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Spain marks 6th anniversary of Madrid bombings - Denver Post

Across town, at a memorial site called the Forest of Remembrance, victims of the attack and people who lost relatives in it laid flowers at the foot of 192 olive and cypress trees—one for each fatality, and one for a special forces police officer ...

Community Calendar - Cumberland County Sentinel

Discover how to tell your family's unique story at 'Genealogoy - Unlocking Your Family History'. Deborah Sweaney, an amateur historian and genealogist from Carlisle, will teach how to search vital records, build your family tree and create new ...

Shock at charges against landlord in fatal fire - Chicago Breaking News - Tribune

Even those who lost relatives in a Cicero apartment building fire were stunned to hear that their landlord, along with the man who collected their rent, are accused of starting the blaze last month. "I couldn't believe it when they told me," said ...

Spain honors victims of Madrid train bombings on 6th ... - Chicago Tribune

MADRID (AP) — Parliament fell silent and Spaniards laid wreathes at memorial sites on the sixth anniversary of an Islamic terror attack that killed 191 people and wounded about 1,800. "Remembering saves us, and protects against a second crime ...

Vail Family Matters: Do a good deed, add an adventure - Vail Daily News

VAIL, Colorado — My family and I are coming to the end of ... not your own, but Max treated us like long-lost relatives and when he called on his way to the hospital after a skiing injury, we dropped everything to race there just as if he were our ...

Spain marks anniv. of Madrid bombings - WIVB

Across town, at a memorial site called the Forest of Remembrance, victims of the attack and people who lost relatives in it laid flowers at the foot of 192 olive and cypress trees — one for each fatality, and one for a special forces police officer ...

A momentous day for relatives of the Iraq fallen - The Independent

As The Last Post sounded, the wind that had buffeted the National Memorial Arboretum suddenly dropped and the billowing flags hung forlornly as heads were bowed in silence. Wave after wave of the families of those who perished in Iraq moved forward ...

Next On Oprah: The Diane Schuler Story... Was She ... - WSOC-TV

The Oprah Show is taking over Oscar's stage, the day after Hollywood’s biggest night. From the Kodak Theatre in Hollywood, we've got the big winners and all the excitement! Plus, our go-to guy, Nate Berkus, has an exclusive backstage pass to show ...

'The families are more interested in seeing Tony Blair ... - The Guardian

He said Reg Keys, Rose Gentle and members of more than 40 families who lost relatives in Iraq had come to hear Blair appear before the inquiry panel. "When Blair gave evidence, 3,500 people put their name down for tickets in the public ballot.

Gordon and Sarah Brown comfort families of Iraq war ... - Daily Mail

Gordon Brown and wife Sarah today comforted relatives at a memorial service for those who have died in the Iraq war. The poignant ceremony was held to rededicate a memorial wall to 179 people who lost their lives in Iraq following the 2003 invasion ...

Open Question: Feel like my life is over...any advice appreciated?

I live a self-centered life. I can compare myself to a black hole. The first reason for my self-centered life is my shyness which is a psychic problem rather than a spiritual problem. I am talkative when it comes to relatives and friends from Yahoo Messenger but I am shy when it comes to classmates and real friends. I have a few real friends but I can't keep my connection with them active because I have a self-centered way of thinking (MY ideas are the best, MY way of doing things is the best and I won't even listen to people who contradict my ideas). I believe in God, I am a Christian, but I don't even listen to all the commandments of God, because, ironically, I think my will for myself is better than God's will for me. Recently, I am trying to get rid of that idea: "I think my will for myself is better than God's will for me" When I am typing these things, I am isolated from everyone, even from my relatives and I am left even by the grace of God because of my sinful life. I am lost. I can compare myself to a black hole. This is my life: waking up, going to school, listening all the times to music instead of talking to my classmates because of my shyness, returning to my home where I am alone all day, opening the computer and listening to music and studying astronomy and biology on the computer, doing my homework, watching TV and sleeping. The next day this program repeats. How can I escape my afflicted life? Any idea? more

Open Question: how do you tell someone you broke their heart?

I have been in a relationship for 3 years. When we first started dating I thought there was more commitment than what was felt on his part. I have always had issues with this because I became pregnant one month after i forgave him after finding out what he had been up to. We were 19 when this started. Over the 3 years of being together we have butt heads a ton and lash out and say mean things. I have lost 2 immediate relatives in my life withing 6 years from eachother both random sudden deaths- my dad and my brother. I lost them at a very young age and never truly had time to cope because i never took a break from college or life thinking i would fall apart if i did. During my relationship there has been abuse from when i was pregnant through. My fiancee likes to drink and blacks out and if we argue he gets physical. you would think after years i would learn but I just have been getting more an more fed up. this past year he proposed we had been doing great and i said yes! and all was well. Then he broke it off and freaked out on me and was never truthful with why. He had been talking with his ex still and she mentioned feelings and so did he so he felt like being in a relationship with me (baby's momma/fiancee) was not fair if he thought he could feel that way about someone else. I freakkked out because there has been a series of girl issues in our relationship and we have a child together and the abuse and all I just felt like he was the worlds greatest ass. i stayed with him and things got bad again one day and he knocked me out for looking at his phone... which i should not have, trust issues? so i threw a cup at his face!!! i snapped. I feel like i have gone off my rocker. Then we just keep getting into all these quarrels now and I dumped him this past weekend and just flipped out more on him and all he wants is to make this work and let me know he loves me and i just detest him. I am seeing counseling again and all but I just don't know what to do because I feel like i am crazy. i know i am not but i got so mad i said stupid things and he made all our friends and family think i am nuts and skewed the view. He just wants to make it work thats all he has ever said but i just keep screwing up. Now this past weekend during our "breakup" and my latest freak out he didn't want to be near me so i got one night off of child duty and went out with my girl friend (now 22) my girl friend doesnt like my fiancee very much for obvious reasons even though he is trying so hard to make life up to me. Needless to say she said we would hang out with a buncha girls and take my mind off things. I wanted the couch. but she bought me a 40 dollar dress and took me out in a limo... ya right? and I was angry anxious and freaking out and screwed up. I was pushing guys off of me all night and at the end of the night i just wanted to sleep but they kept trying bc my friend lives with a boy who knew these guys. I blacked out and woke to having started to have sex with my friends bf best friend who also has a kid and a girl and i freaked out and told him i didnt want this and jumped out and started crying and yelled at him that he raped me ( i was blacking in an out ) I have anxiety so Zanex was in my system as well as too mas alcohol and such. If anyone can tell by my rambling i just need advice, on how to tell my boyfriend (just asked him last night) / old fiancee hopefully again soon through counseling how to forgive me from breaking his heart. We are extremly young and dumb and have been through so much that i feel this wouldn't kill us but its killing me because i used to hold all the times he "toed" the line against him and grudges and now i see it from his point of view and how crazy and mean i had been to even do that and not get over things and i am scared that he is going to hate me forever. more

Open Question: why cant working americans get help?

hello heres the scoop, i am 22, in marine reserves, work varies as i am contractor for the banks, average monthly for me after paying self employent tax buisness expenses , gas exe is 800. i live with my gf and i pay utilites and she pays rent as i cant afford it. she works as teller at a bank and makes around 1800 a mth, 900 for rent leaves her with 900 to pay her car, credit cards, insurence, exe she doesnt ever use the money to shop but to always to pay her own bills as i pay my own, to show i have had a rough time i have had even volutary surrendered my car to save some expense and i have stoped paying some bills to pay the ones i need to live ex,gas,electric exe. we find ourselves having no food some weeks and having to eat over at relatives nearby, they say we make too much to receive assisstence. 2 points. 1 shouldnt you help the helpless and forget the clueless. if i am working, paying my taxes, being a "good american" and on top is serving time in the military service of the country why shouldnt the average working american that need a little help get it. why do i have to not work, have alot of kids, not have graduated high school, or be on welfare or many other assisstence programs to get help. we need to start helping those who lost their jobs, are trying to work and live instead of those who keep having kids, rack up debt, and look for government to provide every they need for their family. 2nd is there anyway someone like me who really needs not a hand out but alittle help get it?. Afterpaying rent, gas,electric,water,garbage, cars(mind you i drive a 91 civic thats a little rusty) their insurence,gas for the cars, and just plain misc bills, ie the plastics, internet, exe, we dont have much left, we even have downsized because of it, we were in a nice neighborhood for 1,100 a mth which is cheap for the chicago suburbs and have moved to "da hood" lol (all the police around sure make me feal safe) for 900mth, and i gave up my car to the repo man, choices to work and better your situation are what we should be looking to reward and help people like that. not those who want to live la vida loca and take whatever they can get. so anyone with a little suggestion would be great , i hope everyone is blessed and takes care , thanks , semper fi more

Resolved Question: ramadan : what are your views on this?

Once the Messenger of Allah (SWT), was sitting amidst his companions (Sahabah) in the mosque, when all of a sudden Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said "Today I shall narrate a story to you all, which will reveal three riddles for all of you to solve". This hushed the crowd and they all listened to what Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had to say. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) continued by saying that once a man got to know that the days in his life was numbered and very soon he would be confronted with death. With this knowledge he feared his loneliness in the grave and went searching for true friends who would help and accompany him. He knocked on the door of his first friend and asked whether he would help. To this the friend said, "of course, what are we here for." But then the man went on to say that he had very few days to live after which he required help. As soon as he uttered this statement, his first friend said "I am sorry but when death does us apart, there is nothing we can do for you but buy you a place in the graveyard and some cloth /shroud (Kafan) to cover your dead body." Grieved but looking forward to his next friend, the man moved on. On the second door, when he came face to face with his second friend, and after narrating the entire story of his death and asked for help, the same answer was his fate again. The second friend said "I have been there with you all your life and can help you here. But there's nothing I can do for you after you die except take your corpse to the graveyard and bury you." Lost in agony and despair, he headed for the third friend, very sure that he would receive the same answer but there was a tinge of hope left. When he confronted the third friend, and told him that he required help, the friend eagerly volunteered to help. But the man continued to say that I need help after I die. To which the third friend replied, "Do not worry, my dear friend! I shall accompany you to the grave, be there with you in the grave, even when the angels arrive for questioning (Munkar and Nakir), then assist you on the Pul-e-Sirat (bridge) and then lead you to heaven. "To this the man heaved a sigh of relief and then passed away in peace." Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) then turned and asked his companions if anybody could identify the three friends and the man. When the prevailing silence didn't dissolve, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) continued to say, "The man in the anecdote is any other human being." The first friend is "money/wealth", things that help us only in life and not after we die. The second friend is our "family/children/sons and daughters", we strive for them all our life and all they give us is a shoulder to the grave. And the third and most important friend is "Aamal (deeds)". Who accompany us all the way through. Hadith of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)Moral of the Story: Do not strive for materialistic values that will give you nothing and help you in no way in your eternal life. But work hard and pray and ask forgiveness from Allah (SWT). The good deeds assist mankind where every other thing loses value in the life hereafter! Hadith of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh): "There are three friends of Human being - Wealth, Family and His Aamal". "Whoever rectifies his hereafter affairs, Allah (SWT) will rectify his worldly affairs and whoever rectifies what is between him and Allah (SWT), Allah (SWT) will rectify what is between him and [the] people." "At the moment when the coffin of a person is being lifted and carried, the concerning soul follows its corpse and regretfully calls: 'O you my children and my relatives! Beware that the world does not cheat you as it did me. I gathered wealth regardless of it being lawful or unlawful and left all of it for others. Now I am left with its burden upon me while they enjoy the fruit of it; therefore, avoid that which is similar to what happened to me'." more

Open Question: What do you think of my kinda storry (BASED ON DOCTOR WHO DONT SAY I COPPIED OKAY!!!!)?

first sorry for spelling things wrong and i will post more soon :D INTRADUCTION: It was a day like any other, well to Annie O'Brien it was.. Wake up at 7:30 a.m, go to work at the supermarket around 8:30 a.m., eat a half an hour lunch at noon, then work 'till 6:00 p.m. then go home. But Annie didn't know was her day was going to be anything but normal... CHAPTER 1: It was early Monday morning at 7:30 a.m. sharp. Annie O'Brien slammed the snooze button on her alarm and unwillingly arose out of her bed. She fallowed the every day routine; wake up, eat toast and jam, shower, get dressed in her Wilson's grocery uniform and head for work. "DONT FORGET TO PICK UP MILK AT WORK HUN!" Annie's mum shouted from the Living room. "FINE THEN!" she shouted back and stomped of for work... "NO! NOT THERE! NONONO! NOT ENGLAND! I WANT TO GO TO BLOODY BARSALONA! PI! YOU DAMN TARDIS!!" The Doctor shouted out loud yet almost to himself. "Honestly cant you EVER fly how I WANT YOU TO!?" he exclaimed as he flopped into a chair. The TARDIS, Time And Relative Dimensions In Space, landed in London, England. Reluctantly The Doctor decided to look around and see what there was to do. "I guess si could grab a bite to eat. AH HA! I could wander around town, nothin better to do." The Doctor thought. Then he stepped out of the tiny blue police box only to find a girl standing staring at the Box in uae. " 'Ello!" The doctor said to the girl. "That Box, no that THING, just appeared OUT OF THIN AIR!!!!" the girl said, opened mouthed. "Oh, here we go again...." The doctor thought. "What are you talking about miss?" he replied. "That Box" "Yeah" "Just magically appeared! IN THE BLOODY STINKIN AIR!!!" Grinning now The Doctor simply replied, I think you've lost it mate, don't you know that stuff is impossible?" The girl, still in shock, mumbled "oh wow...." she paused then continued, "I'm sorry ummm whats your name? I'm Annie O'Brien by the way. Nice to meed you" and then shook his hand. "I'm the doctor" "What?" "The Doctor...I'm the doctor" "I asked for your name not your classification" Annie said confusingly. "Yep that's me, and its not a classification, it's my name Annie, was it?" "Yeah, "DOCTOR", but Doctor What?? Don't you have a first or last name?" The doctor paused and said, "Is it so bad to just be called The Doctor?: "No its just I ne-" "HUSH" "But I-" "HUSH!" "Well arnt you Rud-" "I SAID HUSH!!" "OI RELAX!!" Then a long pause grew from the two and the doctor started to walk away. "WELL NICE TO MEET YOU AS WELL!" Annie shouted at the mysterious man she just met. "Last think i need is a stupid human engaging in a conversation with a time-lord." he thought to himself. Annie walked on as well as The Doctor sure that something wasn't right but she just couldn't tell what. more

Resolved Question: locating a long lost relative...?

yea, my friend Dave hasnt heard from his family in like 10 years, and i kinda feel bad for him because they just drifted apart. he got married, and moved to arizona, and when he returned to california to see his parents they didnt live in the house anymore. this guy is one of my closest friends so i really want to help him out. on christmas this dude was standing in a corner with teary eyes and said to me, i hate holidays, and i asked why, he said, because i dont have my family. so yea, is there away to locate them? like for free... im guessing they still live in california.oh and he has brothers and sisters, but he just doesnt know where they live. no cousins or any family members, except for his wifes family. but his family doesnt even know he got married.ive tried looking on the internet. he has a very common last name, Anderson. so like 300 pages come out. can we use his social security? more

Open Question: Did I lose weight too fast?

I'm 16. In august i weighed 170 pounds at 5'6'. And as of today i weigh 143 pounds and am 5'7'. I've been trying to keep active, but not really doing much but i skateboard a lot, and run around at school during lunch and after school almost daily and have a daily routine of 150 push ups and 300 sit ups. I now have a more toned abdominal section. I do only eat one very large meal, due to my medication for ADHD decreasing my appetite but it is a very large meal late at night. And there are and have been plenty of days that i dont take my medication and do nothing but eat unhealthily all day. My mom and relatives are constantly telling me that i am too skinny. But i don't think so. I feel much healthier now, and my asthma is not as athletic related as it was in august. My doctor for ADHD said that my mom should talk to my regular physician about the weight loss because she thinks it was to much. I don't feel like I've lost too much, but i may be wrong. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.It has been 7 months since august. more

Open Question: how can i get a birth certificate with no ID and no relatives?

I lost my ID I was adopted and really do not know my family that well were we talk on the regular bases I need my birth certificate in order to get an ID in the state of georgia what could I do more

Open Question: My brother is a pill addict and a thief- What to do?

My younger brother is addicted to pills, primarily Methadone. He claims he has a back pain from a minor car accident, but I don't think he does. He used pills long before the accident. He uses any pills he can get and he gets people to send them to him through the mail. He "works" for my dad, who is a contractor and pays him VERY WELL to do nothing except drive around with him all day. He has been caught many times stealing from customers and other contractors on the job. My dad bails him out by paying for the things he steals, and will not fire him. My dads business has lost the good reputation it had for nearly 40 years. My brother does not have a drivers license because he lost his license from multiple driving while suspended tickets. He has not had a license for many years. He lives on a property owned by a relative who charges nothing for him to live there. It is a family business, so we are all suffering financially from what his stealing and drug activities has done to the business reputation in our very small town. My parents will not listen to anyone and keep enabling him. My dad drives him everywhere, takes him 250 miles to the pain clinic, picked him up from jail every day when he was on on work release, and goes to the pharmacy to get is script. My brother is verbally abusive to both my parents, and takes advantage of them financially, yet they stick up for him always. If anyone in the family says anything, they act like his attorneys. My dad constantly tells people how smart my brother is and acts like he is the greatest son ever. My dad lies to everyone in our family just to make my brother look good. What should my family do? more

Open Question: questions about finding my birthmom?

i was born and raised in portland oregon, at the age of 1 my mom reliquished her rights. to put it in the simplest of terms she was a drug addict and a prostitute. but it has always bothered me not getting the chance to meet her. i have tried every trail i can think of just short of hiring a private investigator for 100.00 and hour. if any one has any useful information about finding long lost relatives that it cheaper than 100.00 and hour please let me know, or share your connection stories. im starting to feel defeated and have concidered giving up, but i feel like it's not time yet. i dont want to give up but if theres no more options for me i guess it is time to call it quits. more

Open Question: My brother is a pill addict and a thief?

My younger brother is addicted to pills, primarily Methadone. He claims he has a back pain from a minor car accident, but I don't think he does. He used pills long before the accident. He uses any pills he can get and he gets people to send them to him through the mail. He "works" for my dad, who is a contractor and pays him VERY WELL to do nothing except drive around with him all day. He has been caught many times stealing from customers and other contractors on the job. My dad bails him out by paying for the things he steals, and will not fire him. My dads business has lost the good reputation it had for nearly 40 years. My brother does not have a drivers license because he lost his license from multiple driving while suspended tickets. He has not had a license for many years. He lives on a property owned by a relative who charges nothing for him to live there. It is a family business, so we are all suffering financially from what his stealing and drug activities has done to the business reputation in our very small town. My parents will not listen to anyone and keep enabling him. My dad drives him everywhere, takes him 250 miles to the pain clinic, picked him up from jail every day when he was on on work release, and goes to the pharmacy to get is script. My brother is verbally abusive to both my parents, and take advantage of them financially, yet they stick up for him always. If anyone in the family says anything, they act like his attorneys. My dad constantly tells people how smart my brother is and acts like he is the greatest son ever. My dad lies to everyone in our family just to make my brother look good. What should my family do? more

Open Question: should i go back to jordan?

Ill put this here because i am stuck with an answer. I used to be inlove with a jordanian man, whos a relative of my family.I am australian born and raised, mother is from jordan. My love and i spent a good 2 weeks together in jordan so i come back home and we are sposed to get married, the week our wedding is planned he calls me, says i cant marry you i have to go to europe im sorry i love you and please dont be hurt.I spent almost $3000 in a ticket and had to actually give the ticket away, my bags were packed and wedding dress also because we decided that we will have an aussie/jordan style wedding to accomodate the 2 familys... My family was horrified no other explination even from his family, and his brothers that i lived with, i ended up moving out of their home because i was so hurt and they told me he had to go and do his duty as he was the only male living in jordan and it was his responsibility. So i lived my life for almost 2 years., i was so angry i started to think something wrong with me and abused life, i spent most my time with wrong friends and drinking alot of booze so much i lived the aussie style and dated and really didnt give a hoot about anyone or anything i was so heartbroken.They day he told me that, i couldnt even breathe i went on a ferry in my city and sat i was so lost didnt know where i was going. Then i met a man here and married him it lasted one year and he cheated me all the time. So then i start loving single life, My old love comes back and asks me for forgiveness and he loves me so much, and all the time he tells me he have alot of girl want marry him not arab and he's sending me emails and stuff on facebook that he regret going to europe and now he is sure im the one, this has been going on for 5 months now and i talk with him as a friend because now i love him as that. I accept it couldnt be but still he cant forget me,and always claiming he is still a virgin and want to get wife. i am not so sure, if he loved me then why he left me like that? We are quite normal in the feelings and plans,but he wants me to come there and live and i just cant, yet my heart is dying for him. he is the typical mamas boy he dont even working yet because he says he want live the easy life and i can say yeh his parents do shelter him But is it possible he grew up and start realise he need that? please help, ive been so distant and not giving him my time and really need some advice?!! i dont want some religous advice i want real advice thanks? and bless all :) more

Open Question: Whats the name of this book?

The title had evagline in it iread the book in the fourth grade it was about a girl who i think her parents were sent lost or on some kind of adventure on an island so she had to stay with another relative i think it was her grandmother i remember the main character being very adventuras she swung from trees and things like that whatever relative or foster parent she stayed with took her on a plain and i also remember a post card from her mother that her mother had drawn a picture of an animal on it but a stamp covered the picture and this girls gardian took the post card while flying the plain and peeled the stamp back to see the animal which played an important role in the plot sorry for the bad summary but i read it a almost four years ago more

Open Question: Will newborn's head remain in this "backwards cone" shape?

As part of my EMT-B training, I watched a birth at my local hospital. I was surprised and scared when the girl came out and her head was...malformed. It was an average-small sized head, but it was pushed up and back, like a cone, but then sort of pushed backwards a little, so not totally vertical. The childbirth was long. The first time, the doctor left and the nurses did a "Texas Log roll" to reposition the baby, since it wasn't pushing out, or the mother wasn't pushing hard enough (yeah right). Second time, 45 minutes late, Doc comes in and tries a little suction device on the baby's head, ends up just pulling suction device off after pulling so hard (maybe that's why the head was...stretched?) tried about 2x, then clamps...Clamps tried about 2x, baby made a little headway out, then doc resumed hand delivery...after snipping the perineum 3x...(only part I didn't like. I'm a male and there's something about scissors in that area.) But hey, the baby came out. Probably would have came out with less snipping, but doctor may have been tired of waiting. The new girl had this head shape that I just found odd. All the nurses said it will go down. And the doctor did say earlier in birth the head had some fluid edema on the top. If that skull stays in that shape for life that little girl will have no life. I know. I was made fun of all my life in school for my large, oddly shaped head. And actually my head is normal, just a bit big because my parents have big noggins. I felt sad seeing the baby. Like some twisted flashback of being picked on relentlessly in school... Someone better say the head somehow transforms into normal shape. But how exactly? (ps. is there hope for my head? I'm only 23....maybe it'll decrease..maybe maybe..) I had a cousin who finally, it seems, 9y/o has lost the "clamps" appearance on her head. That doc, on my aunt, used clamps (ahh the correct term is foreceps I believe...) on my cousin and for years those darn foreceps marks were on her forehead. I just don't trust doctors, nurses, hek paramedics or EMT's. Anything we say has to be positive, or say nothing at all. Hek the relatives couldn't even film the birth...not until, "The mother and baby are stable," the nurses said. Now, I say it's really because of the insane abundance of malpractice cases. Less politics and more medical: what will happen to baby's head?Well to the first people who answered, I feel better now. I knew all about the delicate bones when they are just born, but I didn't know they can really move and mold that much. Wow. more

Open Question: Wow I might as well be a Cast member on the show "lost" right now as this physics questions has me stumped...?

You walk at an angle of θ = 70˚ toward a plane mirror, as in the drawing. Your walking velocity has a magnitude of 0.8 m/s. What is the velocity of your image relative to you (magnitude and direction)? more

Open Question: I am wrong to feel so hurt and discouraged?

Seven years ago my fiancee and I decided that we don't like the big city and seeking for a better quality of life we moved to a smaller town. We knew that it's gonna be tough but we wanted to give it a try. At first it was nice, but after the economic crisis started to hit, the chances became fewer. We were between jobs, at the end I couldn't find any, he was the only one who had a job, and the lack of money started to cause severe arguments. We loved each other very much and we wanted to keep on trying but year after year things became hard. Our families were very supportive despite their disagreements for our decisions. After the lack of employment, we started out own business, but didn' t go well, the economic crisis was very intense and everything just went straight to hell, many business closed and we finally saw that no matter how much we try we are over our head here, there is a lot of disappointment and tension between us as well, so we said that we tried our best, it didn't work out and now it's time to go back to the big city. The thing is that I feel like crap. My fiancee told me that he is very disappointed, he feels that we wanted to do so many things and none of these worked out and he doesn't really want to move back to the city. I know how he feels, I feel the same way. So he told me that he'll try his best, but if he sees after a few months that he can't get used to be back, he will leave this life and start from scratch somewhere else, specifically abroad, in another country. I can't follow him, I can't do that all over again so there is a 50-50 chance we survive this or break up. The truth is that I also feel discourage and tired my self from everything that has happened and no matter what I will respect his decision. But the truth is that I am going through hell. I feel disappointed, I feel like a failure. I feel that I did everything wrong, and no matter what I did not succeed in standing at my own two feet without needing my family's support. I love them and they love me, but now they are judgmental, saying that I should have made these steps and go back a long time now, and make me feel like a basket case. Even my closest relatives have an opinion about my personal life. I know that they care, but they are making me feel even worse and I don't need that right now. And I hate it because I don't want to be in debt to anyone and it's killing me. I have to start from scratch, start over, having everyone looking at me with pity, with all of these theories in what I should and what I should not have done. With a man I love, and in the next few months I don't even know if I 'm gonna lose him or not. Thinking that all the efforts and sacrifices I made was for nothing. I don't need advices right now, I know that went wrong. Having a bunch of people telling me things even because they car, just makes me worse and it's making me angry, it's killing me. They made mistakes in their lives as well, everyone does, nobody is perfect, but yes I am the one who feels like a looser. I feel I lost my way. Am I wrong to feel so hurt and angry with my self, but most of all with my family and relatives? They supported me so much, is is wrong to feel upset with them, am I being unfair? Thank you.My mother is the worst, she helped me so much, but she keeps on having an opinion about EVERYTHING, I feel that I have to defend my self all the time, she makes me feel like crap and I am already feeling like hell. :(I have already told them a million times how I feel, they just won't stop messing with my life. I know they mean well but they are driving me completely crazy. I already discussed the issue with my fiancee. If he really feels that he is really miserable, and no matter what he won't be able to make things better for us, I will respect his decision, I am not keeping anyone by force, but this whole thing has made my fears and sorrows unbearable. more

Open Question: Am i wrong for being sad?

I came to america for college at age 21yrs of age..after my dad died.my mum gave me 5k for college and one of my dad's friend paid a year's worth of tuition(13k).I studied hard and when the year was up,i managed to transfer to new jersey.I couldn't finish college and my mum wasn't ready to assist me anymore.She felt that i should figure it out even though she had the ability to assist.She claimed that she had sent me to america and so her role for me was done and i was now indebted to her.With the help of a boyfriend(my current husband),and 7 yrs of crying and suffering,going without food sometimes,and hiding from landlords,i finally managed to finish.I graduated and got a job. I love my mum but i felt like she abandoned me in a way.she believes that 5k and 13k is enough to finish 5 yrs of college and she didn't want to be bothered,no matter what i tell or show her. She didn't even care about if i had become homeless.i had no-one,no relatives and the easy way out would have been to quit...but i didn't.Now i'm 30yrs old.i just got married(no ceremony due to lack of funds),my husband lost his job,we have no savings and my mum sent two of my youngest siblings(18 and 19yrs) to college here.I told her that she shouldn't abandon them and that american education is expensive for internationals.Studying back home would be been cheaper and almost nothing in funds.she felt foreign education is the best and thinks that i should figure out my siblings since i managed to finish school.Does not want to know how.she argued and sent them anyways.Their first semester was incomplete and i had to help complete the tuition.During school breaks,they come back home from texas and we all live in a 1 bedroom apartment.my husband is so upset and he's threatening to leave me if my mum abandons them on me like he knows she did me.i love my siblings a lot but i just can't afford to send them to college.i pay for their books,clothes,give them pocket money and assist in tuition.But i don't even get paid enough and i only have 1.5 yr work experiences in my field,lucky to still have a job with this present economy.my job is also 4hrs away and i'm paying another rental bills,because commuting is virtually impossible,and i go home during the weekends.Am i right to be upset about my mum trying to repeat leaving my younger siblings here and expecting me to figure it out?I want to be able to buy a house,to have a child,i can't invest another 5yrs of looking for money for college for 2 people?she yells and screams when i try to explain? more

Resolved Question: HEY guys urgent help needed,pleaseeeeee ,I PRAY 2 GOD THAT HE BLESS U IF YOU PROVIDE ME HELP/ADVICEHERE?

Hello friends, first of all i would like to say two things 1) kindly bear with the long post,but the problem is as such 2) please excuse me for my poor english,i am indian,so i will try my best so here i go, I am 22,moved over 2 USA 2 months back and joined a college called stevens in new jersey,MY dad and mom became bankrupt and we lost all money and my sister met with a accident in colorado.. In the meantime,my roommate ditched me and i was left homeless,i mean, we decied in india we will live together,but he came 2 usa before me,found a new roomate and did not even tell me,when i reached usa,i realized i was doomed and had no place to live. after great difficulty and living in different places for 3-4 days,i quickly found new roomates and moved over with them(had no choice..where would i go in this punishing winter of usa in jan and feb???).Now the problem here is that the roommates are very nice natured..BUT they are very dominating and bully me a lot, that is cause i am the youngest there and they have always seen me scared AND HELPLESS since day 1..they keep making fun of me,I am not as smart and dynamic as them,so they keep laughing at me for being dumb... now my relatives and parents have realized this,and they are very angry with me,they keep calling me a coward,spineless guy who is scared of his roomies,they keep saying me"IF YOU HAVE GUTS THEN GO AND FIGHT WITH THOSE ROOMIES of urs"..I mean ...HOW CAN I ???they are 5....i am just 1...they are 5 guys who know each other since 4 years...2 of them are brothers...how can i fight 5 people ..it is a unfair number game??? MY uncle has told me"dont listen 2 your aunts and parents,dont fight with them..it is just stupid,you need their help now,you can always fight with them later" guys,these guys do help me a lot at times,but they rag me a lot as well,what should i do???plus i have lots of stress,i do not have any money,i go hungry to bed at times,i have lots of stress at school,now tell me guys...when i have so many problems...why should i fight with my roomies to proove i am a tough guy?? my parents will move back 2 india in some days,ITS ME WHO HAS TO LIVE WITH THESE PEOPLE..NOT THEM more

Resolved Question: HELLO FRNDS..I desperately need help from u...very urgent..please help me,god will bless u?

Open Question: how can I place an ad looking for a relative?

I am helping my husband look for his 18 year old son in Alabama.He lost contact with him in 2004. He does not have his SS number and any leads he has had in the past came to a dead end. Can I place an ad in a Alabama newspaper? I have tried myspace and facebook and found nothing. more

Open Question: Do you get Plastic Taffies and Jocks as well as Plastic Paddies?

Being Welsh myself I've found, when travelling outside Wales, that I often get buttonholed by someone who wants to tell me all about their "Welsh family connection" (which usually amounts to some long dead distant relative) and how they love rugby, Welsh Cakes and Max Boyce etc etc etc. I'm never quite sure what the appropriate response is other than "Really? Umm . . . thats great . . . " Sometimes I think they expect me to throw my arms around them like a long-lost family member or something. I've often been amused by the behaviour of "Plastic Paddies" who love to boast of their "Irishness", even though the nearest they've got to Ireland is puking up green beer on St Paddy's Day . . . do you think that theres a current fashion to claim descent from one of the "Celtic" Nations and that its somehow seen as cool or something? I've never made a big deal of where I'm from so I don't quite understand it . . . more

Open Question: gold leafs? Worth collecting?

relatives live in nevada (near sierra) and i remember when we went near a stream near the mountains on a hot day i saw lots of shiney bright yellow flakes. i collected a couple but lost them, i heared that it takes A LOT of them to make an ounce but i was wondering Would it be worth it to spend the time collecting as many possible? i don't live there, but i remeber them being every were on the ground, (the sand, dirt, water) more

Resolved Question: How can I take out my sadness about a close penpal?

I have been pen pals with this girl for 3 years. She was also one of my first ones. I even fell inlove with her but now that we grew older we couldn't talk to each other anymore. You see, she is from Russia and in there she choose to go in college and she is too busy to talk to me but we are in the same age. Yesterday, I asked if she still consider me as a friend and she said no because she is too busy. That did not hurt me at all but when she blocked everything from me, that is when I decided to stop being friends with her. I actually thought this wouldn't hurt but this hurts a lot as if a relative who really cares about me died. I do have one pen pal that is close to me as her but she is different, I relate to her more than my closest pen pal right now but my new one is nicer. The close pen pal I lost as a friend right now, we had been friends since I was being made fun of by my classmates. When I feel hurt, I always talk to her and I feel better again. She is the only pen pal I know that is real because she is the only one I talked to in the phone. My closest pen pal right now, sometimes, I have a feeling that she doesn't trust me but I receive more compliments from her. My old friend is the type of friend I will miss but how can I stop this sadness? more

Open Question: Would faith ALONE be enough to get you through the day?

I just answered this one question asking who atheists turn to when they've hit rock bottom and they have absolutely NOBODY to go to, no friends, no relatives, nothing. And I admitted that it would, indeed, be an incredibly difficult situation. But it also made me contemplate: Would believers *really* be that much better off..? So, if you're a religious person, imagine this scenario: You're stuck in the middle of freaking Siberia, or some other place where there's barely any people. You get decent food, music, a TV, books and even internet access.. But there's no cell phone, and no possible way to contact ANYBODY, period. (You can't even use Skype or MSN or any other internet client which lets you talk to people online.) Do you think you would lose it after a while? You'd still have your belief in your god and your religion, but do you think it would help? And if so: how much exactly? For how long would that be sufficient? Even if you believe there is a god out there, the fact still remains that there wouldn't be anyone actually answering your prayers *directly*, (as in: no voices or concrete feedback), there wouldn't be anyone to discuss interesting things with, there would be no physical contact, no human understanding and compassion, no one to share everyday experiences with face to face, etc. So, what do you think would happen? Would you still feel like a happy, fulfilled person? Or is it the case that just your belief ALONE is not actually enough for you, you also need a community, and you need fellow people who care? If it is, then I do not fault you for it in any sense. I'd say it is probably due to our strong social instincts. What says you? I am curious to know. =) more

Open Question: Am I really fat..?? please answer?

I'm 5'5 and 117 pounds. I thought I was average but i dk now because i was eating a piece of cake tonight for grandmas birthday and my mom made a comment saying "shouldnt u have a smaller piece?" and i said why and she said "well ure not exactly thin" no one heard this cause she said it while my relatives were talking but i got down about it and she has said i looked big before like 2 years ago when i was only 110.. so i tried to lose weight and got down to 104 but then i got just too depressed so i started eating more and i gained more pounds so now im 117 and bigger but my friend amy is 5'4 and 125 and she doesnt look fat to me and shes heavier than i am so i dont know. maybe i am fat but i didnt think i was. i asked one of my friends if i was fat and they said "no comment" i dont know what that means and when they said that, i ran into the bathroom and just cried. i told my mom im 115 because i cant say 117 she might think thats big and 115 sounds better and so she said "wow that much?" i got so upset and i never told her again. my grandma calls me skinny and says i should eat a lot but my mom always says im fat. actually i never wear bathing suits unless i cover up myself with a long shirt because im afraid my mom will call me fat if i dont. i really want to be skinny or thin or whatever oh and btw i dont know how much she weighs but she is the same height as me and i tried on her pants to see how much bigger she is and they are huge on me so i know shes bigger so i feel like saying well ure fatter than me.. please help more

Resolved Question: Did i lose him....he txted me this?

**THIS HAPPENED LAST NIGHT**** My boyfriend and me havent been dating long maybe about a week, today we got into a long conversation about what we expected out of the relationship and so forth. When he asked me about previous realtionships i told him that i had been hurt many times before and i needed someone who would give me time to heal, and understand that i also told him that i understood if he wanted to rethink his commitment to me, he sent me this txt "Baby shhh i'm not gonna leave you iloveyou<3 and wow their horrible, i'll stab em dum F**k ups." then after i told him that i was so suprized and thought i had lost him he sent me this: "no cuz i don't even wanna rush things with u, rushing ruins things and kills relationships, i want to be yours ( L )" i told him that i loved him and that i was greatful, i also asked when he was coming home (he's at a relatives b-day party ) he sent me this. "later, still like in an hour, but my phone is gonna die in like 2 mins, txt u when im back i love you baby <3 miss you so much, my beautful princess" my phone was dying throughout the day, iactually had to charge it i'm thinking its the same for him, but i just want to be sure, did his phone die or did he need time to be alone, or to think? Today when i woke up there were two messages on my phone from him, im assuming i must have fallen asleep before he got home and this is what they said: "Hey baby just got home now but im gonna go to bed love you lots, goodnight sweetdreams (L) mine will be ur in them ( K ) mwaahhh beautiful" (he works this morning at like 6 AM and that message was sent at 12:52 AM last night) then he said in another message after he didnt get a response from me because i was asleep: "kk i'll txt you when i'm leaving for work i love you so much, please never forget<3" and this morning he did txt me.Did he simply need that break to think things through, or am i just overreacting because ive been hurt so badly in the past? -StargirlYes, i did post this same question last night but i still hadn't gotten a reply from him i'm just looking for a second opinion! Thank you! <3 more

Voting Question: Is anyone named Moyerman or Mazer? I am looking for my relatives.?

I have very few known relatives. It sure would be nice to locate some that were lost to me. more

Resolved Question: I think i may have lost him....?

My boyfriend and me havent been dating long maybe about a week, today we got into a long conversation about what we expected out of the relationship and so forth. When he asked me about previous realtionships i told him that i had been hurt many times before and i needed someone who would give me time to heal, and understand that i also told him that i understood if he wanted to rethink his commitment to me, he sent me this txt "Baby shhh i'm not gonna leave you iloveyou<3 and wow their horrible, i'll stab em dum F**k ups." then after i told him that i was so suprized and thought i had lost him he sent me this: "no cuz i don't even wanna rush things with u, rushing ruins things and kills relationships, i want to be yours ( L )" i told him that i loved him and that i was greatful, i also asked when he was coming home (he's at a relatives b-day party ) he sent me this. "later, still like in an hour, but my phone is gonna die in like 2 mins, txt u when im back i love you baby <3 miss you so much, my beautful princess" my phone was dying throughout the day, iactually had to charge it i'm thinking its the same for him, but i just want to be sure, did his phone die or did he need time to be alone, or to think? more

Voting Question: Am i losing one of my relatives?

Ok, i don't know much about this, but ill tell you all i know, One of my relatives, (52) was diagnosed with Stage IV pancreatic cancer about a month ago. He had jaundice,stomach aches,weight loss,no appitite,depression,nausea, and a higher blood sugar, and his urine was much darker. He couldn't have the whipple procedure, which is removing the head of the pancreas, because the cancer was localized at his liver. He had no major diseases before this incedent. He looks fine, he can drive, run, and he works as usual but i'm aware that the end is near. I know that most pancreatic cancer patients don't live long after being diagnosed. How much longer before he dies? more

Open Question: Chemistry: How will the relative number of moles of Mg and O be affected with the following procdeural errors:?

Topic: Determing the empirical formula of a compound. In this experiment, you will heat in air an accurately measured mass of magnesium (Mg) in a crucible, forming oxide and magnesium nitride (Mg3N2). After you add a small amount of water, the Mg3N2 will convert to Solid magnesium hydroxide, Mg(OH)2, and gaseous ammonia (NH3). As you heat the Mg(OH)2 further, solid oxide of magnesium and gaseous water (H2O) will form. From the reacting mass of magnesium and its gram-molar mass, you will calculate the number of moles of Mg reacting and also calculate the number of moles of O that reacted. You will then reduce the ratio of the number of moles of Mgx to the number of moles of Oy to a small, whole number ratio (x/y), which you will express in the empirical formula MgxOy. Question: how will the relative number of moles of Mg and O be affected if the following procedural errors are made? Briefly explain. 1)The crucible is not brought to constant mass before the Mg is added. 2)Water is not added after the first heating of Mg, and the entire solid in the crucible is considered to be magnesium oxide. 3)Some of the fluffy white precipitate is lost before the crucible is weighed for the last time. 4) In an effort to begin a second sample while the first is cooling, the hot crucible containg the solid from determination 1 is accidently dropped, and a small chip is lost from the crucible. more

Voting Question: child's toy consists of a block that attaches to a table with a suction cup, a spring connected to that block,?

child's toy consists of a block that attaches to a table with a suction cup, a spring connected to that block, a ball, and a launching ramp. (Intro 1 figure) The spring has a spring constant 45.0 N/m, the ball has a mass 0.355 kg, and the ramp rises a height 0.087 m above the table, the surface of which is a height 0.99 m above the floor. Initially, the spring rests at its equilibrium length. The spring then is compressed a distance 0.190 m, where the ball is held at rest. The ball is then released, launching it up the ramp. When the ball leaves the launching ramp its velocity vector makes an angle 36.0 degrees with respect to the horizontal. Throughout this problem, ignore friction and air resistance. a.Relative to the initial configuration (with the spring relaxed), when the spring has been compressed, the ball-spring system has gained kinetic energy gained potential energy lost kinetic energy lost potential energy b.As the spring expands (after the ball is released) the ball-spring system gains kinetic energy and loses potential energy gains kinetic energy and gains potential energy loses kinetic energy and gains potential energy loses kinetic energy and loses potential energy c.As the ball goes up the ramp, it gains kinetic energy and loses potential energy gains kinetic energy and gains potential energy loses kinetic energy and gains potential energy loses kinetic energy and loses potential energy d.As the ball falls to the floor (after having reached its maximum height), it gains kinetic energy and loses potential energy gains kinetic energy and gains potential energy loses kinetic energy and gains potential energy loses kinetic energy and loses potential energy e.Calculate v_r, the speed of the ball when it leaves the launching ramp. f.With what speed will the ball hit the floor? more

Voting Question: MLA in-text citation help? Is this right?

Nadia Anderson Mrs. Olsen English 7 - 8th Period 4 March 2010 Virginia Hamilton Virginia Hamilton’s birth took place in the quaint rural area of Yellow Springs, Ohio on March 12, 1936 (Mikkelsen 2). Her parents were Kenneth James and Etta Belle Perry Hamilton (“Virginia Hamilton Biography” 1). The, just as any other parents would, took for granted that Virginia was a perfectly normal child, bound to become a doctor or a lawyer. Little did they know that their daughter was really going to turn out as an award-winning author, who inspires adults and children alike. Virginia Hamilton was an extremely influential African American because of the way she represented her culture through the novels she wrote. Virginia and her four older siblings came from a family of storytellers (Mikkelsen 2). Their parents would often tell them stories of their African American heritage. Some stories they told were about how two of their relatives escaped slavery (Mikkelsen 2). These relatives were Virginia’s great-great-grandmother, who escaped with her son in the 1850s, and her maternal grandfather, Levi Perry (Mikkelsen 2). They all got out by crossing the Ohio River (Mikkelsen 2). Virginia’s parents and their many stories were left behind, though, when she departed from home to enter college. At first, she went to Antioch College (Mikkelsen 2). However, she didn’t feel that they helped her much with her writing (Mikkelsen 2). Since Antioch didn’t satisfy her needs, she transferred over to Ohio State University (Mikkelsen 2). Obviously it suited her, because she stayed at that school and graduated in 1958 with a Bachelor of Arts (Mikkelsen 2). She majored in literature and creative writing (“Virginia Hamilton Biography” 1). Although Virginia always wanted to be an author, she held many other jobs, too. To keep her finances steady while she built up her writing career, she worked lots of different jobs in New York (Mikkelsen 2). These various jobs included being a bookkeeper, nightclub singer, receptionist, and accountant, as well as other things (Mikkelsen 2). She no longer had to work these jobs, however, when she married Arnold Adoff, a poet and author, on March 19, 1960 (Mikkelsen 2). Together they had two children—a daughter, Leigh, in 1963 and a son, Jaime Levi, four years later (Mikkelsen 2). Most of Virginia’s books were geared towards young adults (Mikkelsen 1). She brought folklore tradition to much of her writing (Mikkelsen 1). In fact, she revised many common folktales such as John Henry and High John the Conqueror (Mikkelsen 1). In addition to this, she wrote an astounding number of award-winning novels including The House of Dies Drear, M.C. Higgins the Great, Sweet Whispers, and Brother Rush (“Virginia Hamilton Biography” 1). The first novel she’d ever written was The Novel (Mikkelsen 2). She lost it, however, and her first published novel was called Zeely (Mikkelsen 2). People enjoy Virginia’s books for many reasons. They applaud her for the unique style of writing she uses (Mikkelsen 3). However, this is also criticized, and people have many varied opinions of her. No matter what, though, she is honored for how she always carried her culture with her and in her novels, with pride. Loann Toth, book review editor for School Library Journal, said, “Hamilton is a marvelous storyteller; and so she brings that sense of narrative and just brings a wonderful sense of language to everything she does,” (Mikkelsen 5). Virginia Hamilton’s span of achievements is very broad. Her awards include the Newbery Medal, several Newbery Honor Awards, the Regina Medal, the Edgar Allen Poe Award, the Laura Ingalls Wilder Award for Lifetime Achievement, and many, many more (Mikkelsen 2). She was also the first children’s author to be given the MacArthur Foundation’s 1995 prize of $350,000 (Mikkelsen 2). Among her prestigious number of other awards, Kent State University has had a conference named after her held since the 1980’s (Mikkelsen 2). Although she’s gotten all of these awards, Hamilton said her most satisfying reward is alerting children of their rich ethnic culture (Mikkelsen 4). Virginia Hamilton was an inspiration to people all over the world. She was truly proud to be an African American and to write about African American, and I think she really embraced that. Sadly, she passed away on February 19, 2002 (Mikkelsen 10). She died of breast cancer at the age of 65 (“Virginia Hamilton Biography” 3). Although she’s gone now, she will still live on forever as an African American legend. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Please note that some things are supposed to be centered, there is supposed to be a header on there, and some things are supposed to be italicized or underlined. But basically, did I do the in-text citations right? Any constructive criticism would be loved. ThanThat last word was supposed to be thanks! :) more

Open Question: He's sweet and all, but he's a year younger than me! What should I do?

A week ago, after a funeral, a very close relative gazed into my eyes for a minute and then, told me that he was in love with me. He waited for me to respond in any way trying to read my face, but I said nothing and showed no emotion. So, he asked me if I felt the same way. I simply got up and walked away without a word. I didn't... He is a sweet and really hot guy. But: Problem one, is that he is in eighth grade and I'm a freshmen Problem two he's like a really close friend to me, even more than some of my cousins (something way too valuable to lose This Wednesday, we bumped into each other with our families at the mall. He smiled when he saw me. Both families took a table at a cafe and he sat next to me. After a while, he said, "I really want to talk to you. Would you like to take a walk?" "No," I answered. "Remember what I told you? I'm still waiting for an answer..." he paused, then said, "Please, come on. Just a short walk" "No," I answered less coldly than last time. He just looked at me for a while, then distracted himself. After telling all of this to some one who's judgement is one I could trust, she said that I'm heartless, because I was severely hurting an innocent truthful guy that deserved better. If you were in my shoes, WHAT THE HELL WOULD YOU DO?? more

Open Question: how do you treat NON-clinical depression if the causes of the depression cannot be lifted from you life?

I am so depressed. I've "seriously" thought of taking my life 3-4 times. one time i even wrote a suicide note and planned how and what time i am going to kill myself. i never really talked about it with anyone. what prevented me was my faith and the thought of how devastated my parents would be when i'm gone. i know everything about depression, and how i should seek a professional help right now, but my depression is not a clinical depression. there is a cause to my depression and if it is lifted up, then i am fine and actually happy with my life. i know most people will say that i just need to lift it up, but the problem is not that simple. i am an international student, and i am currently living with my relatives. everything is so expensive. my relatives are rich, but they do not treat me very well. i want to move out so bad, but i don't have the money. and my nuclear family believes that if i ever move out, my relatives in here will hate me forever and it'll give my nuclear family problems too. the program that i am currently enrolled in demands almost all of my time, so i don't spend time which causing lack of communication with my relatives here. they are not very understanding with how much time i have to dedicate for my school. and whenever we argue, i'll lose my concentration and just can't study. i feel very miserable every day cause i also think i am failing my classes. and i can't talk to anyone cause they'll just say i need prof help. they wont understand that what i am experiencing is NOT a clinical depression where you just cannot be happy no matter how perfect your life is. my situation is different. i have a difficult and empty life. i've been dealing with all these for ~3 years now. i've been so strong, you know? but nowadays when i wake up, the first thing i hear myself say is "i dont want to do this anymore" but i wake up anyway and do what i'm supposed to do. i am also in a spiritual distress. my relatives i live with dislike it when i practice my religion, so i pretended that i gave it up, and the only source i have for my religion information is just the internet and youtube. i used to pray everynight, but now adays, i've been losing sleep and i can't even pray my routine prayer and so i usually sleep, hugging my religion book cause i'm always so tired. my relatives here do not even "smile." i know it is as if im making it up, but they just do not smile. i feel like im going crazy everyday in here. it is like living in hell. the only thing that keeps me alive is the thought that this all will pass someday, and that i can gain my freedom someday by working hard in school. but now, i am actually failing my class due to fatigue, emotional and spiritual distress, lack of concentration, and lack of time. i feel very incompetent nowadays. life is just sooo hard in here. and today i secretly wish that i can just die faster so i dont have to go through this anymore. but don't worry, i am not gonna commit suicide because i understand about depression and clinical depression. i guess i just want to let all these out and get some emotional support, even from strangers. this will someday end. Thank you so much in advance. appreciate how lucky you are to have supportive family and have no financial problem. life is good to you. more

Resolved Question: Sexual tension with cousin?

Background info: I moved to another country for school, I won't say where but its in europe, and I've been only speaking the local language. I've been here since september of 2009. I have a bit of family here, but I live in my own apartment. I have a second cousin who's a year younger than me, and she has clearly taken a liking to me. Plenty of indicators of interest, calls me up every weekend to go out, usually clubbing. As I mentioned, this is europe, its not illegal to have a relationship with a cousin, but I don't know if its socially acceptable, I can't image it to be... Her great-grandmother is my grandma's sister, so she is a blood relative. I've been having mixed feeling about her. She's super fit and a real person, and I can't help feeling attracted to her at times. Now, I've had plenty of success with other girls here, so this isn't some desperate need for a female touch. I feel bad for leading her on, I don't even know what I want, but I like going out clubbing with her. Plenty of social value having her by my side, I've opened plenty with her, but I always feel guilty every time i get a number when shes with me, and I always kind of do it when she not looking. I feel guilty in general for 'running game' on her. A few weeks ago she compared me to a guy she went out with, and straight up told me she likes me better.. the way we dance, talk, and s**t, i didn't expect her to tell me straight up. She tells me things like she's lonely, but that could go both ways (lonely sexually/ lonely socially). I haven't taken it further than grinding on the dancefloor, pointed for her to kiss me on the cheek for a picture, and arm around her while sitting on a couch. It just felt natural and I wasn't thinking about it.. I'll be honest, my d**k wants to f*** her, but if I know its a realllllly bad idea. She's family... It would suck if it got all awkward afterwards, family events and s**t. Plus she's not just some girl I can just never see again if it goes sour. Even if I was to try and avoid her, we'll still keep running into eachother at family events. And assuming it doesn't get awkward (not right away) what next? I cant f***ing date her.... she lives with her parents who I'm sure are a little suspicious about our friendship as it is... if she starts seeing me more then what? If I keep it going the way it is, the sexual tension will just build, eventually I'll get slightly too drunk and start escalating it... and drunk f*** her, and thats the last thing I want to happen, because that will almost guarantee the post-awkwardness. I don't want to stop chilling with her, I know she would be heartbroken by it, but it would probably the best for her, even if she doesnt realize it. like i said, i enjoy spending time with her, and honestly, I've only been here for little while, and i dont have too many friends here, so i enjoy the mutual friendship with her, and I would hate to lose that over a drunk f***. I've taken a weekend off from her last weekend since I thought we've been chilling too much. I'm seeing her tonight though. I really don't know what to do. I can't help but think of the thrill of having a 'forbidden' thing with her. but it would never work. I'm an adrenalin junkie, and i thrive in those environments. But STILL. F**K! I don't know what to do. I don't even know why I'm typing this here, I guess I'm hoping for an off-chance that someone will read this who went through something similar and tell me which path they took and what happened for them........ but what are the odds of that happening? more

Voting Question: Les Cousins Dangereux (sexual tension with cousin)?

Background info: I moved to another country for school, I won't say where but its in europe, and I've been only speaking the local language. I've been here since september of 2009. I have a bit of family here, but I live in my own apartment. I have a second cousin who's a year younger than me, and she has clearly taken a liking to me. Plenty of indicators of interest, calls me up every weekend to go out, usually clubbing. As I mentioned, this is europe, its not illegal to have a relationship with a cousin, but I don't know if its socially acceptable, I can't image it to be... Her great-grandmother is my grandma's sister, so she is a blood relative. I've been having mixed feeling about her. She's super fit and a real person, and I can't help feeling attracted to her at times. Now, I've had plenty of success with other girls here, so this isn't some desperate need for a female touch. I feel bad for leading her on, I don't even know what I want, but I like going out clubbing with her. Plenty of social value having her by my side, I've opened plenty with her, but I always feel guilty every time i get a number when shes with me, and I always kind of do it when she not looking. I feel guilty in general for 'running game' on her. A few weeks ago she compared me to a guy she went out with, and straight up told me she likes me better.. the way we dance, talk, and s**t, i didn't expect her to tell me straight up. She tells me things like she's lonely, but that could go both ways (lonely sexually/ lonely socially). I haven't taken it further than grinding on the dancefloor, pointed for her to kiss me on the cheek for a picture, and arm around her while sitting on a couch. It just felt natural and I wasn't thinking about it.. I'll be honest, my d**k wants to f*** her, but if I know its a realllllly bad idea. She's family... It would suck if it got all awkward afterwards, family events and s**t. Plus she's not just some girl I can just never see again if it goes sour. Even if I was to try and avoid her, we'll still keep running into eachother at family events. And assuming it doesn't get awkward (not right away) what next? I cant f***ing date her.... she lives with her parents who I'm sure are a little suspicious about our friendship as it is... if she starts seeing me more then what? If I keep it going the way it is, the sexual tension will just build, eventually I'll get slightly too drunk and start escalating it... and drunk f*** her, and thats the last thing I want to happen, because that will almost guarantee the post-awkwardness. I don't want to stop chilling with her, I know she would be heartbroken by it, but it would probably the best for her, even if she doesnt realize it. like i said, i enjoy spending time with her, and honestly, I've only been here for little while, and i dont have too many friends here, so i enjoy the mutual friendship with her, and I would hate to lose that over a drunk f***. I've taken a weekend off from her last weekend since I thought we've been chilling too much. I'm seeing her tonight though. I really don't know what to do. I can't help but think of the thrill of having a 'forbidden' thing with her. but it would never work. I'm an adrenalin junkie, and i thrive in those environments. But STILL. F**K! I don't know what to do. I don't even know why I'm typing this here, I guess I'm hoping for an off-chance that someone will read this who went through something similar and tell me which path they took and what happened for the........ but what are the odds of that happening?first reply person: I made it clear I'm not 'settling' for her, I've had plenty of choice and will keep having it. thats not my issue. more

Resolved Question: Question about when you came out to your parents [or family in general]:?

About a year ago, I randomly came out to my cousin. We're were watching a movie and I said how the main actress was hot, so she asked if I was bi / lesbian [because I tend to comment on girls a lot lol] and I said I was pansexual [and spent the next hour explaining to her what that was]. Literally within three days of my telling her, my entire family knew. I got back from NY [where she lives] and walked into my own apartment to find my entire family, grandparents and all, for an intervention. An intervention! I had to sit there for four hours and listen to my mom cry about me never having babies for her [I have five other siblings, I think she'll have grand-kids by one of them and I'm not strictly "girls only" anyway], my dad cry about how I'm disgracing the family [who I met two years ago btw, so his vote on how horrible I am doesn't even count], and blah blah blah. To top everything off my cousin had told her mom that I wasn't gay I was pansexual, and somehow her mom became like my advocate and started saying all this stuff about how pansexual doesn't mean I'm gay it means I'm a freak. I don't like girls, I like being tied to things and beaten [wtf?]. It was bad. Very bad. Like "I wish I lived on the other side of the world" bad. Now people in my family don't talk to me, others stomach me but won't really have any contact with me outside of holiday gatherings, I even have some family who won't let me see their kids [because gay = pedophile apparently]. It's bad. I never wanted to tell anyone what was going on with me because I always get the over the top blown out of proportion response. I never realized I'd lose family [I mean they're family, blood relatives] because of who I am. Anyway, there was a point to this question. I swear. Did anyone have any type of experience like this when they came out. I can't be the only one who has crazy family members who treat them like the plague right?I'm sorry I know this was kind of me rambling, and I know parts of it seem like sort of jokingly - but idk. It gets to me how quickly I was shunned because I'm not 100% straight. more

Open Question: Hey There you all, Neck and Leg Break Sunday Arvo 7th March 2010 Sydney Aussies Got Talent:?

Australia's Got Talent: Does anyone know how many really gifted and tallented Aussies were at Sydney, Melbourne, etc, et al, for audition and by DVD CD for the Hundred On This Sunday arvo? There were thousands and all the staff were so very friendly and the Show Executive Producer, what a bloke! Came down and said they would audition all there it really impressed me, he knew what he wanted and did look smart very attentive and full on. I couldn't read the fine print on the disclaimer we signed to go on air I imagine its covering edifying what a Great Show Australia's Got Talent is? And, they never gave me a copy I am a blond Virgo Male, so I'd sign anything they told me, yeah, well I was having a really bad hair day!!! We men have hormones too, I think we are human, nope? There is a package there, actually no, tickets not arrive, dont worry I'll wing it anyone going? It promises to be an absolutely fantastic show, Am I performing yeah, but if we aint allowed to write how great it is? eewe? Um no of course not eh? So who else is in the show? Oh about a hundred, then orf to Brissie Moonie Ponds Perth and I looked for Adelaide think I got lost in the desert? Do you seriously think we would forget Perth after Adelaide? Um the desert is where? The show did too, well, not forget Adelaide? For the American's I think its near Cairns? Nah they're probably in the wineries, you need a hand finding them in Lader hosen country? Lets go dancing then instead? Well, I mean who would drink at the Adelaide ones, Sydney has the best, well actually, the Hunter has dont worry quick day trip away, what has this to do with the show? I have absolutely no idea? So Cheers and neck and leg break. Which brings me to today's Question? Even in Reality TV, why is Theatre so Ghastly Dramatic about broken limbs??? It's not lucky eh? Someone told me last year 33,000 auditioned for Australia and that this year was bigger better and had a whole bucket load more, not just Quality, but Quantity too, so fortunately for those through its a real honour, for those culled its massive eh, but what I like, everyone I met from audtioners to staff the show is an amazing melting pot of not just talent but really genuine down to earth decent folk getting bye but doing their level best in an exiting profession of highly intelligent people from diverse backgrounds. Truly fantastic show, you dunno wanna miss it!!! Hey, who is watching Susan Boyle on Chanel 7 this Sunday evening? What a gifted singer! I am a quarter Scotish the rest, must be the Paul Potts influence British, but look for the new crop. I cried when I heard the Mark Vincent Story last year, 15 year old kid sang to his family and a dear relative died, He now has a successful Opera Career, great little Melbourne Bloke, great career sang in the family restaurant, no not Macca's a real food one Italian! or was it British, nah same thing, except skip the Haggis anyday gives me wind!!! Enjoy the show, jokes aside it is a really great opportunity to see world talent!!! Now what was the question again? Nope I think I answered it? Oh!!! Sorry? Are you in it? If not dont winge, but tell me what you found positive useful and great? I think the show is absolutely fantastic!!!! Oh and that Thespian Tradition of Gore Violence to limbs etc, hey forget bout it, but not your lines!!! more

Resolved Question: Cheap motels near Anaheim/Orange area?

I'm going to be staying at least from April 22nd to April 26th, possibly longer, although there is a vague possibility of checking out a day or two early if I am offered a place to stay by a relative. I DO NOT CARE if there is a layer of filth on the floor, I'm cuddling rats, and playing whack-a-mole with cockroaches. I do not care if the staff is rude. I do not care if I have to do an Olympic-worthy run through a bevy of hookers and drug dealers to get to my room. I want a bathroom (preferably with a tub), electricity, and a bed. Don't even need a tv, though I'd imagine its pretty standard. I've had pretty dark times in my past, so rest assured that such an environment wouldn't ruin my vacation at all; I'm trying to avoid sleeping in my car, because I think that would. In the past, when I've gone places, I've done internet research on motels and hotels, and always found something cheaper advertised on a sign when I got there . . . I remember once stopping in Illinois and a front desk staff member assuring me I'd find nothing cheaper than his $55 a night. At the next interstate exit, I found one for $24. In my experience the cheapest rooms are unknown motels that don't show up online, so I'm sort of interested in those. It's just me staying and I am a smoker so a smoking room is ok, but I don't smoke inside at home so a nonsmoking room is fine as well. No pets. No need for amenities. Anything within about 15 miles is good; further is also ok if its cheap enough to make up for gas. I plan to go to Disneyland or other touristy places, but the primary function of the trip is meeting long-lost family. I've found a room that is listed as $35 for weekdays and $40 for the weekends; after taxes the four-night stay comes to about $168. I know that's not bad, but I've already taken too many "little luxuries" regarding this trip. I didn't do comparative rates on my rental car at all, so I'm trying to trim the fat. Thanks. more

Resolved Question: Whats wrong with my fiancee?! Is he very ill?

ok for two years he has had serious medical problems that have gone unexplained. So lets play mystery diagnosis and see if you can help figure out what is going on with him. Here are his symptoms... chest pain multiple times per day which ceases during activity or after consuming alcohol when the heart rate is elevated. Tongue is numb during the night and when he wakes up and last july it was numb for a whole week. Usually only on one side. Neck and jaw pain. Tingling sensation across the bridge of the nose which spreads to under each of his eyes. both of his arms have intermediate 'dull' pain cold sweaty feet without reason, such as stress or worry. tightness in chest. Occasional sensitivity to light short 'headaches' on one side of the head but that last less than ten minutes. Back of the eye pain. (not sure if its relative to 'headaches') now, heres some info that might be relevant. In the summer of 2002 he quickly gained 80lbs. and has steadily gained weight in small amounts since. In the fall of 2002 is when the chest pain began, followed by all the other symptoms a couple years later. He has no symptoms when his heart rate is elevated so during physical activity or when he drinks his symptoms are gone. Also, the symptoms never occur when he lays down. To sleep or just to rest, if he lays down in bed it all goes away. But, every morning when he stands up from bed is when it starts and then gradually throughout the day worsens. All of his Grandparents have heart problems or High blood pressure, as does his father. His mother had a brain tumor removed several years ago, and his paternal grandfather just suffered a massive stroke 3 nights ago, and he was one of the healthiest and most active people i've ever known. these symptoms have reached a severe level and are worrying me and he has been at this level for about 2 years. he has gone to the ER about 7 times in that time span and every time gets a clean bill of health. MRI's, EKG's, testing of thyroid and all sorts of other tests and screenings, including blood work. please please help me figure out what is wrong with my fiancee. i have a 9 month old daughter and i am a stay at home mom and student and we depend on him for everything. i can't lose him. please help us. more

Resolved Question: I've heard different opinions on going bankrupt?

I had a relative go bankrupt like alot of people are doing these days. He had a good job but his bills were too much to handle I suppose after his wife walked out on him and he had to pay child support too. So he let the bank have everything and mortgage company. I've had bad credit for sometime not because I'm a deadbeat but because of low paying jobs and losing jobs because of illness and poor health. Is it worse to have bad credit when trying to rent a place or bankruptcy. I am tired of being hounded by this one collection agency. I am on a pension now and I know they can't touch my social security but tired of being hounded. Is it true after 7 years everything is written off on your credit report? I want to move to another state because I am tired of where I am living. I usually just pay cash for everything else and always paid cash for any vehicles I've owned too. more

Resolved Question: Do all our Jew Fed govt officials side with Israel or the US, such as Chertoff covering up 911 Mossad suspects?

The non-investigation of 9-11 was controlled by Michael Chertoff, the son of an Israeli Mossad agent and an orthodox rabbi. Chertoff oversaw the destruction of the thousands of tons of steel from the World Trade Center - crucial evidence that was shipped to Asian smelters and melted down. While Chertoff destroyed the evidence of 9-11, government appointed doctors prescribed Prozac for the grieving relatives and Kenneth Feinberg began his war of attrition on the 9-11 families. As the sole person responsible for distributing the money from the Victims Compensation Fund, Feinberg paid out nearly $7 billion to families in compensation - if they would sign the agreement not to sue the airlines or the Israeli airport security firm involved in 9-11 (Huntleigh USA/ICTS). More than 98 percent of the families accepted the money from the Feinberg-managed fund. The amounts of the payments and the amounts paid to Diane Feinberg and the 30 lawyers are not known. The American people deserve to know how the funds were used and who got paid. To understand why American Jews are willing to commit and cover-up serious crimes, even treason, on behalf of the state of Israel one needs to understand that most religious Jews in America are first obliged to serve Israel - a foreign state. American Jews are, for this reason, conflicted. Their religion obliges them to make "aliya" and live in Israel but most would prefer to stay in the United States. Hundreds of thousands of Israelis have chosen to leave "the Jewish state" and now live in the United States. While they are unwilling to leave the comfort of the United States and immigrate to Israel (aliya), most religious Jews in the United States feel strongly compelled to support and defend the state of Israel. To fulfill their obligation to the state of Israel, Zionist Jews in America have created hundreds of organizations to raise funds and support for the Zionist state in Palestine. These organizations are consolidated under an umbrella organization called the Jewish Agency. The Jewish Agency and the World Zionist Organization are two parts of the same Zionist enterprise that operates in the United States and around the world. The Jewish Agency was the Zionist organization that became the state of Israel in 1948 when a Jewish state was established in Palestine. The Jewish Agency, then headed by David Ben Gurion, literally became the apparatus of the Zionist state and Ben Gurion became the first prime minister of Israel. The Jewish Agency, headquartered in New York City after World War II, organized and funded the Haganah, the Zionist militia in Palestine, as well as the terrorist groups known as the Irgun and LEHI (the Stern Gang). Using these groups, the Jewish Agency created the Mossad LeAliyah Bet (the Agency for Illegal Immigration) in 1938 to smuggle illegal Jewish immigrants and weapons into Palestine. The Jewish Agency and the Mossad worked together to bring many thousands of Jews to Palestine - illegally - from Yemen, Iraq, Egypt, and Europe. The Jewish Agency was the Mossad. The Jewish Agency and the Mossad continued to work together after the creation of the state of Israel to bring Jews to the Zionist state. The hard-line Zionists who run Israel today are actually fighting a losing battle with demographics. The Arab population around them is growing quickly while many Israelis are leaving the Jewish state. The Israeli population has become more Russian, more extremist, and less Western in its outlook than at any time since the founding of the state in 1948. Ariel Sharon, the now comatose prime minister who ran Israel in 2001, dreamed of bringing one million Jews to Israel from the United States. In this effort he worked closely with the Jewish Agency. The current prime minister, Benjamin Netanyahu, is a dangerous extremist who said 9-11 was "very good" for U.S.-Israeli relations on the very day of the attacks. Netanyahu has openly advocated mass expulsions of Palestinians from the Occupied Territories. During a 1989 lecture at Bar Ilan University, he said: "Israel should have exploited the repression of the demonstrations in China, when world attention focused on that country, to carry out mass expulsions of the Arabs of the territories." Later, he stated, "I still believe that there are opportunities to expel many people." more

Voting Question: What should I name my book?

I'm writing a book andni don't have a name for it yet, please help me out with the name of the book and names of cities and people. This book is about boys life growing up in somewhat of anchient Asia and when he turns sixteen he discovers he is adopted and so he sets off on a journey to find himself and learns many things including the way of the sword and martial arts. Near the climax of the book he ends up discovering he is a missing link to a long lost dynasty that ruled the country for many years and the emperor Now is his father who had given him up to his thaught to be parents. Well weeks later the emperor dies and he has to get to the royal palace because they have also discovered that the emperor had a first born son that he had givin up and they were told that the one who is missing has a tattoo on there right arm that is identicle to the symbol of the man who onced ruled the great empire. He then struggles through many obsticles but gets to the royal palace on time and proves that he is the dynasties lost relative and they believe him and at the end he sits in the throne and everyone in the crowd bows down to the floor.Copyright 2009 it is illegal to steal any ideas from this question and those who do are doing plagurisim and that is against the law! more

Resolved Question: Daycare Provider has no idea how to handle this without losing a friend?

I run a home daycare. Our friends have a child who is a super brat and the sad thing is they have no clue. They know I have openings and now want me to babysit him. I can't say I don't take friends/relatives because they know that I do. He isn't a baby, he is a big boy in Kindergarten so it would be half a day every day. It is important to me that I only have great kids in my care so that I have a nice group. He is so bratty that he'll destroy my house and terrorize the little kids. I can probably handle him but it would take some training and time....and I am not sure his parents would support my tougher love/discipline/rules as they baby and spoil him rotten. What the heck do I do? I don't want to lose our friends over this. I am at a total loss. Any suggestions? more

Resolved Question: SPANISH EASY! very fast!?

Translate using relative pronouns 1. The girl whose name is John 2. The exam I am preparing for. 3. My parent's parents, whom seem young for their age, look great. 4. The girl that always talks to me. 5. The girl I always talk to. 6. I heard what you said. 7. He is the man I am in love with. 8. She is the girl who likes grapes. 9. He who waits is lost. 10. This classroom, inside of which never has normal students smell bad. more

Resolved Question: Would you ever leave a 2.5 year old with family for two nights?

I've spent one night away from my son ever, which was a couple of months ago, my dad and I went to a Paul McCartney concert in London (we're midlands UK) and my son stayed with my grandparents (and had a great time I'll add and was better behaved for them than he's ever been for me!). Ok so, news just in my inbox, PM is playing again in London at the end of June (anybody who knows me knows what a die-hard fan I am, words can't even explain what I feel about seeing him live!!!), tickets go on sale Thursday, so I'm going to ask if I can do the same again, have my son spend a night with my grandparents and go down with my dad and sister. Thing is last time we were at a huge venue and we were sooo far away from the stage he was just a dot without the big screens, so I've sworn next time get in early and no matter how much it costs get close to the stage. Well this time it's an outdoors venue and first come first served with regards to seating. I'm going to try and get a VIP package meaning we'll be in a box close to the stage, but if they all sell out or are too pricey then I'm thinking of going down the day before and camping out so I can get pretty much to the front (I know I sound like a teenager but ugh, paul mccartney!!!) - but this would mean leaving my son for two nights. I have no doubt he'd have a brilliant time with them, and they loved having him last time, but do you think it's too much to leave a 2.5 year old for 2 nights with relatives? Especially only a few months since him staying overnight before, am I being irresponsible? Be honest - anything Beatle related puts me into a craze and I lose sight of all my priorities so tell me if this is not okay and I'll survive!!Oh and a Bonus Q: How old would you say a child should be before being taken to concerts like this? Or not so much like this one but indoor seated concerts so there will be no crowd push. I know my son is far too young at the moment, but just wondering about the future, I'd love him to see Paul McCartney before he stops touring!No TDs from me by the way! Bringing him with me crossed my mind, but knowing his temperement at the moment there is just no way he'd do well in that sort of environment, big crowds of pushy people and loud noise is not his cuppa tea at all, he doesn't like being held for long periods of time (and my back couldn't cope with that!) and having him standing amongst adults all pressing forwards would be suffocating and possibly dangerous at his height. Not to mention tickets aren't cheap and I'd prefer to spend that kind of money on him when he's old enough to enjoy it. And also the flat we'll be staying in the night after the concert (my uncle's) has a balcony with a door that can't be locked so I'd need to stay in a hotel which I don't really have the funds for. Fingers crossed this won't be his last tour and my son can come along in a year or two!! more

Resolved Question: Delayed SSDI application new details?

You don't need to answer again unless you have more details to add. I am just reposting with clarified details. Dealing with SSDI delayed application? I began my application for SSDI about 10 months ago. Before I was able to complete it, my condition deteriorated more. I became incompetent and unable to complete the application on my own. My partner was supposed to deal with SSA, although my blood relatives who are only relatives on paper were in charge of me. No one touched the application. A few weeks ago, I regained control of my life and checked on the status of my application. I was told I had to start a new one since it had been more than 6 months and that my benefits might only start with the date of the new application. How can this be, I was too disabled to apply for SSDI, so I can't get benefits for that time period? They told me it was 6 months, not 30 days. I did have an application number. I was in a drug induced coma for a good part of the time, incoherent unable to communicate some of the time, etc. I am still in recovery, but can at least communicate and be in charge of my own affairs. I printed the page. It's still in my records. It says APPLICATION NUMBER: xxxxxxxx It says 'we may use 05/2009 as the application date' 'We must receive the signed application by 11/2010 or you may lose Social Security benefits' What SSA kindness?While You are wasting your time making stupid comments, why don't you seek out some cognitive rehab. What gives you the inclination that I am waiting for my next drug induced coma and am not proceeding with the application? more

Resolved Question: Long distance relationship dilemma, need advice?

First of all if you are going to say anything homophobic don't bother, I'll have Y!A remove it. So, my boyfriend and I have never lived together, because we met online and he lives in Canada and I'm in the US. I have known him for several years and we really love each other. However, recently he lost his job (what a surprise in this economy...) This creates problems mainly for him coming to live / work here. Basically he could not work here (doesn't have degree in what US needs or job)... He could not move here under a Visa via Spouse either (since the US is so anti-gay) and has no US relatives. So that pretty much means no working in the US... The other alternative is me moving there (Canadian immigration laws allow for same-sex couples), either after I finish the rest of my college (another 1.5 - 2 more years) which would mean even more time apart, or if I transferred universities next semester (I hate my current one anyway), which would mean moving up there in 6 months versus 24. He still has not found a new job (has only been a short time though) He could technically spend some time with me down here but cannot get a job without a Visa. It seems it would be easier for me to go up there... but that means even more waiting, and it also involves student loan complications and parents (who are still paying for a portion of my student loan) Any advice? more

Voting Question: relative pronouns...please help me out?

Identifying the Use of Relative Pronouns. Identify the use of each of the relative pronouns by giving the pronoun and label as subject, direct object, object of a preposition, or adjective. EXAMPLE: The book which she asked for is too expensive. object of a preposition 1. This is the restaurant which was described in the magazine. 2. The story that she told is hardly plausible. 3. It is Judy whose invitation was lost. 4. Our governor, who has a large private income, travels often. 5. Grandfather saves stamps which portray different animals. 6. Is this the time that we have waited for? 7. A team which doesn’t improve should be reorganized. 8. Yes, it is I who wrote the appeal to the President. 9. The book that she read deals with foreign policy. 10. Here are the train tickets that we lost. anything that can help me out would be great thank you more

Resolved Question: Friend in need. Can someone help?

My friend's brother has two kids 2 and under. One morning it was discovered that child A, the eldest, was walking with a limp after getting out of bed. The child was taken to the hospital, and by standard practice and procedure, the hospital called DHS. It was discovered that child A has a fractured femur. It is completely unknown how this could have happened, as my friend's brother is not abusive, loves his children, and takes care of them. Child B has preexisting medical issues. The children's mother has taken a questionable amount of effort to a part of the kids' lives, but this is beside the point. DHS deemed that the children should be placed in the care of a nearby relative, but in doing so it is blatantly clear that the relatives chosen would not let the father have custody of the kids and he may never see them again. DHS advised this as the first of two options, the other being the state taking the children and placing them in foster care. I was wondering what action can be taken to prevent the father from losing custody of the children. Parents are still married, but the friend of which I speak lives in a different state than the children and their parents, but have offered the father and the kids a place to stay. I am aware that some might consider taking the children out of their current state of residence kidnapping, but there is no reason that the father, at the very least, should lose custody of the children. He is a good parent and loves his kids. Would anyone know of a loophole, or should I just go with my original plan and tell my friend that her brother should call a lawyer for advice?The mother's parents are the relatives chosen, and they have poorly founded personal problems with the father. Their issues with the father are trivial and have nothing to do with the way he fathers the children. They have no right to take sole custody and it is obvious that if they did, the children would not be happy and whether or not they will be properly provided for is also questionable. more