and instead will walk fast to get in front of me, she refuses to give me eye contact when we're talking, she always has her arms crossed and never wants to associate with me in front of other people. She also says weird things sometimes like she calls me "little mae" as a sort of nickname, she jokes that I need to hold someone's hand while crossing the street and that my mommy has to make my lunch for me (as if I'm not capable of doing it myself), she always does this thing where if I say something really basic like "wow the car's really dirty, I need to go get it washed." she'll be like "well NORMAL people get a bucket and wash it themselves!" or "NO ONE gets their car washed, EVERYONE gets a bucket and washes it themselves!" (as if she's talked to absolutely everyone in the world and i'm this freak who never talks to anyone and doesn't know anything. she does this ALL the time!). Or I'll say that I like something and she'll say "I hate that." and walk away and then the next period, another girl will say she likes that SAME thing and suddenly my "best friend" says "oh my gosh, me too!" and smiles and laughs. If I say that I really like a new shirt that I bought, she'll say something like "Do you think you look pretty in that?" or ask kind of degrading questions that I don't know how to answer. She also has really weird hangups about food and often makes comments about how I'm going to get fat if I keep eating certain things (I have a bmi of 19, and don't look very plump). She always makes fun of me for having small boobs (she has DD's and is bigger boned than me) and sometimes I pretend to laugh along while she insults me (I hate it when I do but I just don't want to cause a fight!). A few days ago, we accidentally wore the same sweater to school and she asked me to call my mom to have her bring me a change of clothes, when I said no because my mom is busy just like her parents and why should I have to change and it's not the end of the world anyways, she told me that she couldn't sit by me in any of our classes and excluded me for the rest of the day. It feels like she'll find anyone to talk to or sit by besides me, she even turns her head away from me so she doesn't have to talk or look at me. Sometimes, we'll go almost an entire day without talking (we have 3 classes together). I guess I must have just made excuses for her (oh, she's just having a bad day, she's just tired, pms-ing, she's not being intentionally hurtful...) but now that I stop to think about it, I am amazed that I've been able to last this long. She says that she's my best friend, and she really can make me feel like a million dollars some days (or I wouldn't still stick around and try to make it work), but I'm always on edge. I'm always wondering if this is going to be a "good day" or a "bad day" and always asking myself what I did wrong or what I can do to make her happier or make her laugh to put her in a good mood. I'm not even living for me anymore, I'm living to please someone that, I'm starting to realize, can't be pleased. But now I don't know what to do, I've just become so isolated over the years: I sit alone in an empty room with just her at lunch and I'm so scared that I won't have any friends and will be completely alone and even more unhappy if I leave her, but this sick little game that she plays is not okay. I know I'm not a freak, the way she treats me, it's hard to believe that I don't have some kind of contagious disease, but I know that I'm not completely socially retarded. I'm suffocating. Please help me! more

Open Question: I think my brothers a sociopath. what should i do?

for those of you that don't really know what a "sociopath" is, please know that this is a serious question and I'm looking for a serious answer. When I was a kid my older brother treated my like crap and I've hated him for the way he made me feel for many years. As i got older (I'm 20 now) I did some research for a school project on sociopaths and noticed there were many symptoms of sociopaths that he shared (no compassion for others, no sense of what is morally right and wrong, limited expression of normal human feelings). I don't want to go into details, but I have strong reason to believe these statements are true. also, I have never seen him do one good act unless it would benefit himself. I know some people can be selfish, but this extremity seems a little off... however, I somehow feel like the way he acted towards me was maybe not his fault and that my feelings of hate were misguided. If he truly is a sociopath (which cannot be cured), then what should I do? should I just try and avoid him all together? or should I try to accept him for who he is and try to love him all the same? after all, he is still my brother. I'm very confused and worried, someone please help. more

Open Question: myspace is hard to log onto at school so i'm writing this here?

If i could take it all back I wouldn't change a thing Let me show you how my love has changed. Here is my diary. this is for my personal benefit, don't read if you don't care. Journal Entry December 9th, 2008 5:20 pm "I just got asked out by the best guy in the whole world i'm so happy, I can't stop smiling. I've liked him for a pretty long time now. I just have a feeling, this is it, he's the one. :)" Journal entry January 3rd 2009 "...I basically made him break up with me, why? why? why can't I ever let myself have something I love? I did everything on purpose, I pushed his every button, waiting for him to break up with me. I guess I did it, so no one would hurt in the end. but the only one hurting is me. I fell harder than i've ever imagined. I just want him to take me back." Journal Entry Febuary 14th 2009 "this was supposed to be our day. I fucked it up all over again." Journal Entry March 23rd 2009 "Shoot me." Journal Entry May 3rd 2009 "FUCK THEM, FUCK THEM ALL. i'm tired of tears, of misery, i'm tired of BULLSHIT! I fucking hate everything about this fucking school about this fucking life! I hate him! ....god dammit. I love him." Journal Entry August 4th 2009 "it's my birthday, and he's still on my mind. Don't worry. It will all be over soon." Journal Entry October 4th 2009 "I'm going out with Ruben. Thought it would help me move on Too bad all I want is you." December 9th 2009 "i bet he doesn't remember at all. this has been one year of mistakes The first mistake made was hugging him and letting go." Journal Entry December 25th 2009 "all i want for christmas is for you to be happy." Journal Entry January 1st 2010 "who would have known i'd be here, still more in love than ever to this very day, now. A year ago, i could have fixed everything. If I could go back, i'd change it all." Journal Entry January 15th "Diary, prepare yourself. I'm spilling my guts. I know this boy. He is the most important person in my life. I love him more than most anyone could ever imagine. I think i'm pretty damn lucky. I'm 14 years old, and i've been in, and all around love. But I fell in love when I was still only 13. I guess I just didn't notice it yet. Before I even start, let me tell you how beautiful this boy is. Picture the most gorgeous person you know, and multiply that by a million. That's how beautiful he is. Every single aspect of him is perfection. He just shines with a radiance that makes your heart fall. He's a breathtaking kind of wonderful, My kind of wonderful. Now let's try to get a glimpse of exactly how much I love him. I love this boy more than i've ever loved someone. I'd give my life for him in a second. Anything to keep him safe and happy. I love him just a bit more everytime he pops into my mind. He deserves every single bit of everything. Everything his little heart could ever want. He's a part of me now, he has a hole in me. A hole I thought I could fill up with someone or something else, but I couldn't. Because this hole only molds perfectly with the presence of him. Ha, i love him. I love him so much. Now, let me clarify. If he needs me by his side, i'll be there before he could ask. If he wants me gone, I would be gone before he could complain. And let me clarify, He makes me the happiest, person in the world. He's the best. But I sware I hate his guts. Confused? good. now you're caught up on my level." Journal entry February 14th 2010 "a year ago... fuck it. There's no use in living in the past." Journal Entry February 21st 2010 "He brought me through hell and back, but also through Heaven, through a paradise, that I thought would never leave. But then.. here I am long gone. I learned he is nothing but a hollow empty shell of a person. I know why I loved him. I know why I fell in love with him. There was a sparkle to his eyes, a warmth to his smile. He made me feel, secure. He was the first person to ever make me feel.. happy. It's all gone now. He's empty and sad. There's no pure happiness left in him. I look at him now, and I see the smile on his face, and hear the laughter that rings through the room. But that doesn't fool me. He's not happy, If you think he is.. take another look. I wish I could help him. But I don't love him anymore. I'm completely in love with the way he used to be. who he used to be.. THAT boy, is the boy I never want to let go of. that's the boy that's a part of me. there used to be a beautiful ray of sunshine that followed him every where he went. He was the smile when everyone was sad. The hope when everyone gave up. Now he's the one who's given up. He gave up a long time ago. there's no saving him now. I wish I could bring back the sparkle to him. I will always love him just for being him. always. Because, he was my first and only love, and you don't forget people like him, he's to special. I will always give my life for his in an instant. I wil more

Open Question: why is she doing this?

well this is what happened... we were friends then i started to like her then i asked her to the movies she couldnt go, she didnt show nay interest so i let it go that was last year this year she found out i liked her friend and just blurted it and now her friend hates me, she showed more interest so i asked her to the movies cause we were all going and she said she had a boyfriend, about a week ago at lunch she made her boyfriend move so i could sit next to her, now she has been trying tembarrassss me every day so what do you think is up With her? btw i do like her stillshe asked out her friend for me i didnt even get a chance to answerask her rather more

Open Question: What should I do about my friends? HELP ME PLEASE!?

Ok, so I go to an all girls grammar school, so there's loads more b*****s than you'd find in a normal school. Two of my friends have started arguing there's four of us so I'll give us names : I'll be Bobbette, then they can be freda, creda and linda. Me and linda went to primary school together and we were inseparable,we still are. But freda and creda have got into a pointless argument over nothing, its been going for 3-4 months now and it drives me insane. I get really, really upset, I keep crying and sometimes I get angry and hurt myself. I think about ditching them, but how would I do that without linda? She doesn't mind them arguing, as long as she herself has friends but i would rather they hated me than hated each other. I wouldn't have anywhere to go. Apparently me feeling just a little bit suicidal isn't important enough for them to even TRY to stop bickering over nothing, that's right in four months, they haven't even tried. It's not just me, everyone in our form thinks they're being ridiculous. This one girl noticed I was really sad and asked me why, when I told her she sighed and was like are they STILL arguing? that's so stupid they've been going on about nothing since november! Its their birthdays soon and I know how I'm gonna feel. So what can I possibly do? more

Open Question: Do they still make generic gel plug ins?

Years ago, lots of brands from Renuzit to various generic made those little scented gel plug in refills. Nowadays it seems only Glade makes them and I think they may even be phasing them out altogther for the strangely more popular oil plug-ins. I HATE the oil ones - the scent is too intense and the bottles leak. I prefer the gel as it gives off a subtle scent but they have discontinued many scents and now apparently only offer about 5 or 6 total. Strangely they discontinued plain vanilla which I would have thought would be popular. (It is available in the oil refill and air freshner spray.) Does anybody know if any other companies other than glade, make those gel plug-in refills? Or did Glade force the generic companies to stop making them due to a copyright thing? Searched eBay last week and could not find any of the discontinued vanilla gel plug ins so I thought maybe I could find some generic ones somewhere or something. more

Open Question: this boy i know got raped by his dad and the mother didnt report it. why cant i stop thinking about this?

So my mother in laws cousins son got raped by his dad the boy even told his mom and he but was sore and he was even bleeding he is about 9 or 10 the mother didn't even call the police and this happend a year ago, any ways she is won't admit it she blames it on her dad and says her own dad raped her son when her son is 9 and I don't think he is confused and knows perfectly fine that his dad raped him and not his grandpa. Anyways it just makes me so mad it doesn't even matter who did what matters is her son got raped and she didn't even do anything about it and the whole family knoes and no one ever did anything about it, she is still with her husband and the poor boy has to live with him, I hate this I can't stop thinking about it and how I my self should have reported it but I don't really know them where they live or there names. Its ben a year I think its to late now right? I mean there would be no evidence and every one would not admit to it, they are mexicans and I know many family members of them would be to scared to say anthing. more

Open Question: my gf and best friend whos is a girl hate each other?

my gf and i are very close been together a year but my best friend is a gril. my gf doesnt like her and my frind doesnt like her but they dont have a real reason why. only thing is my best friend and me have dated before but we are just really good friends right now. my gf thinks she still has feeling for me but i dont know what to do, help? more

Open Question: I want imeem Back Do You?

this is upsetting me, imeem is now part of MySpace Music and i hate it, all of my favorite songs that i created on imeem can not be found and most of my favorite songs/playlist are not on MySpace music. what were they thinking? i think its better if all the sites stay seperated instead of mixing up. more

Open Question: I feel ineffectual, unimportant, worthless and ANGRY--gonna be long?

My ex of 1 week had been sneaking around with my best friend (now ex best friend) of 8 years for a lot of the time we were dating, and I asked him to choose between us and he chose her, but that group of friends (HIS group of friends) is all I have in life, and so we're still gonna be friends but now I have to watch them be together. Of COURSE I feel like no one cares about me, these people, supposedly people who cared about me the MOST, have PROVEN that they don't give a fuck about me. I swear, no one's ever bothered apologizing to me about anything. No one cares if they lose me. And worse, he believes every lie she's told. I showed him texts she sent, manipulating me and emotionally abusing me, and he still acted like he just didn't see it. Our other mutual friend totally took HER side too (my ex best friend's side). For some reason, I still love him, even though he probably hates me and LOVES my ex best friend, the WORST CASE SCENARIO. And there's nothing I can do about any of this and none of these people care about me AT ALL. Don't say 'find new friends' cuz I've tried that 90000000 times, and all they ever do is betray me. I ALWAYS end up getting hurt and crushed. There's never anything good, and the better anything eventually becomes, the harder the situation comes crashing down on me. There's NOTHING I can do and it kills me, it kills me to see them together and it kills me that my own boyfriend and best friend didn't think I was worth even one sacrifice. And they're happy with EACH OTHER. RUINING EVERYTHING. She ALWAYS has taken everything from my life and I have solid proof of this; people see it and want to act like they don't! I see their relationship status and burst into tears. Why...why can't she just stop? She's horrible. She's horrible and he's horrible. They ruined my whole life and now I'm depressed, in unrequited love, lonely as fuck and always having to WATCH them together, it sickens me. I feel like I need an escape, FAR AWAY, but I'm not going anywhere--I can't--there's no possible way. I just need to get AwAY. Far far away, because even though I've stopped contact with her, there's no way she will EVER just LEAVE MY LIFE ALONE. What the fuck can I do? I'm desperate, I can't even taste anymore, nothing seems complete without him but he doesn't give a fuck about me, and he DOES give a fuck about her! Which is way worse! Someone help me pleaseyes i would, sadly. and i cant get away..same school...but i NEED TO GET AWAY more

Open Question: Would you take me back after this?

for background info..we have had a relationship for a while since 7th grade, we're in 11th now. it was only "official" last year tho that doesnt change how we felt..anyway in short: i cheated on her, i finally told her after a few months, she kissed one of her guy friends on the cheek and i told her i didnt like her doing that, we had a lil argument about that cuz i know it wasnt anything but yeah we made up but then we started having a convo about cheating in general, then i finally admitted to her i cheated. she broke up with me after a couple days but then we were off and on (never "officialy" dating again) but we were dating of and on for three months. she finally suddenly decides she doesnt even wanna be friends. so we ignore eachother for like 2 weeks (we go to highschool together) then we start talking again for about a week and now today she decides she doesnt even want friendship. i emailed this to her, do u think this will help her understand i still care about her and really value at least a friendship? i changed the names btw I had a dream. Well idk if it was a dream cuz I dozed off but it was a thought.. And it made me think what would I be without the things that are important to me…so I cant let myself lose anything important to me, and I cant just allow someone like you to slip away from my life. isabella, u really were like everything to me and if I hav to lose 99% of that through our relationship I just want to be cordial and friendly with you. The only thing I know is that I did something terrible to u which caused u to not even want to be friends with me but the fact is that even though I can get over you too, im always gonna have a little love for u deep down. You’re such a smart, gorgeous and caring girl like no other and you know there could be no one who thinks that more than I did and still do now. Its just that I hated seeing you have to get me out of your life when we were being friends. And then with you saying we could try to be friends but then wanting this again makes me just have to ask you, please don’t force us to hate each other like this. As we’ve seen, we can be friends and I know we are able to but just I hate to see you make us be this way even though it doesn’t have to be like this. I know that there is some part of you that considers friendship which is why you’re always in a dilemma about it. The fact is that I still do love you from deep down. The same as since we first danced together in 7th grade to “time of your life”, the same as when we first kissed, the same as when I asked you out, and the same as the day you left me… all I know is that you can take my hand, we can start again and we could be everything u wanted to be. I can show u what love is really all about but even more importantly, u have my loyalty as a friend. . Just please open up to it, I swear to you it will not hurt you at all. -your friend joe sorry for such a long question, i just had to put in the details. please answer thank you! i really like this girl more

Open Question: Why is everyone always trying to attack me?

Verbally, physically, psychologically....it makes me feel really bad, about myself, about the world, about everything. I wanted to die today because I've had enough. I am SICK of being treated badly. And then I try to make it better, try to explain myself and be overly nice to people so that they don't hurt me, and they do it anyway. And people who are in a power position....people I can't just hit in the face to make them shut it about me...they make me feel so helpless and stupid and I HATE it. And because of what other people say and do to me, I attack myself as well. It's so hard for me to respect myself when I'm always around people who disrespect me. I want to respect myself...but it's so hard when everyone is trying to destroy me. I want to destroy myself now too. more

Open Question: wat exactly would you call him?

me and my friend are extremely close. we've known eachother for a year and a half and iim thankful i have him because he's honestly the only true friend i've ever had. when we first met, i had some serious space issues. . . i wouldnt let him within 3 feet of me. and even then he felt too close. he just thought it was funny, seeing as every other girl was always hugging him or hangin on him. he put up with my silly rules about not touching me when he handed me things, and sitting at LEAST three feet away. i told him things that would have scared away any other person, and he told me things that were just as bad. he's put up with me longer than anyone else has, and been there for me in some of my worse times. and i think its safe to say he doesnt mind. we've only had one argument. if you can even call it that. and when we're around eachother we're always giggling and having an awesome time. i cant stay mad at him. when he hurts, i hurt, and when he's happy, iim ecstatic. of course now i dont mind if he's close. i dont feel awkward or anxious when he is. actually, i want him closer. i mean, lets get this straight, i dont want any kind of sensual/sexual relationship with the guy. but i wanna sit closer to him on the couch. i wanna lay my head on his shoulder when we're watching a movie. i want him to put his arm around me when we're walkin. but how do you do that. how do you get closer to someone who knows you well enough to know ur acting different. i dont want him to think iim in love with him like all those other girls... i love him to death. but not like that. i just. its complicated. anyone have any advice? p.s. please no hate mail. or one worded answers.fuckk you okay? he's not gay.thank you shay!! that was by far the best answer ^^ *tacklehugs* more

Open Question: I need help really bad!?

okay well my birthday is next Wednesday! i hate growing up and I'm not looking forward to this. Well one because, I'm getting my hair done for my b-day! but I'M paying for it! and I'm going to the movies. ALONE because all my friends are busy. Well i know this guy..... were kinda like bestfriends.. well I was kinda hoping he could make my birthday better. so i told him whats wrong and he just said "Oh thats to bad sweety" and i guess i just wanted his "magic" answer to make everything okay! but i dont get those anymore. hes my ex and we dated for 3 years but now we are just really good friends. well i still love him cause hes my first love and he still loves me but we are not getting back into all that mess... and hes left alot and so have i. so i dont want him to leave again by me telling him hes let me down again! and complaining like a female! but it hurts so bad. so what do i do? do i tell him and risk him leaving? cause i know him and i know there is a big chance he'll leave..... p.s sorry my story really didnt go together lol. but i didnt know how else to explain it! so thanks!is that bad? more

Open Question: PREMATURE ORGASM AND EJACULATION?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

ok please dont block this because im really not trying to be gross im 19 (male) and im hooking back up with my ex gf, now she took my v card a year and a half ago, and so far things are going great again, but i remember there were times were i ejaculated prematurely and i couldnt help but get so embarrassed about it, i hate when it happens cause i feel so crappy afterwards, so what can i do to help this, cause when we are actually in bed again for the first time the last thing i would want to happen is that again, is there any logic or science about why this happens (and please dont say masturbate before hand cause then its just like whats the point) but someon please help because i know that we are going to get close soon more

Open Question: Why can't my parents support me and my ideas?

So I have "unorthodox" ideas. My parents and I are always disagreeing about situations and stuff like that. My arguments are apparently "out of the norm" and "don't make any sense" according to my parents. Since around 4th grade, I've always tried to stand up for myself and my "unorthodox" ideas. My parents roll their eyes and proceed to ground me after I argue about something that is bothersome to me or "doesn't make any sense" to me. For example, my parents make me do chores every day. I recognize its a normal thing that kids need to do, but I have two brothers as well. One is 11, and one is 9. I'm 12, and I do the piles of laundry every day, while my brothers do nothing at all, except for occasionally washing the dishes, but almost never. My mom said "do the laundry", while I said "Why don't my brothers do anything around the house? They're just as able as I am! They do nothing around the house." This proceeded with my brother (the 11 y/o) throwing food at me and saying "Hunter's revealing the truth again!". Now, my brother has Asperger's Syndrome. He gets these "spazzes" a lot, especially about me telling the "truth" to them. I think my parents have always treated him and my other brother better than me, even when I was their age. And what did my brother mean by "the truth?" Is he in cahoots with my mom and my dad? Now it seems like everybody is attacking me, my opinions, and my ideas. The worst part is that around 3rd-4th grade, I had a MAJOR lying problem, so of course my parents took action. But now they're getting all mad that I'm telling the truth now!! I'm irate! I hate it when people can't make up their minds. Sometimes when my dad doesn't like my opinions, he will sometimes "spit on me" with put downs and all. Once I took a whack at him, but I forgot that he was black belt in Karate. Never gonna do that anymore. Once I had to call a whole meeting with my mom, dad, and grandma (who is a psychiatrist) for a whole meeting on my "issues". My grandma kind of didn't want to say anything because she didn't want to take sides, but my mom and dad are always up on my case. I said "If you can't respect my opinions, then I'm afraid I can't respect yours". From this they got so mad, and then so on. There's not really any abuse in my family besides "oral abuse". And my dad is a lawyer so he'd probably have better judgment then to beat me. But I really wonder why they can't respect my ideas. My argument is that if they can't respect me, then I can't respect them. more

Open Question: What would you guys recommend for ear protection in jiu jitsu?

I've been in jiu jitsu for a while and i've started to go twice a day and I'm starting to feel a little tingly in my left ear. I really hate the look of headgear/ear-guards but i understand its necessary. Right now im looking at these two items The Brute Ultra Maxx http://www.sportsauthority.com/product/index.jsp?productId=718350&cp=694082&parentPage=family and the Matman Ultra Soft Head Gear http://www.teamsportsource.com/proddetail.php?prod=TS06080111 Any other recommendations? Preferrably something on the smaller(like way smaller) side :) HELP ME!!!!!!! =] more

Open Question: Why does my boyfriend want a few days apart?

I went over to his house yesterday and we werent really getting along. The night before last i wasnt telling him something that his sister said about him because i thought he might be mad so he said he was going to hang up and he was being difficult. I told him fine ok hang up then. He did lol. He has been so mad at me about that. Even though he has done that to me all the time, like the exact same thing. Only he does it to me ALL the time and i never do. I dont get mad and hangup though. Anyways yesterday we were pretty much butting heads at his house. He was tired and so was i. And we were just not getting along barely at all. When i went by today his house was locked and i went back to school. He wouldnt return any of my calls. I called him a lot yesterday and today and he just wouldnt pick up. I thought he was over everything by now cuz i am. Finally i talked to him tonight on im and he just said he thinks we need a couple days apart. I said ok and that id see him friday or next week. He said he thought monday would be best so we could have the weekend to think and be apart. Do you think hes thinking about breaking up with me? Also why do we need time apart. Its not like we got in that big of a fight. OH and just in case your wondering or you may think im clingy, Well believe me i am Definately not the clingy one in this relationship. He would Freak out if i couldnt come see him at lunch a lot and say things like how he hated his life and stuff. I always had something important to do or an excuse but today he didnt even have to do anything he just didnt want to see me. He thought i was being a smart ass the other day and maybe i was but HE was being just as bad. Also he kept like smacking my head(not hard) but on the forhead and it really pissed me off. He was just being an asshole and i was about to leave his house yesterday but i didnt because i didnt want to make him upset and all sad. Idk im just confused and wish i understood guys lol. Help me lol!:) pwease!He sais he loves me with all of his heart. He was the first one to say i love you. He said hed never give up on me and that he doesnt want anyone else. I irritate him sometimes and he understands thats just how i am. But the thing is today when i said i love you and ill see you monday. He just said Ok. He didnt even say i love you back or anything. Im really worried. If i lose him, then im done with love. Based on the answers im getting i bet he will break up with me. :( well life sucks more

Open Question: Think my Gf likes some other guy and is just using me? Should I break up?

I new her for around 8 months but only been dating 3. We liked each other since we met. She was on and off with a guy in a long term relationship who she says she still loves and would do stuff with me like hang or make out and what not when they where not dating and once while they still where. She also did stuff drunk with a few other guys 2 times when we both new we wanted to date each other at the times and felt bad after when she was sober which the first day we where dating she got drunk and cheated with a guy when I wasn't around so that mest that up but then months later are back together 3 months long. Shes also pregnant with her ex's kid. The first month or so we where dating we hung out 3-4 days a week watching movies or what not. Now the last month and half we hung only 2 times. Seems like she dont want to do nothing any more says shes tired a lot. Could it be just cause shes pregnant she dont feel like doing much all a sudden? Im paranoid we dot hang much now because she has her eyes on some one else or is just using me till her ex wants her back which he will. And she talks to guys still who tried to get with her or did get with her which makes me think she wants them I hate her talking to them. Am I just thinking to much and paranoid or should I break up with her? I don't really want to break up with her cause I like her a lot and if I broke up with her I dont know any other girls so it would probably be a year or 2 or more till I found another.I keep thinking about breaking up with her but then the thought of being alone pops in my head like I would be better off to have this than nothig. more