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U.S. Asks Educators to Reinvent Student Tests, and How They Are Given - Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

the federal No Child Left Behind law has emphasized helping low-achieving students improve their basic reading and math, encouraging states to produce tests that have measured relatively low-level skills.

Chef Martin Hamann brings 'the wow factor' to the Union League - Philadelphia Daily News

left the Four Seasons Philadelphia in 2008 after an amazing 25-year run to take over the top toque position at the Union League ... the style and culinary prowess behind the overhaul of the club's tired dining space,

Wrapping up the preseason - AZCentral.com

... No. 2 quarterback job behind Derek Anderson. It's pragmatic to temper praise ... I hope we have difficult decisions like this from now on at every position. Four years ago, we didn't have this tough of a ...

Matt Leinart: From USC to UFL? What Happened? - Bleacherreport.com

... position behind two-time league MVP Kurt Warner ... Boldin responded: “Honestly no. That’s just because I’ ve been there and witnessed the relationship between both Matt and Coach Whisenhunt. So I’m ...

Another child left in casino parking lot - Philadelphia Daily News

... child. Bensalem Public Safety Director Fred Harran said Salter left his grandson around 3:30 p.m. "No air was on," Harran ... under 13 - one of them 15 months old - who were left behind while their parents ...

Prognosticators mock "The Man" - Bonesville

the few that find themselves in that position only get there when they carry with ... Consider this: Tulsa is largely considered the third best team in the west behind Houston and Southern Methodist. The Golden ...

Hopkinton High School opens its doors to the world - Abington Mariner

no one came. Then this year everything worked out ... grandparents or parents take the children to sit by the window and tell them the folklore associated with this holiday and eat the moon cakes. Yvette Madany of ...

The Generation That Can't Move On Up - Wall Street Journal

... may be their children ... participation no longer exist? Will working-class young adults begin to devalue marriage and religion, or will they fiercely hold onto these ideals because their values are all that ...

Learning Who You Are Through What You Eat - NPR News

But how to communicate to my child the other half of her story ... The skins of the chickpeas will be left behind in the sieve. Discard skins. Rinse food processor and blade, and return the puree to the processor.

The real score on Race to the Top - Everything Alabama Blog

We saw what federal “reform” looked like with No Child Left Behind. Our state officials asked for more. All it got them was a slap in the face.

Voting Question: How to long distance parent effectively when the other parent has a different parenting style?

I am a single father of 8 children who I parent full time, however my 9th child age 10 is from a different relationship and his mother has custody for the school year, and I have custody for the full summer and maybe a week or two during the year. He lives in the states while I live in the uk. He is a good kid but very strong willed, he gets away with a lot while with his mother, allowed to backtalk and behave in a way I would never allow my other children to. I wouldn't consider myself very strict but my children at home are expected to have commen curtesy say for example that if going through a door first not to let the door slam in the face of someone behind you, to instead hold it open for them, say hello to visitors and make polite conversation with them etc. They are thought to respect each other, no put downs or bullying is allowed. For my kids at home this has worked great and they are very well behaved respectable personable and polite kids who get along well. However when my son comes for the summer he is used to getting away with back chat, teasing his siblings or even hitting them at times and by my standards not being very polite to visitors etc. In his mothers these standards are just not expected of him and he can wind his mother around his little finger, he tends to whine if he dosent get his own way and will persist until he does. My other children would never get away with this behavior and while in my house he doesnt either however he still tries it as he is used to getting his own way by doing this with his mother. I want him to grow up into a man who can pass himself well and make a good impression on others. I don't want him thinking its normal or acceptable to be cruel to others. However when first comes I feel like I am on his case the whole time, trying to undo these bad habits, how do I strike this balance? I don't feel I should drop my standards as it would be unfair to my other kids but at the same time feel guilty because I spend less time with him 25 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer. Additional Details Theres no point in saying anything to his mother, she doesn't see it as a problem and its just the way she is, I don't think she could change even if she wanted too She is a very good mum but can be inconsistant when following through on consequences etc 37 seconds ago Yeah I do feel like the bad guy a lot :( 0 seconds ago 2 hours ago - 4 days left to answer. Don't get me wrong I do not criticise him constantly and he does get A LOT of positive reinforcement in my house, I make a point of this as his stepfather tends to criticise him a lot and is very nagative towards his behavior as his son (my sons half brother) is a more easy going child and thus "better behaved" in his view. Its just disheartening when he comes back having unlearnt everything. I worry about what he will be like as a teen, he is such a smart kid he skipped fourth grade and is tagged as gifted and talented and I just worry that he will go totally off the rails as a teen 1 hour ago more

Resolved Question: Pregnant with my 2nd child...?

I've seen people post questions like this before. And I'm sure every woman has it going through her head during her 2nd pregnancy, but for me it just seems harder to believe...my concern is that I won't love my 2nd son as much as my first. =( I know it's sad to say, and I would never favor one child over another. But I'm just worried I can't offer the same kind of love to my 2nd son(due in Nov). Here's why I believe this: With my first pregnancy. It was a dream come true at first. Then turned to a nightmare. Judge me, I do not care. I was with my b/f for 3 almost 4 years, we had been trying to get pregnant for 2 years, no luck. He started working 3rd shift, when I was working 2nd, so it was hard for us to spend much time together like we had been doing in the past. Well, I had gotten back in touch with some old friends, began partying and ran into an old crush. BF found out, decided we should just take a break. He didn't like that I was friends with the old crush. I was so depressed he wanted to take a break. Well we were apart for about a month, I slept with my old crush 3 times, protected!!! Condom only though. I was not on BC. A week after I had slept with him for the last time, my ex and I got back together. We of course, had sex too. Then he decided I should move in with him. So I did. We had sex a lot more, unprotected, trying to get pregnant. Seemed perfect. A few weeks go by, and I find out I;m pregnant. Of course, we think nothing of the crush b/c that had been protected. Well, long story short. My ex's mom is a nosy bitch and heard us talking it over one night. She decided to step in and pay for the paternity test. At 3 months old, we found out my son was not my lovers. =( He had been there the whole pregnancy, we did the nursery together, baby shower together, he was by my side during labor and delivery. It was SO perfect. Everything I ever imagined!! So shortly after finding out my son was not my lovers we just kind of went our separate ways, he was hurt of course. And didn't know what to do. And I didn't either. I told the other guy. He was shocked. Paternity test for him came back a positive match. He was a POS "father" the first year of my sons life. He didn't have a job, so I was raising him all on my own. Never filed for child support. After my son turned 1, his father came around more, and I opened my apartment up to him so he could be around his son more and vice verse. I ended up falling for his slick talk and other BS. We dated on and off before my sons 1st b'day too btw. Well, we had finally made it officially in January that we were "together". Beginning of Feb he moved to FL after accepting a job. And he said he'd like it if I'd move wth him, after my lease ended in May. DUMMY me, I did. Oh, but In March we had found out that we're pregnant with #2. So that gave me more of a reason to move with him, plus things were going great, we talked on the phone all the time, web cammed. So I moved from MD, left my whole fam. behind, to go to FL. It was good at first. He told me not to find a job and stay at home with our 18 mth old. But now we never have money to do anything fun. I'm about 6 months pregnant and can't find a job down here to help out. And I can't seem to stop thinking about my ex and how perfect things were between us during my first pregnancy. And how happy I was. And I kind of feel like the way my bf and my relationship is, will have effect on my love for my second son. I know now I love him already. But I know I love my first born more than ANYTHING in this world after all I have been through. So has anyone been through any similar situation? My mom was there for me, always is, and she told me a friend of hers was married, trying to get pregnant, they split for a bit and then she got pregnant by another guy. But I need to hear personal experiences to make me feel better, you know? It doesn't help that all my friends are with people they love and getting pregnant. I'm not sure I "love" my b/f. I know I don't care for him like I did/do my ex. I feel like I'll never love another man the way I love him. Still love him, more than a year after all that. Blahhh, I guess this is just me venting! lol But I really want to know how other woman felt when they were pregnant with their 2nd child. My son is 18 months old right now, he'll be about 22-23 months when my 2nd is born.Sorry it's so long!!! =(Very sad...I'm suprised I've held up so well through all of this. And I know that's why I feel so close to my 18 month old. There were many nights when I just held him in his sleep and bawled my eyes out. =( more

Resolved Question: What is your opinion this lady?

Alright, maybe this is not a question, but I´m so angry! During summer I help out at a kids´ corner at a mall. Today was quite calm, but right before I was about to leave, a lady came to pick her 3-year-old son. The son was a nice kid who was just coloring pictures and eating a chocolate bar his mother had given him before she left, while his mother was shopping or something. Thing is that when the mother came, she noticed that his light blue tee was a BIT dirty with chocolate and got angry and she started spanking him. I came to her and told her to stop. She did stop, but she turned to me and asked "You´re not a parent, are you?" "I´m not, but I believe that violence is a correct way of treating your son, madam." "I don´t care what you believe! I hope you never have kids of your own, they would surely be brats without being spanked!" I didn´t even know what to say. I mean, that hurt so much! Her son took my hand was trying to hide behind me, but she grabbed his wrist and pulled him away. I finally took a breath, looked her in the eyes and said "You can be glad then. In fact I never be able to give birth to a child. But don´t be too glad, I am ready to adopt a kid one day. And no offence, madam, but I´m positive I will be a much better mother than you." "Don´t be rude to me! And don´t judge me, I´m an adult, you´re just a kid!" she said and left before I could respond. Sorry it was so long but I guess you needed the background to be able to express your opinion on her. I mean, how CAN she tell me she hopes I will never become a mother! And call me a kid - I mean, it´s not like I´m 12 or something, I´m 19, for Christ´s sake! And she wasn´t older than 25 herself! Why do you think some people are so mean?@ K , yes, the style is identical, because I translated the conversation, originally it was not in English...What do you mean by "almost calling her an abusive mom"? She IS! And I think I had the right to tell something when I witnessed a kid being spanked. The boy did nothing wrong!@ Jules, E and Liam - well, I agree that MOST moms know what is best for their kids. But not all of them. Many of them abuse their kids. And spanking a 3y/o boy because he made his tee dirt with chocolate SHE had given him is definitely wrong.@ a chick - in our country hitting kids is not legal more

Resolved Question: Would you judge my baby?

I'm always interested to see what different cultures make of me. Well everyone has first impressions and judgments of people. Life is far from easy, far from fair. I know people judge me for being a teen mum but I don't care what they think of me, I really have stopped caring. They are immature in most cases and will realize how foolish they were to judge me when they eventually (if ever) have their own wonders of life (children). I am a teen mom to be. I am 17 weeks. Yes, I admit that it is hard and I know that I will have to drop out of school next term. For me, abortion was never an option. My midwife has suggested that I keep my child for at least a six month period to see how I'm coping before even considering adoption. I intend to follow this advice. The father of my baby is not around but I am an independent woman of the 21st century, I can cope. Pregnancy is hard but it gets easier. The 2nd trimester is the time to go on holiday, take a break from the stress! My pregnancy is uncomplicated and I am hoping for a home birth but it is unrecommended, only time will tell. I am loving that I can spend every minute of every day with my child. This is what you have to remember, it gives you a great boost of positivity! Falling pregnant was an accident, yes I was foolish and I don't even like like the father. I didn't know what I was doing but you could call it my own fault I suppose and it was an accident on both parts, I admit that. I am a decent person and know it would be unfair to press charges. I mean I liked him as a friend but not in a way that I want him to be the father of my baby. To be completely honest, I am not sure 100% of the father. The possible father left me very soon after, before I knew I was pregnant and we have NO contact, it was a brief, short, too sweet to be true relationship, if you can even call i t that! I can feel the baby kicking now and reality sinks in. I act confident but I'm scared instead. I'm scared of complications, of labour, of being a bad mom. However this is normal and as long as I know my baby is safe inside me for now, I feel comforted. It has changed my idea of my future though, I can scrap the idea of school, a full-time job, university, a boyfriend etc...well I might have a little time for boyfriends...maybe. What I'm trying to say is that no matter what, being pregnant is the best experience of my life and I would tell anyone in doubt of having children to wait until you are ready. To those of you who are accidentally pregnant, I would say that at first it seems so unreal but I promise, it gets easier. Women quickly mature during pregnancy. I will give anything for my baby and want nothing but the best for her. I happen to be a teen. I know some of you diisagree with this. I did too until I fell pregnant. I now understand what it's like for teen mum's and how much pressure they are put under by judgmental people! It is the 21st century, we all make mistakes but why not turn something negative into something positive?! 7 months ago, I was an ordinary teen and like alot of you, couldn't imagine being pregnant. Of course, it didn't even cross my mind. Women mature so much during pregnancy, they have to, they can't have a child while they are (mentally) still a child themselves! I have support behind me if I need it, but right now, me and Corra are facing the world by ourselves. I don't want my baby being judged as a "result of a crime" before she is even born, before she can make her own path. Every one of us has regrets but being pregnant with my little girl is the best thing that's ever happened to me, not a regret. Life's tough but it's even tougher when people judge you before you can even talk, let alone stand up for yourself. Do you guys agree? more

Resolved Question: I want the best for my child! What is your problem with teen mum's?

I am a teen mom to be. I am 17 weeks. Yes, I admit that it is hard and I know that I will have to drop out of school next term. For me, abortion was never an option. My midwife has suggested that I keep my child for at least a six month period to see how I'm coping before even considering adoption. I intend to follow this advice. The father of my baby is not around but I am an independent woman of the 21st century, I can cope. Pregnancy is hard but it gets easier. The 2nd trimester is the time to go on holiday, take a break from the stress! My pregnancy is uncomplicated and I am hoping for a home birth but it is unrecommended, only time will tell. I am loving that I can spend every minute of every day with my child. This is what you have to remember, it gives you a great boost of positivity! Falling pregnant was an accident, yes I was foolish and I don't even like like the father. I didn't know what I was doing but you could call it my own fault I suppose and it was an accident on both parts, I admit that. I am a decent person and know it would be unfair to press charges. I mean I liked him as a friend but not in a way that I want him to be the father of my baby. To be completely honest, I am not sure 100% of the father. The possible father left me very soon after, before I knew I was pregnant and we have NO contact, it was a brief, short, too sweet to be true relationship, if you can even call i t that! I can feel the baby kicking now and reality sinks in. I act confident but I'm scared instead. I'm scared of complications, of labour, of being a bad mom. However this is normal and as long as I know my baby is safe inside me for now, I feel comforted. It has changed my idea of my future though, I can scrap the idea of school, a full-time job, university, a boyfriend etc...well I might have a little time for boyfriends...maybe. What I'm trying to say is that no matter what, being pregnant is the best experience of my life and I would tell anyone in doubt of having children to wait until you are ready. To those of you who are accidentally pregnant, I would say that at first it seems so unreal but I promise, it gets easier. Women quickly mature during pregnancy. I will give anything for my baby and want nothing but the best for her. I happen to be a teen. I know some of you diisagree with this. I did too until I fell pregnant. I now understand what it's like for teen mum's and how much pressure they are put under by judgmental people! It is the 21st century, we all make mistakes but why not turn something negative into something positive?! 7 months ago, I was an ordinary teen and like alot of you, couldn't imagine being pregnant. Of course, it didn't even cross my mind. Women mature so much during pregnancy, they have to, they can't have a child while they are (mentally) still a child themselves! I have support behind me if I need it, but right now, me and Corra are facing the world by ourselves. I don't want my baby being judged as a "result of a crime" before she is even born, before she can make her own path. Every one of us has regrets but being pregnant with my little girl is the best thing that's ever happened to me, not a regret. Life's tough but it's even tougher when people judge you before you can even talk, let alone stand up for yourself. Do you guys agree? more

Resolved Question: what do you think of this true love story of mine?

FIRST LOVE The biggest loss of not having a very good memory is perhaps that it is difficult to remember your old days. I remember my early school days only in pictures . On really thinking hard,I see myself as a 5 year old riding a toy horse ,trying to sleep on the huge carpet in the classroom . But the fear that I would be left alone once I sleep never let me enjoy a nap in my nursery classroom. Then I remember getting 99% in 2nd class, but being sad because my best friends got full marks.These are just glimpses of the past. Till the 5th grade, there’s no complete memory…..except one….. when it was the first time I had a crush,or perhaps was in love,for I have never known the difference between the two. I remember only one day of my 3rd class…..the first day…..and only one part of it…..the morning assembly. Morning assembly was the time when we first got to meet our friends after entering the new class,only 3 topics were discussed on the first day….new students….previous class result……and the new homeroom teacher. I joined in the conversation my friends were having about the new entries. “he’s so thin,even I can beat him without any help” said Himanshu. “what’s his name?”somebody asked,I don’t remember who did. “pulkit” came the reply. The conversation went on for some time,as we had come early for the assembly so the we could discuss everything about the new class. Most students were wearing new dresses,including me….with my hair well oiled and combed ,new knickers,long enough to touch the knees,new socks,a pair of shoes shining brightly to show that they were also new,and most importantly,a new spotless shirt. I have never dressed better than this all my life , not yet. “make your lines”our sports teacher shouted from the stage ,with a mike in his hand.We began to align ourselves. It was then that I got the first glimpse of her, beautifully dressed in a pink frock,her hair well tightened to form a ponytail,she was the most amazing sight of beauty I had ever seen,and that is perhaps the reason I’ll always remember that morning assembly.We formed the line height-wise,and the different sections of a class stood next to each other.She was standing in between 3A-my section and 3B,the next section, clueless about what to do,as she was new to the school. “Come to 3A,come to 3A” I kept whispering,praying to god that she would come to 3A. But she had other plans,as she chose 3B. My heart drowned, I did not know why,because till then,all we knew about boys and girls was that they were enemies,and boys were better than girls.Now,I think,that for me this was the time the enimosity ended. I stood in my line,devastated that she was in 3B.Just before the assembly began,our homeroom teacher joined in. “she’s Poonam Bhatnagar”himanshu whispered to me from behind,”the most cruel teacher you’ll ever see”.It looked so,from her face.She looked like a wicked witch,and I made it a point to stay away from her as much as possible. The prayer began, with class 9th music choire singing a prayer written by our hindi teacher. I was not interested,for my dream girl stood just a few yards away from me.I tried to stop myself from looking at her again and again,but had no control over my eyes. Then I saw mrs Poonam bhatnagar asking her if her name was Maya Fetcher. She replied in positive,and at once I got to know her name,Maya Fetcher. The prayer ended at that moment and we went through a small round of “stand-at-ease” and “attention” at the command of our sports teacher. My face again turned towards Maya and I saw that our homeroom teacher was still talking to her. “you are standing in the wrong line,child”she said,”you are in my class.” There, the witch became my angel. The next memory I have is neither of 3rd class,nor of the 4th. I don’t exactly remember what happened during those two years,all I I know is that I had started talking to Maya and now she was my friend.Also,that many other boys had the feelings for her as I did. She was now the reason of a competition between the boys,to prove to her that they were the best match for her.Nobody ever said anything to anyone else,but everyone knew everything.Maya seemed to enjoy it,she had made friends with all the boys who liked her. I have always told everyone that 5th class was my best year,but with time I have forgotten all the small reasons,but I do remember the biggest reason : I had won the so-called “competition” between the boys. It happened on the last day of our final exams of 5th class that I first heard the sentence which I have had to use very frequently from that time. ”I need to talk to you” Maya had said at the end of the last exam.I was standing in the school ground with my two best friends and I felt a little embarrassed. We were still in 5th class ,and a girl wanting to talk to a boy in private was a “strange” thing.Nikhil gupta and Pulkit,my friends,decided to leave us alone. “let’s go there, more

Resolved Question: Girls what do you think I should do?

I met my girl friend online a few months ago. It is a long distance relationship. She lives 250 miles away from me by car. I have visited her 5 maybe 6 times. She has visited me once and then I drove her here and back to hers. She has a 10 month old child but she lives with her parents and her mother helps her alot. Anyway at the beginning we were very close and I couldn't keep her off me. She said I love you first, txt me every day, msn every other day. She hasn't much money although she works. She had a single bed which we shared when I was there. Very uncomfortable. I had a spare pine double bedstead in my guest room. I offered to give it to her and she enthusiastically accepted. I had a really poor mattress with it. I gave this to her and apologised telling her I'd get her a good one when I could afford it. She declined saying she would get it. I said no i'll sort it and we left it at that. Long story short I bought her a mattress online. I posted her the link first to see if she liked it as it was a bargain - on sale. She liked it, I bought it. I visited her last weekend. Since bought the mattress she was quite cold with me, acting uninterested, always saying she was either tired, ill or busy. I thought this was just due to the child. The whole weekend I was with her she treated me very badly. Said some hurtful things, paid me no attention whatsoever, showed me zero affection and pushed me away. The evening before I was due to leave she told me she was very unhappy I bought her the mattress and explained why. I was understanding and said I wished she had have told me sooner and that I wont do anything like that again without checking first. I explained that I did it because I care about her and she constantly complained about the old mattress and that her back was killing her and she wasn't sleeping. I made it clear that I had good intentions and that I didn't want her to feel like she owed me something in return (although thats obviously how she did feel). I txt her yesterday to tell her I was home safe after a 6 hr car journey home. Usually she would txt to ask where I was and if I was home and kill the boredom of my journey. She didn't return my txt until 4 hrs after I got home and she blamed it on her having a maniac day. She just work as an office assistant for a small business. It takes several seconds to reply to a txt message. I txt her back, she replied, I sent one more wishing her good night and she didn't reply. The dreaded mattress was delivered today. She txt me this morning at 10:30 am saying "Hiya just to let you know the mattress arrived so thanks for that x" My dilemma is should I reply to this and if yes what should I say. I understand hy she was unhappy about the mattress and I have told her this and asked if we can just put it behind us. However I still think she is being cold with me and I am pretty sick of it. I don't wanna start another fight but I am not putting up with her behaviour anymore, I really don't deserve it. If I don't reply she will be pissed. If my reply is too short and dry she will be pissed. If it is too nice and positive she'll probably be pissed too. So Should I reply and if yes what should I say. Bear in mind too its a late reply. We usually always reply immediately and if we don't give a good reason for late reply. ThanksI talked to my sister and she advises that I dont reply to her txt. That I should let her stew over things. Sis suggested to txt her late this evening. Say something like "•That’s good. I just got your message. Left this phone at home and hav been out most of the day. " more

Resolved Question: Girls should I send her a reply or ignore her and wait and see what she does next?

I met my girl friend online a few months ago. It is a long distance relationship. She lives 250 miles away from me by car. I have visited her 5 maybe 6 times. She has visited me once and then I drove her here and back to hers. She has a 10 month old child but she lives with her parents and her mother helps her alot. Anyway at the beginning we were very close and I couldn't keep her off me. She said I love you first, txt me every day, msn every other day. She hasn't much money although she works. She had a single bed which we shared when I was there. Very uncomfortable. I had a spare pine double bedstead in my guest room. I offered to give it to her and she enthusiastically accepted. I had a really poor mattress with it. I gave this to her and apologised telling her I'd get her a good one when I could afford it. She declined saying she would get it. I said no i'll sort it and we left it at that. Long story short I bought her a mattress online. I posted her the link first to see if she liked it as it was a bargain - on sale. She liked it, I bought it. I visited her last weekend. Since bought the mattress she was quite cold with me, acting uninterested, always saying she was either tired, ill or busy. I thought this was just due to the child. The whole weekend I was with her she treated me very badly. Said some hurtful things, paid me no attention whatsoever, showed me zero affection and pushed me away. The evening before I was due to leave she told me she was very unhappy I bought her the mattress and explained why. I was understanding and said I wished she had have told me sooner and that I wont do anything like that again without checking first. I explained that I did it because I care about her and she constantly complained about the old mattress and that her back was killing her and she wasn't sleeping. I made it clear that I had good intentions and that I didn't want her to feel like she owed me something in return (although thats obviously how she did feel). I txt her yesterday to tell her I was home safe after a 6 hr car journey home. Usually she would txt to ask where I was and if I was home and kill the boredom of my journey. She didn't return my txt until 4 hrs after I got home and she blamed it on her having a maniac day. She just work as an office assistant for a small business. It takes several seconds to reply to a txt message. I txt her back, she replied, I sent one more wishing her good night and she didn't reply. The dreaded mattress was delivered today. She txt me this morning at 10:30 am saying "Hiya just to let you know the mattress arrived so thanks for that x" My dilemma is should I reply to this and if yes what should I say. I understand hy she was unhappy about the mattress and I have told her this and asked if we can just put it behind us. However I still think she is being cold with me and I am pretty sick of it. I don't wanna start another fight but I am not putting up with her behaviour anymore, I really don't deserve it. If I don't reply she will be pissed. If my reply is too short and dry she will be pissed. If it is too nice and positive she'll probably be pissed too. So Should I reply and if yes what should I say. Bear in mind too its a late reply. We usually always reply immediately and if we don't give a good reason for late reply. ThanksI talked to my sister and she advises that I dont reply to her txt. That I should let her stew over things. Sis suggested to txt her late this evening. Say something like "Hey, just got your txt, thats great the mattress arrived. I knackered, off to bed now, gud nite x". more

Resolved Question: Girls - Should I text her back or ignore her and wait and see what she does next?

I met my girl friend online a few months ago. It is a long distance relationship. She lives 250 miles away from me by car. I have visited her 5 maybe 6 times. She has visited me once and then I drove her here and back to hers. She has a 10 month old child but she lives with her parents and her mother helps her alot. Anyway at the beginning we were very close and I couldn't keep her off me. She said I love you first, txt me every day, msn every other day. She hasn't much money although she works. She had a single bed which we shared when I was there. Very uncomfortable. I had a spare pine double bedstead in my guest room. I offered to give it to her and she enthusiastically accepted. I had a really poor mattress with it. I gave this to her and apologised telling her I'd get her a good one when I could afford it. She declined saying she would get it. I said no i'll sort it and we left it at that. Long story short I bought her a mattress online. I posted her the link first to see if she liked it as it was a bargain - on sale. She liked it, I bought it. I visited her last weekend. Since bought the mattress she was quite cold with me, acting uninterested, always saying she was either tired, ill or busy. I thought this was just due to the child. The whole weekend I was with her she treated me very badly. Said some hurtful things, paid me no attention whatsoever, showed me zero affection and pushed me away. The evening before I was due to leave she told me she was very unhappy I bought her the mattress and explained why. I was understanding and said I wished she had have told me sooner and that I wont do anything like that again without checking first. I explained that I did it because I care about her and she constantly complained about the old mattress and that her back was killing her and she wasn't sleeping. I made it clear that I had good intentions and that I didn't want her to feel like she owed me something in return (although thats obviously how she did feel). I txt her yesterday to tell her I was home safe after a 6 hr car journey home. Usually she would txt to ask where I was and if I was home and kill the boredom of my journey. She didn't return my txt until 4 hrs after I got home and she blamed it on her having a maniac day. She just work as an office assistant for a small business. It takes several seconds to reply to a txt message. I txt her back, she replied, I sent one more wishing her good night and she didn't reply. The dreaded mattress was delivered today. She txt me this morning at 10:30 am saying "Hiya just to let you know the mattress arrived so thanks for that x" My dilemma is should I reply to this and if yes what should I say. I understand hy she was unhappy about the mattress and I have told her this and asked if we can just put it behind us. However I still think she is being cold with me and I am pretty sick of it. I don't wanna start another fight but I am not putting up with her behaviour anymore, I really don't deserve it. If I don't reply she will be pissed. If my reply is too short and dry she will be pissed. If it is too nice and positive she'll probably be pissed too. So Should I reply and if yes what should I say. Bear in mind too its a late reply. We usually always reply immediately and i we don't give a good reason for late reply. ThanksI talked to my sister and she advises that I dont reply to her txt. That I should let her stew over things. Sis suggested to txt her late this evening. Say something like "Hey, just got your txt, thats great the mattress arrived. I knackered, off to bed now, gud nite x". more

Resolved Question: Why can I never keep a man around?

I have the worst luck with men. My very first boyfriend was when I was 14 and he was way older than me in his mid-20s. I worked as his personal assisstant and we started to like each other and we went out. I felt like he was the only one in the world that loved, he actually took care of me like a father. He came to all of my school functions, he took me and my friends out places and he never forgot important dates like my birthday, pratices and games. He even gave me money to pay for a semester at my university.I really loved him and he made me feel alive after the whole period of depression I went throught. I was devastaed when I found out that he was married. When I meet him he told me that I he was divorced from his ex. But it turns out that he was still married to her and she was pregnant and lived in a different city. We broke up and felt so angry at him and sad. The next guy I was with was a guy from my high school who I was friends with before. I thought everything was going well until I found out that he was seeing my best friend at the same time. I caught them together one day and I nearly lost I attacked both of them. I was so shocked at this because my best friend always told me how much she hated my boyfriend and how much of a douche he was but she was the one having sex with him behind my back. The thing that ended up happening is that he dumped me for her and their relationship ended up lasting for years. They are married with a child! These two had the nerve to invite me to their wedding and baby shower. The next boyfriend after that was very abusive to me. He would call me names, control what I would wear, I would make me give him my passwords to facebook and he would hit me with lacrosse stick when he was angry. I was with him for 2 years and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. He kept me from my friends and family and he didn't want me to go to college. Instead he wanted me to marry him and live with him while he went to school. I finally left him before I went off to college and I found out he fathered a child out of wed-lock. For a while, I was single and happy but I started to miss being with some. I tried hanging out and dating guys but it just seems like one wants me. I started seeing this guy in decemeber and he promised me all these things and I thought he was the one. He had told me he was single and it turns out that he had a girlfriend. He told me that he still loved her and he is back with her. It hurts me everyday to see them together. It's made me very depressed and it makes me mad that he feels no remorse and he can live guilt free. Sometimes I feel like I'm destined to be alone. On top of all of this,it seems like the nice guys never want to approach me or ask me out. I've been told that I'm a beautiful person, but I fail to attract the men I want to. I don't see what I'm doing wrong. I'm don't lie, I don't cheat on them, I stay fatihful to them, I try to support them, I always wear a smile. I know I'm not ugly and I know that I'm not a mean person. I don't get why I can't keep of man for myself. I hurts, I feel that everyone always wants to leave me and no one wants to make time for me or make any commitments to me. I can never have a guy who is exclusively for me. I always end up being cheated one, being the other woman or dumped for someone else. I try to remain positive and confident. I try to focus on school and my friends but it's just isn't enough for me. All of my friends have boyfriends and girlfriends and everytime I'm walking to the store, on the train, or at the mall all I see is couples kissing, making out, and just people in love. Men just don't want me as their wife or girlfriend. I'm tired of being alone, I want someone to love me. more

Resolved Question: How come it takes a while to find out what we want to do in life?

I am in my mid twenties and I still don't know where my life is heading. I only had 2 jobs in my life but I can truly say I was a valued employee. I have obtained a diploma in the arts but I soon realized that I am not enjoying what I graduated from so now I'm back to square one. On top of that I am currently jobless which makes my situation worst. Right now I'm starting to panic to the point that I secretly cry when I'm feeling helpless. I can't help but think about how I ruined my life. All my friends have great jobs now, one of them didn't actually finish high school but she netted an office job whereas myself with a college diploma doing absolutely nothing. I sometimes wonder I'm so unlucky and everything I do seems to fall apart and when I start believing in myself something bad is bound to happen. I also keep thinking about my age which I think adds to my stress. For example, I should be getting married at this age, I should be settled at this age and have kids by this age, I mean no one wants to be left behind or am I being too irrational? Since I hate what I do I'm thinking of switching careers. I'm thinking of going into the medical field. They say in order to succeed you have to start thinking differently. As 'The Secret' says think POSITIVE, think YOU'RE NUMBER ONE. It's really easy as said than done especially if you're saying that to a negative person which where I currently fit. What the real problem is I keep comparing myself to other people's lives. Especially my friends who have the drive to work and the ones that live on their own and the ones that already knew what they wanted to do in life at such a young age and the ones that have money and the only thing they're waiting for is a husband. I'm starting to think it's the curse of a spoiled child. What's ironic about it is many of my friends would like to switch position with me if they can because my parents doesn't pressure me in anyway and as they say "I get everything I want" and what they don't know is I want to be more like them. Independent. I keep comparing myself to other people's achievements and I feel sorry for myself because I should be an adult about it and do what it has to be done. I know I'm young and there's a lot of things I have to experience. It's probably not my lucky day any time soon but it will eventually come. It's a heart break, literally, when you're still searching of what you want to do in life. I'm probably at my worst right now and I'm hoping for a change. I just want to know if there's anyone out there who can share their views about finding out their true calling and how they achieved it. Some advice in how to handle others expectations of your future? more

Resolved Question: How do you stop an obsessive controlling mother who is interfering with your life and you child's life?

How do you stop a obsessive controlling mother from interfering with you and your child life? At 50 years of age I am stilling having problems with my mother. I have had problems with her every since my child has come into this world. When my son was born the Doctor risked if I was going to nurse. She told him no that I wasn't. Here is a list of things I have endured over the years with her.MM child has a scar on his head when she left him unattended and told me this when I came back into town. She did not take him to the emergency room to get it sewn up. When the child has spent time with her and my step dad has gone through his suitcase and called me up arguing with me why did I not tell her that I put $20.00 dollars in the suitcase.She has cut up his clothes and bleached them because she felt that they were to small or that the child needed some new ones. She tried to get me to buy a car for the child when the child was at toddler age. I told her if she wanted the child to have she should buy it. She has filed CPS on me. I had a good job then. She has taken my child out of state without me knowing about it, but when I wanted to take my child on vacation with me she turned into another person with me. Little did I know that I would interfering with her plans to take him out of state. She has tried to burn my house down.She has tried to keep my broke with doctor bills and wanted me to leave my credit card with her so she could pay for the visits.She has gotten fired from a job. She is trying to ruin me financially right now. I have moved away several years ago but that doesn't help she has commissioned her friends and people she knows to attack me verbal about her.She has accused me taking money out of her account. She has commissioned her family to get involved with our relationship. I have had the door slammed in my faced by her because she would not let me see my child. I've had to visit my child in a hotel room and not at her house. When he was younger I had to call repeatedly to speak to him he was always busy or sleep.I am stilling counting the infractions that she keeps us involved in. But she'll tell you to find the positive and it was done all in the name of love. She will be quick to quote you a bible verse. How can you trust someone like this? It almost reminds me of Borderline Personality Disorder . It's like one way or another she is going to make sure I can not forget about her. It's like brainwashing sort of speak. I am tried of the mentally, verbally, and emotional abuse from her. She wants me to not have any contact with my step dad.This child is almost grown and I am still having problems out of my own mother. I don't talk to her any more I am experiencing the same type of behavior from her when I was a child and she was married to my father. The arguments and the most traumatic thing that a child can witness by her own eyes. Like then she had everyone believing her but no one ask the hard question what did you do? They rush to take her side and attack you. But they don't know the whole story behind everything. So in the meantime she keeps attacking you to break you down so that it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. She always denies that she had anything to do with it. It's always the other person fault for why she is doing what she is doing. She sees your wrong but not hers. All the secrets and lies. more

Voting Question: Is he a commitment phobe?

I have been seeing my boyfriend for seven months, we have been good friends for two years ... I was with my previous partner for five years and have two year old daughter with him. My boyfriend was on and off with a girl for four years, she stopped taking her pill fell pregnant miscarried the baby and then fell pregnant to someone else. They got back together when the baby was a few months old and he tried to be there for him and take him on. They we on and off since, the longest time they were together solidly was eight months, during this time they were trying for a baby! they broke up over a year ago. He stays with me for at least 5 nights a week and is amazing with my daughter and has become a huge part of her life. We get on brilliantly and always have ..... He says he loves me and I do believe him but he says he is unsure if he can every be completely in love mind, body and soul etc? I do love him but not in that way either although in time I can see that happening but compared to my previous relationship six months is nothing. I am 21 and he is 29 and has always lived at home with his mom. He says in the future he wants to get married and have children, and I am no hurry to commit in that way any time soon as I am at uni and want to be 100% sure before I have another child, yet in the same sentence he says he doesn't know if he will ever settle down? We recently viewed a house together and I thought seeing as he was planning to get a new car,moving to it, have a fresh start in a different area and how it would be good for us, we checked out the area the following day, decorating and how life would be .. Now he doesn't think he wants to? In case things go wrong and how would I feel left there on my own? I know I needed to weigh up my options but I was trying to be positive especially with my previous experiance. If I smoke he goes home as apperently it upsets him and I shouldn't as I have a child to think of, all very true but I smoked when we first met me. I have now given up but it still plays on my mind how he is. He is the perfect boyfriend in many ways. I know he would never cheat on me, hurt me. He takes us out for dinner, helps around the house, we have 'family' days out and he is brilliant with my daughter. We are really perfect couple and we work so well. We have always been close. I just can't help but worry IF he will never be able to fully commit and if not am I wasting my time and allowing my daughter to become attatched to him if he is right. Too make matters worse; his ex is moving back to our area with her current boyfriend and is nothing but trouble. She recently made an excuse to turn up at his house to get a key fob to get through the sercurity door which she told the council she lost so he had his own ages ago, saying she would be charge if she didn't get it back which was bollocks, although I am hoping this was just an excuse to let him know they were moving back, but what if it never ends? =( please help someone I feel really confused and am thinking of just moving on my own leaving it all behindThanks for your answers guys! He is over his ex, he finished with her. He just feels bad that he was an arsehole when she was pregnant with his baby, and feels like he had to try and make up for it but knows she isn't right. He has only ever had three serious relationships including ours, and the first one got with his mate. He has a very good job and could get a place of his own but doesn't want to live alone? He has only ever had sex with six girls aswell. Arghhhh men! more

Resolved Question: Is this a good short story?

Is this a good short story? Put positive or negative feedback, I'm a big man I can handle it :). Also if it is good don't try take it lol, I don't think it's that good but just incase. OR I SUE YOUR ASS :P Read on +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ "Get some rest" jack continued "You've been up all night looking for this guy, I'll talk to you in the morning" Billly noticed the Y8 , was isolated. This is going to be a long night billy thought. "Alright tell anne I said hi, I'm gonna stop off a motel, I had a couple and its setting off in my stomach now, talk to you later" He hung up as he pulled into 'Shady Lakes Motel'. Billy got out walked inside to the receptionist and asked for a room. 'Mr.Perkins' the name tag read, he was a young man probably forced out of home and now living with a couple of room-mates . "Right this way" he moaned between gum on the roof of his mouth. He walked up the long sticky stairs, until he came to a floor with 1 room. Floor no.7, 'lucky number'. Billy went inside the small apartment and laid down on the bed. Layed there for 10 seconds and thought 'I gotta piss'. After billy emptied his bladder he reached into his wallet and grabbed a sleeping pill and laid down again. To frightened to move, to speak or even to scream, billy laid there, shivering. He heard someone walk around to the bedside his head faced. “Cold” said the boy’s shadow. What? The mysterious person was a boy; he figured by his shadow height and voice which sounded no older then the age of 10. Billy rapidly sat up in the bed, flicked on his nightlight and scanned the room. The boy was gone, he thought about what he heard “cold”. Not a question but a statement, a figment of his imagination ‘No… it felt too real to be a dream’ billy reassured himself. From a spectator he would have looked like he was having a spastic, but billy was dreaming a nightmare. Flashes of red, black flashed through his dream until it came to a halt. The images in his head floated into a room, dark but a light in the corner. It was a child. The picture froze then the kids head shot up and ran towards him, screaming a sound that would be heard in a 50’s horror films. The shriek made billy shoot up too, turn on his nightlight and scan the room. ‘Damn this’ he got up, put on his uniform. With his glock 18; loaded holstered but prepared, billy walked towards the door handle. Grabbed it, turned it, walked out, but stopped at 3 feet and knew something wasn’t right. Despite what he felt he had to leave he couldn’t sleep and felt scared. He walked down the narrow hallway towards the stairs there was only 1 apartment on this floor. The walls were yellow but not a happy tone, more depressing and lonely, there was one roof-light it flickered then turned off. “ARGHHH!” he screamed in agony. Darkness filled the corridor however billy remembered where the stairs were, and walked towards there. He grabbed the rail to avoid falling down and felt goo, he quickly pulled away. It was cold, it was fast, it was spreading? Covering him, he tried ripping it off, but it was attached and he was pulling himself. He tried to scream for help but it was silent, was there anyone to help him anyway…. Or anything? He collapsed down on the stairs with his vision fading, then he saw with not much left to see, a figure come out of his room and towards him. Billy dropped asleep. Billy awoke, but could not arise. He was strapped down with chains on a concrete bed and a gag mask, something similar to a cult’s sacrifice bench. The room was dark except within about 5 feet of his position. “Awake?” whispered a hurried voice, this voice did not belong to the boy he heard earlier, but Mr. Perkins. Billy screamed muffled behind the mask not caring what was happening but just wanting to be released. “SHUSH!” Mr. Perkins whispered sharply. He went over to undo the straps on billy whilst saying “We haven’t much time, you need to listen to me. When you are….” Billy wasn’t paying attention to him, but rather the shape behind him. He muffle screamed again realising that the shape was holding a dagger, intended to go into the back of Perkins. However Mr. Perkins was to slow to understand why billy was yelling randomly as he froze… blood trickling out of his mouth and onto the torso of billy. His body fell down onto the concrete slab hard, snapping his jaw. The murderer was the boy from previous, he sniffed billy and moved back walking in circles thinking like a madman. Whilst this was happening billy was able to retrieve his gun from a table with his free hand Perkins released, which he hid behind his back waiting for the opportunity to attack. Is it in just to shoot a boy? Yes. Is it in just to shoot a murderer pale ‘thing’ that shows no sorrow? No. It seemed as though the ‘thing’ had reached a decision as he stopped turning. He grabbed the dagger holstered it, said a prayer. The prayer was more a chant as he repeated it as he focused it on billy. He drew he drew is knife and moved towards billy. Who responded.... To be continued (maybe :))Copyright 'footymadmatt@ymail.com' 30/10/09 more

Resolved Question: What to do? No job... No positive oulook...?

What am i to do? Ive been laid off 3 times this year alone. Ive never been laid off before. Im 24 with a fiancee and an 11 month old child. Right out of high school I started working in manufacturing, so I have no further education. Im collecting unenjoyment and about to use pell grants and the "No worker left behind" program to goto school. But for what, I dont know. Since the economy sucks everyone is going back to school and Im limited to what classes are covered through the programs. Even then, like I said everyone is going back to school and all the job positions that are in high demand are filled because of this. I cant collect cash assistance, food credits, or medicare (save for my child). The reason for this is cause I make to much on unemployment, which is about to run out, so i have to file for an extension. Ive applied, and applied, applied... Sent resumes in... nothing... I have a skilled trade learned on the job, Im good at what I do, if I can get a chance to do it. But I cant do military cause I need to be here for my kid. Was thinking about moving out of state, but whose to say that will do any more good then bad if things go south. Which for me is a usual thing. Does anyone have any ideas? more

Resolved Question: Do you agree with the Razzies?

This is a list of every movie being considered for the Razzies from the site with the comments from the Razzie's forum administrator (for those of you that don't know, the Razzies are an awards ceremony that honors the worst movies of the year, and I give all the credit to http://www.razzies.com/forum/default.asp): ALIENS IN THE ATTIC Crappy-Looking CGI, Irksome Child Actors and UNfunny Jokes -- Who Could Ask for Anything More?? ALL ABOUT STEVE It's 2 Years Later...Do You Know WHY This Film is (FINALLY) Being Released?? ANGELS & DEMONS Another Un-Asked-For Sequel to a Movie (Almost) No One Actually Liked... BRIDE WARS First Film Out-of-the-Gate in the New Year...and We've Already Gotta Contenduh! C ME DANCE Get Thee Behind Me Satan...and While You're There, Let's Dance!! DANCE FLICK The Wayans Brothers Ripping Off Seltzerberg...OMG That Sounds Awful!! DRAGONBALL: EVOLUTION Is This a Case of Too Pitiful, Too Late?? FAME (2009) What Rhymes with The Title of This Unnecessary Remake...Hmm: Lame, Shame, Defame... FIRED UP (aka F.U.) Oh, Yeah -- F.U. Right Back Atya, Hollywood!! FAST & FURIOUS (2009) Gentlemen, Start Your Engines...and Park Your Brains Outside the Theatre FINAL DESTINATION 3-D Death by Escalator, Death by Car Wash...Death by LAUGHING?!? FRIDAY THE 13TH (2009) Jason's Back...If Anyone Still Care-z-z-z-z-z-z-z... G-FORCE So Cute 'n' Furry You'll Wanna Cough Up Hairballs! GHOSTS OF GIRLFRIENDS PAST Who Exactly Is the Audience Supposed to Be for This Dreck?? G.I. JOE: THE RISE OF COBRA A $100 Million Boy Toy Movie?!?!? HALLOWEEN, TOO A Remake of a Sequel to a Remake...?!?!? HANNAH MONTANA: THE MOVIE A Smiley-Faced Miley Goes Country...UGH!! THE HAUNTING IN CONNECTICUT O-o-o-o-h, Scary -- Evil Spirits That Can Make You Crap from Yer Mouth! HOTEL FOR DOGS The Cinematic Equivalent of Stepping in a Steaming Pile of Doggie You-Know-What?? I HATE VALENTINE'S DAY ...But They May Hate RAZZIE® Day Even More! I LOVE YOU, BETH COOPER Forgettable...and Forgotten BEFORE It Even Opens... IMAGINE THAT Eddie Edges Away from Multiple Characters with a Cookie-Cutter Family Friendly "Comedy" JENNIFER's BODY This Wants 2-B Sexy and Smart...at Least They Got the Sexy Part Right! JONAS BROTHERS: THE 3-D CONCERT EXPERIENCE They've Got More Talent in Their Little Fingers...Than Most People Have in Their Big Toes! KNOWING Nic Cage Already MADE This Movie (and Was Already a Worst Actor Nominee for It). Last Time It was Called NEXT LAND OF THE LOST A Mega-Budget Remake of a Wonderfully Tacky Old TV Show...Sound Like a BAD Idea 2 You?? LAST HOUSE ON THE LEFT Yet Another Un-Needed Horror Remake...HO HUM! LOVE HAPPENS Given the Less-Than Positive Word-of-Mouth, Reviews and Box Office, Maybe This Shoulda Been Called S**T HAPPENS! MISS MARCH a.k.a. Hef's First Shot at "Winning" a RAZZIE... MY LIFE IN RUINS Think of the Title as a Self-Review from the Film-Makers... By Forum Administrator NEW IN TOWN Nothing "New" Here...In Fact, There's Arguably "Nothing" Here at All! NEXT DAY AIR A Contender as Dumbest Counter-Programming Release of 2009... OBSESSED aka "Crazy White Chick Goes After Beyonce's Hubby" ORPHAN Adopting an Over-the-Top Attitude with a Horrifying Result... PINK PANTHER, TOO Just One Question...W-H-Y?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!?!? SHORTS From the Creator of SPY KIDS 3-D and SHARK BOY & LAVA GIRL...Wait, That's Actually NOT an Endorsement... SORORITY ROW Speaking of Recycled/Re-Hashed Concepts... SPREAD Why do a remake of MOMENT BY MOMENT?? STREET FIGHTER: THE LEGEND of CHUN-LI Take One Cliche' from Column A, One from Column B... TRANSFORMERS: REVENGE OF THE FALLEN It May Kick Bot at the Box Office, But We Still Think It'll Stink! THE UGLY TRUTH Whadda Ya Know, They've Finally Made a "Rom-Com" with Neither the "Rom" NOR the "Com"... THE UNBORN Who's Yer Daddy? Could It Be...SATAN UNDERWORLD: RISE OF THE LYCANS Is It Just Us, or Does "Underworld" Sound Like a Place to Buy a Push-Up Bra?? THE UNINVITED ...and the UNwelcome! WHAT GOES UP ...Must Come Down. But Where is "Down" from a 00% R.T. Rating?? WHITEOUT Why Does This Remind Us of the Old Admonition About "Yellow Snow"?!? YEAR ONE Is This Set in the Stone Age...or the STONED Age?!? more

Resolved Question: In abusive relationship and TOTALLY confused????

Long story short. My husband is just one of those grouchy people and gets angered very quickly.He says mean and horrible things when he's mad. He doesn't "beat me up" but has pinched me pushed me, punched me in the leg, spit in my face and done many things that I don't approve of. He's called me every name under the sun, and uses work as an excuse to stay away from home alot. This has been going on for 31/2 years now. I have 2 children and my daughter who is 2 is even starting to talk like him already. Almost every word out of his mouth is a cuss word. :( I'm to the point where I have lost all respect for him, and don't even "like" him anymore, even when he's not being abusive. So sometimes when things are ok, I feel like i'm the one causing the trouble, because I know i don't act like I love him. I don't feel like he's sorry for anything he's done so I know I have no closure. I left him once for 4 months and really thought he got his stuff together. He said he had all the bills paid up and was going to a counsler, even taking high blood pressure medication etc. When I moved back in ALL the bills were behind, and he was abusive again the day I gave the keys back to my rental house. I can't seem to find the strength to stick with a decision. I get sucked in by his sweet side, and start to wonder if things will work if I give it more time. I know i'm bitter towards him and can't get over the things he's done to me, but sometimes it seems easier to just stuff everything in the back of my mind. He's never been abusive to the kids, and will even go weeks without touching me, and during that time, I almost forget the way he really is, I guess that's because I want to believe that's how is really is. I have NO family where we live, and am a stay at home mom. Sometimes being alone seems impossible, and I know my confidence is shot, because of the verbal abuse. I know I don't have love.... I watch a romantic movie and just ball because I know it's SO far from what I have. I know life isn't like the movies, and sometimes it just seems like i'm never going to find what i'm TRULY looking for. I want my kids to grow up with positive things around them, and know that they deserve the best, I don't want them to resent me for leaving. Any advice would be great. more

Resolved Question: I'm sick of the verbal abuse,i want to leave with my child but he says icant go back to my family 2states away?

We have been married for 3 1/2 years and he began becoming more verbally abusive when I became pregnant, he never lifts a finger, thinks it's my job as a women. I had been working full time unlike himself, pregnant and still doing all the chores at home. Now our child is 14months old and I have left him once before, about 6months ago. I put a temporary order against him, he told me he would change but then when I came back it has only gotten worse. I have no family around me, only his. I have been wanting to move away together to start off fresh, but he is happy here, and lets not forget, it's all about him. I want to be around my family and support network, his family hate me and I have never been good enough for their son. I believe marriage is a partnership, share the load the responsibility etc. All he wants me to do is go back to work which is what I have done, just a couple days a week and thats only because he has decided that he can't financially support me anymore, since I left him the first time and he doens't trust me. It's always my fault, no matter what the situation is, it always comes back on me. The constant put downs has stripped me of any confidence I once had. He has two personallities. He is great in front of people which is just a show. But behind closed doors he is a very cruel heartless person, he only knows how to love himself. He loves hurting me with the horrible words he chooses to use, saying I do stuff all. Which is the complete opposite of the truth. I want to leave and go back to family but he says I can't take our child, he will order me back here. I have no-where to go, he will not leave the house and just expect me to pack up and go and leave our child behind. I can't do that, I'm the only one that has been there for her since day dot. I have gone through the baby blue and some bad depression constantly blaming myself for feeling so alone and so hopeless, when this was all his doing over a period of time. I just want to be with family and stay sane and bring my child up with positive people etc. But he is doing everything is his power for this not to happen. He is a selfish person who will hurt me as much as possible for him to feel better. more

Resolved Question: Im in a serious pickle... Any advice?

Ok.. So here is the deal... I was dating this girl on and off for a couple of years. Within the last 7 months, the relationship was long distance. I was going to see her once a month. She had assured me that she was on Birth Control. She told me in May that she was pregnant. I decided to move out to be with her and help her through the pregnancy. What I did not know was that she was binge drinking behind my back after finding out she was "pregnant" and continued to do so. When I moved out there to be with her, I started noticing her behavior was extremely inconsistent and that my beer was disappearing from the fridge. I also found her asking me regularly for permission to drink a beer. I told her that one glass of wine or one beer seldomly was not a problem. However, if I left the house or went outside for something, I would come back and notice more and more beer gone and her behavior becoming increasingly violent. I would also notice that upon waking up on saturday mornings she had already been awake for quite some time and was completely intoxicated. There would be 7-8 beer cans on her computer desk and she could not sit up straight, or even complete a rational sentence for that matter. One saturday morning, my mother had called me to see how I was doing. Unfortunately, she happened to pick my phone while I was in the shower. She was completely intoxicated, fighting, and cursing at my mother. I had no idea that my mother had called until she came into to town to visit a week and a half later and told me the details of the phone conversation and that she was completely intoxicated while yelling at my mother. After meeting with my mother and hearing the details, I had went home and spoke to my girlfriend. I was so furious with her that I just completely let her have it for speaking to my mother like that while being intoxicated and showing her that level of disrespect. I had also ripped into her about her constant binge drinking and what self respecting mother would binge drink like that during a pregnancy! I had told her that I didnt appreciate the level of disrespect she was showing my family, myself, and herself for that matter. I told her that I did not want to be a part of such a volatile relationship. Especially one where a mother would constantly argue with me about her drinking being ok while pregnant. I told her that if she wanted to continue her lifestyle, she would have to continue it alone; because I wanted NO part of a lifestyle like that. With that being said, a few days later; I packed up everything that I brought with me and left while she was at work. Please note, that I did not say anything about this or leave any kind of note upon leaving her and going back home. Since then, she continues to call me and send me text messages on a daily basis. Most of them are late at night and I suspect that she has been drinking. I have decided to keep these messages by sending them to my laptop via a sound recording software. She has mentioned that she intends to sue me for child support. Is there anything I can do to help my case? Or possibly avoid payment of child support? Would it be possible to sue her for custody of the child if I present this evidence to the court and after a positive paternity test? Please note that she never showed me proof of a positive pregnancy test, or proof of any prenatal check ups. What do you suggest I do in this case? Am I totally screwed? Any information would be greatly helpful! Thank you, Chris more

Resolved Question: Do I sound ignorant to my black race or is that my mom?

Okay, I'm a 16 year old african american female with a bit of native american ancestry on both sides of my family. I have a Black mom that makes feel so uncomfortable going out with boy's outside my black race. Everytime I talk about them my mom alway's have a negative comment or a prejudice thing to say.And she alway's say "Do you ever thought about being with a black boy?" and she doesn't mean the geeky,sateboarding,arcade,anime- loving,loving other kind's of music, gentleman type of guy that i'm into.(Cause I'm that kind of person too) but the disrepectful rapper wannabe loser. I KNOW NOT ALL BLACK GUY'S ARE LIKE THAT! TRUST ME I DATED SOME BLACK GUY'S AND THEY WERE REALLY NICE! I had three boyfrend's of a different race:1 white,1 indian/spanish, and 1 hatian. And this is what she tell's me. guy # 1 : "Why would you date the exact race that our ancestor's had fought against and kicked you in the ass. We have two white women in our family and we have had enough biracial babies in our family." guy #2 I dont remember much of what she said to him and after he left she laughed and said "That's the worst combination I had ever seen. I feel sorry for him." and then guy # 3... me and him were sooo very close and I really didn't care what anybody said. His mom really liked me. She said " I hope you don't marry no stink haitian and give me grandkid's speaking all of that nonsense." But he IS black too why would it matter to her?!!!. .She want's me to have pure black children and let it go being passed on to her generation.Then when she see's me loving all kind's of guy's coming from different background's and I'm interested into knowing stuff from different countries too.I someday would like to travel into different countries and love to study other culture's. One of the countries I would like to travel to is Japan. I like to experience anything about peoples history,food, entertainement,religion,culture etc.,. But everytime she catches me into liking something whether it is music or how I dress she critizes me and I need to be more "black". What is being "black"? I beleive there is no such thing as acting a race neither. I just be myself. And let me shut up but last but not least she whines about black men dating non - black women. You know what i'm talking about and saying alway'sa black man leaving the black woman behind kind of thing? just makes me sooo irritaed. I think she say's this because my father left her for a spanish woman ( Now my stepmother) because he can't keep up with her bigot mouth. So what do you think? I know I sound like a naive tree hugging hippy but please give me positive responses. more

Resolved Question: TRUE STORY. I NEED ADVICE. BULL SHIT ASIDE.THANK YOU.?

so LONG story short. THE situation is a girl is claiming to have my son when she has told me herself she had a miscarriage and she rite after dated my neighbor who happend to be a friend. so ....i happend to run into this girl i grew up in middle school my first day at college...we never talked but she found me on facebook and we started chatting from there. we messaged one another for about 3 months before we meet up.SO CHECK IT OUT. ALL IN THE SAME WEEK. i see her TUESDAY. we talk before she has to go to class and meet up after again and chit chat before she had her other class...we decide to meet up that FRIDAY of the same week. WHEN friday comes i take her to a roof top and we start making and i sneaked in a titty suck that NITE!.i usually dont rush thing like that but she claimed to feel really comftorbale with me since she knew OF middle school. like we had the SAME friends but we never talked so...yea. THE NEXT day SATURDAY she wants to sleep over. IM A MAN so WHY NOT....i haven't had it this easy before..so that nite she wanted to fuck..but i refused but had a BJ done...she also said she was on her period so i was like wtf??....so the next WEEK on SATURDAY again she wants to sleep over and this time we have sexual intercourse and the following wednesday four days after we fuked we find out she mite be pregnant because she said she was feeling weirda that morning. MY STUPID ASS fucked bare back with no condom and believed as SHE told me she was on the pill but her retarded ass didn't use them properly any way...i took her to plant parenthood found out she was positive and pregnant. but im not exactly sure. SHE told me plant parenthood wouldn't allow me in. IS THAT TRUE? she could be lieing.anyway. KEEP IN MIND WE WERENT going out at this time.....about the baby. WE DIDN"T AGREEE on the same thing. SHE WANTED TO WORK IT OUT AND GO OUT WITH HER AND HAVE A FAMILY. I DIDNT. I WANTED TO RAISE THE CHILD AND BE A PART OF HIS LIFE but i wasn't trying to have a relationship with her. anyway after not really talking or seeing eachother at ALL after that she tells me she has a miscarriage and i hear she started dating my friend who KNEW all about wat was going on with her and about me SUPPOSEDLY being a future father. i find out that same nite she told me she had a misscarriage...that my friend was messing around with that chick for TWO WEEKS prior meaning she was fucking my friend while she was "PREGNANT" i didn't bother talking to her after that. I WAS LIKE IM DONE and like that i left it behind me. i didn't wanna hear bullshit excuses. AND when I THOUGHT it was over IT WASN"T. like 3 months after having no contact what so ever her cousin soon writes to me on face book TWICE. THE FIRST ONE saying she lied about her misscarriage and is ACTUALLY STILL PREGNANT and she lied because she didn't wanna RUIN MY LIFE...so she says. the second one which i GOT TODAY says that she is in the hospital and says shes about to HAVE MY SON and and is telling my FRIEND who are currently still DATING that it is HIS kid. soooo...from the time we had intercourse she would be around 8 months rite now........ive never responded to any of her messages. BUT SHOULD I JUST KEEP IGNORING THEM? WHAT COULD SHE LEGALLY DO TO ME?...SHE TOLD ME SHE HAD A MISCARRAGE... more

Resolved Question: Why am I still preoccupied with my ex over a year later. He's not even that fabulous! Help!?

I was with my ex for 10 years. I'm 30 and I was 19 when I got together with him. We've been split up for a year and have a young child together. It's actually been almost a year and a half now and I'm still preoccupied with him and what he's doing in his life. Comparing mine to his and feeling like a loser who he left behind. He is now dating a girl who is 21 years old. He's 34. When he left me initially he was sneaking around and texting a 20 year old 100 + times a day while they worked together. He left because we were arguing a lot. Admittedly I was being very mean. Yelling at him, fighting with him. Wanting him to stop smoking marijuana, get his GED so he could get a better job than he had at the time (he recently lost his job) because he wasn't doing well financially. Anyway. I regret the way I acted and I don't like myself very much. My intentions were good (I wanted us to do well and be positive examples for our son), but didn't go about it the right way. My ex says he was miserable with me and has no intentions of coming back. I'm in school full-time going for a nursing degree. Have been single this whole time and take care of our child (he helps much more now)... and am shy. He now has a 21 year old girlfriend and is out having fun. How can I get over this?!! I'm lonely and feeling like I blew it. I've been seeing a counselor for a year and I still feel like this! What's wrong with me? How long will it take to get over this feeling of rejection and guilt? more

Resolved Question: Was it my fault the relationship went bad in the first place?

Ok. My relationship has ended. 8 years and its over. I feel like i tried really hard, heres my question. I had 3 children when we met and we had one together 2 years later. Our sex life was great in the beginning, however this man always told little white lies, traveled away a lot but i always felt like he loved me. He was not great with the kids but acceptable i suppose. Just after my 4 th was born our sex life almost died, same old reasons, i was a tired housewife he worked away and i was resentful because i was always stuck at home, bout the only time we got on well was when we had time out together without the kids around. So as the relationship progressed more little lies came out, you know like when would call and he wouldnt answer his phone till the third time and hed say he was at work but really at a mates or at the pub he spend thousands on the pokies and generally did bugger all around the home, we were behind in the rent and things were going downhill..but i loved him and he loved me. 7 years into the relationship, he had an illness which required surgery, he was off work for months i looked after him and actually enjoyed it...isnt that pathetic, i finally felt i had some form of control and i liked him being around. But he was a grumpy man, tired all the time, even before he was sick he was always lazing around, went to work when he decided to, never paid tax, didnt do chores, was angry toward the kids..blah blah blah...so...in the end, while he was away i met someone else and we hit it off, nothing happened and i felt terrible, so i told him, he needed to stop working away, come home and be with his family. That statement made no impact on him until i told him i was having feelings for someone else. With that he quit work, came home and decided to spend his time at home checking my emails, reading my messages on my phone and calling me to see where i was every 5 minutes..this ended our relationship for 3 months and duriing that 3 months i slept with the new man. I felt so bad that the first thing ii did was tell him.....we ended up getting back together. That lasted a year, during that year he minded the kids at night while i went to work, minded them while i was at college and went to work occasionally himself, he complained that he was doing all the work and getting nothing in exchange, he was angry and miserable, and i was angry with him because he wouldnt trust me, he made life hell. I finally snapped and one day drug tested him and that tested positive for speed and ice. I offered help, kindly, didnt over react, he said it was only recreational, we fought he left i begged him to come back, he wouldnt, stating that he couldnt handle me because i was an abusive cow, 3 days later he said he was ready i said no way. Since then i have found out he is an addict and he blames it all on me, my actions pushed him to drugs and i worked him too hard. He felt unloved and unappreciated. Its been 7 months and my heart has been broken over and over..in that 7 months he has only been to take the kids out once, the rest of the time he will miss planned visits because of so called work, and if he does come over he will spend the time questioning the kids about what mummy has been doing and who with. I am sad. My question is this.....should i try again to make this work, give him another shot, pay him more attention, try to understand more, he says he will change when i show him more love and be the women i used to be. I have a chance at a new life with a new man, i have actually enjoyed being on my own for the past 7 months, i have found strength in myself, i believe ii am ready to move on, the only thing that gets me sometimes is the fact that if i had of been more loving toward him he may have been a different man...maybe i started the ball rolling? I dunno im sick of wondering...i know this has been a long story but really its just a little of the whole story, thanks for taking the time to read through. Should i just move on now?Thanks for your great answers and reading such a long question....Its been so hard and i have had so many thoughts going through my head over and over again...i just wanna know that i have done my best in this relationship, i never believed it would end and its hard coming to terms with the shock of finding him out to be an addict, i think i knew for a while but i was too scared to find out the truth, i loved this man a lot and he still has his good points, everybody does. I know i cant change him, i know hes gotta change himself and i feel as if i should move on, im so sick of being stuck. Thanks again more

Voting Question: will somebody please proof read this.?

It was amazing to finally be able to look at him, after 9 long months. I just laid there in the hospital bed crying looking at what I had created. The love I have for this baby is overwhelming. Everybody else just disappeared, nothing else mattered. It was me and my 9 pound bundle of joy. There in all the chaos I realized something: I had to change my whole life if this child is going to have a wonderful life like I want him too. The three days we spent in the hospital were nerve racking. I was a new mom, not to mention I didn’t have my own mother around to help me. Everything was new to me, but I slowly realized that everything just comes natural. What didn’t come natural was decision making. I have always been bad with decision making and with the stress of being in the hospital it wasn’t any easier. I didn’t know where I was going to go when I left the hospital. My boyfriend and his family wanted me to go to Georgia and live with them; I wanted to go to my grandmother’s house and go to college in the fall. I think this was the hardest decision I have ever made, I had to choice what I thought was best for my son: him to have a father, or me to go to school. I made the decision to go to Georgia and later found out it wasn’t the smartest decision. My boyfriend and his family turned against me and were trying to take my son from me. After seven weeks I returned home to my family. With just two weeks before school started, I knew the task at hand would not be easy, but this was something I wanted/needed more than anything, not only for me but for my son also. I somehow managed to get my application turned in, get accepted, and register for my classes. It was a very hectic two weeks. Although getting into school was a major accomplishment, it wasn’t the hardest thing I had to do. I still had some things weighing on my mind. Although I hadn’t talked to my mom in almost a year we were now on speaking terms, and a road trip to Ohio arose at the perfect time. A twelve hour car ride was the perfect time to talk things through. I apologized to her and let her know how much I love and appreciate her for everything she has done for me. She accepted my apology and explained the reasoning behind her actions. By the end of the week, we were best friends again. Now it was time for me. Even though it was the most important change I had to make, it took the longest for me. I have always fed into rumors and let them get to me, and play into the drama that comes along with it. I stopped that when I realized if I don’t let it phase me they have no reason to talk about me. I also had a serious problem with wanting to make everyone like me, and making them happy. It was a major breakthrough when I realized not everyone is going to like me. I also started to pay more attention to what makes me happy and in return I became a happier more positive person. It is so good to finally be able to be myself. It was the moment that I looked into that precious baby’s eyes that I realized I am more than just another teenage mom. I can still do something with my life. With the help on my family and friends, he changed me. I made a promise to myself that day that I would give us the best life that I can, and I will. As of now I am working on my bachelor’s degree planning on becoming a banker. My son is almost eight months old and I thank god everyday that I was blessed with such a good baby. I am living with my mom and dad’s for the time being and they help me out with everything they can. I couldn’t ask for a better life.its a narrative for my english class. can you tell me what is mispelt. i ran spell checker.oh and the topic is something that changed your life.oh and the topic is something that changed your life. more

Resolved Question: Can I that pregnant from that?

First-please, don't judge. My husband doesn't wanna have a child, because he is ill and doesn't wanna live behind a child, who he cannot taking care of. I don't wanna fight with him and wasting his time, I just know, I fell, that I deserve for everything I've been thru have something left, when he will be gone. Doctors said, he can have a children and is no problem . I am 30, he is 29. We're young...been thru a lot...I decided try to get pregnant without let him know. I am sure, I am not first. I don't think , it is selfish, please, don't judge me. What I am doing is, after sex ( he is taking his penis out and ejaculates on my tummy ), I am trying to put the sperm inside my vagina. I am trying to do that , when I have positive ovulation test- for three months. I am completely healthy. Do you think, I can that pregnant like that? I didn't came with this idea, I read this somewhere. Do you have experience like that or heard about it? I know for sure, sperm live , when they hit the air for some time...I wish, I have a baby...probably son, who can have my husband name...I hope, it is gonna happend. Can you give me more options? Thanks more

Resolved Question: As we near the end of an era... what is your favorite Bushism? here are some examples:?

"Maybe the greatest expression of his befuddlement was something he said when asked to respond to an article by the writer Gail Sheehy claiming he was an undiagnosed dyslexic. 'The woman who knew that I had dyslexia — I never interviewed her.'" -Jacob Weisberg [5] "There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again." —Nashville, Tenn., Sept. 17, 2002 "Families is where our nation finds hope, where wings take dream." —LaCrosse, Wis., Oct. 18, 2000 "I know how hard it is for you to put food on your family." —Greater Nashua, N.H., Jan. 27, 2000 "Our enemies are innovative and resourceful, and so are we. They never stop thinking about new ways to harm our country and our people, and neither do we." —Washington, D.C., Aug. 5, 2004 "I know the human being and fish can coexist peacefully." —Saginaw, Mich., Sept. 29, 2000 "Rarely is the questioned asked: Is our children learning?" —Florence, S.C., Jan. 11, 2000 "Too many good docs are getting out of the business. Too many OB-GYNs aren't able to practice their love with women all across this country." —Poplar Bluff, Mo., Sept. 6, 2004 "I hear the voices, and I read the front page, and I know the speculation. But I'm the decider, and I decide what is best." --Washington, D.C., Apr. 18, 2006 "They misunderestimated me." —Bentonville, Ark., Nov. 6, 2000 "Poor people aren't necessarily killers." —Washington, D.C., May 19, 2003 "This thaw—took a while to thaw, it's going to take a while to unthaw."—Alexandria, La., Oct. 20, 2008 "And they have no disregard for human life."—Describing the brutality of Afghan fighters, Washington, D.C., July 15, 2008 "Before I arrived in President, During I arrived in President" December 1,2008 "As yesterday's positive report card shows, childrens do learn when standards are high and results are measured." --George W. Bush, on the No Child Left Behind Act, Washington, D.C., Sept. 26, 2007 more

Resolved Question: WOULD YOU BE A "SHOULDER TO CRY"?

ok, so how can I heal a broken heart? how can I move on when I feel like everything I do brings me back to square one? Here is my story: I just finish an 9 year relationship, I have always been IN LOVE with him, but I've known for a long time that he didn't love me the same way I loved him, it was a rocky relationship, but became worst 2 years ago when I found a lot of things about him, not only he was in love with someone else but he wasn't at all the same person I fell in love with, my heart was broke then but I was willing to make it work, but I became a very controlive person, I wanted to know where he was, with who, etc, etc, which made him crazy, and the relationship went slowly down the drain. I still love him so much but couldn't keep living with someone who didn't love me back, who by following his "dreams" left his family (we have 2 children together) behind, he was very selfish and only cared about his own...I guess that's what happened when you are with someone you don't love. Anyway, It's been more than 3 weeks since he moved out of the house and although I know it is the best for all...I can't seem to move on, I've been crying every single day until I have no more tears left, I feel like I'm drawning, I feel....like I am not going to get over this. I have tryied...but everytime he calls the boys to talk to them or when I see him because of the boys...I feel soo much pain, because I can't understand WHY if he didn't love me and as he said "HE realized he has never been ready for a stable relationship" ...HOW COME someone tell you that when you've been living together for 9 years? , I don't know If I can recuperate from this pain, I AM TRYING TO BE POSITIVE, and to really move on...but I CAN"T, I find myself crying and crying, remembering all the things he did and he said that hurt me. I KNOW that being apart is the BEST decision for all of us...but HOW CAN I MAKE THE PAIN STOP, WHAT CAN I DO TO SEE A SHINNIER DAY SOONER? and WILL I EVER GET PASS THIS? I'm sorry there are too many questions, but it's 7 am here and I can't seem to stop crying, I know he doesn't love me and perhaps he has another woman already ...and I know I have to move on, but HOW? more

Resolved Question: Need some good advise.............?

I just recently got of a live in relationship about 3 weeks ago. We've been living together for almost a year. We have a son. She also has two other daughter's from two other relationships. So basically, I had a ready made family, but honestly that was never an issue with me. As long as we made it work. We known each other since 1999. She had a hard time with jobs, money, and etc..........cause she dont have an education. She been saying for the longest that she's going too get her GED, and become an RN. Too this day that hasn't happen. Since 99' we've been on and off and during that we had our Son, but we weren't together. Two years after that she had a Daughter. In all we stayed in touch and decided that maybe its just meant for us too be. So before I left for Iraq I got her a car cause she has bad credit. I ended up having too pay almost all the payments during that time cause she lost her job, but I did it anyway too help her out. She got evicted shortly before I return too the states, but we already made plans too move in together. We did, but soon there after we started having problems. One was her oldest daughter. I never had a problem with her. Just wanted to be that father figure that she never had. I had rules for the house. Like picking up behind themselves, cleaning house, etc......things that I was bought up on. Everytime I said something too her, she goes running back too her Mom. Then she'll come too me upset and tells me that I'm too hard on the children. I didn't ask for much just clean behind your mess in the house, and good grades in school. On her last report card for made 5 "F". She told her mom it was because she didn't have glasses.........They we broke and if she had them that wouldnt have happen. I didn't buy that one bit....I was also there for her if she needed help with school work, and when she ask I helped her. We all needed too needed too work together as a family. As far as my son, I didnt even knew I had a son until he was 2. We she got back in touch with me and told me I had one. So I got a DNA test done and it was positive. So I did what a good father would do. I started taking care of him and spending as much time with him as possible. The youngest one loves me. She calls me daddy and I'm all she know. I've been around her since she was 5 months old. Now that you know the outline of this whole thing. This is the problem I have.......During the whole time I was the bread winner. I paid the rent, most of the bills, and made sure we had the best for our home. She didnt do much, at the begining she did, but when the income tax money started running out. So did the help. We've had our problems on and off during the whole thing, but I kept trying too make things right. Talking too her all the time about her backing me with the children. She has a strong hold on them, and I told her that I need her too back me on alot of things dealing with them. That never happen.........Made matters worse. So about a month ago. I finaly sat her down and told her I cant do this no more. That we need too go our seperate ways. She agreed, but only if she could stay until income tax time so she could move and get a car. She been stop making payment for the last two months on the car, and really wasn't doing much as for as helping with the bills. The only thing she did the whole time was buy the food. Have of the time was with food stamps. So that made it easy for her until they stop her food stamps. I told her I couldn't wait that long. This needs too happen within 30 days. From that point on things went for the worse. I got arrested cause her and her daughter said I push her, and was a big lie. If anything she rip the necklace she bought for me, and bluetooth that night. While in jail she stole $655.00 from me, when I posted bail. She went too the courthouse the next day and lied too the judge too get a TRO against me. They granted her with one. So now I cant come around the apartment thats in my name, and everything I ever owned in the apartment. I cant even see my son! So now I'm stuck! The only thing she bought in the place was clothes, and toys. Everything else is minds. Last week we had a hearing on the TRO. She gave me the keys too the car I got her. I got that back. She told the judge that she needed until the end of the month cause she moving then. The judge told her that, that wasn't a reason too get a TRO, but she got it extended aways cause of the fact I still have a court date for the arrest. The judge ask her about our son. She told the judge that my son said that he didn't like me, and that he didn't care if he never see's me again. That hurted badly too hear her lie like that. I pay child support so I'm going go through the courts to have rights too see my son. Also she said that she didn't want to get a permanent restraining order, because she knows that I wouldn't try anything once she's out the apt. She just needs the Temp until she leaves. Once the court was over and we both leThanks for your response. I'm in the middle of getting much dirt that I can get on her, and so far so good. Found out she has a past history. Alittle bit more info too share. I've turned off the home and cell phone that I had on my account. Saw the calls that she made online, and there were a huge load of calls made too other dudes. Even before and on the night I got arrest and then it became more obvious after that. There were times when I had too leave for work at 530am and like at 615am she was talking with another man. I'm hurt, cause I never knew this until I got my bill. One thing I did do, was turn off everything in the house except for the lights, because it was in her name. more

Resolved Question: is my crime story good?

Detective Murray Hudson’s eyes scanned the large living room, finally coming to rest on the body of Sasha Riley lying on the bloodstained carpet. The infamous model, known for her diva-like attitude and her regular public tantrums had been stabbed twice in the stomach while in her home exercising to a workout tape, with photographers and journalist’s right outside her gates while talking to her agent David Reid. On hearing her scream from inside the house, Reid ran inside, mid-sentence to journalists on the other side of the large gates guarding the house, to find the body of his boss on the floor. Hudson was stumped. Not only had the murderer ran inside the mansion, found the woman, killed her, and exited the building without being seen, but hadn’t even left behind a trace of evidence. As he walked around the perimeter of the room he contemplated suicide. Only yesterday had a Hudson himself read a harsh rumour that had been spread, making page three of the tabloids. The story claimed Riley had stolen the husband of her own cousin, a quiet suburban mother of three, in a bid to get revenge on a poor nanny she had recommended. Of course, Riley rejected any stories of such, even claimed she didn’t even know the woman. Surely cruel rumours were enough to erase all will to live? Hudson sighed, ‘Who am I kidding?’ He thought, even in today’s world, where child stars as young as fifteen were entering the world of drugs, alcohol and sex, suicide was out of the question. Every bit of the little evidence collected pointed to murder. Hudson walked over to a shaken up Reid, sitting on a couch holding a mug of coffee although showing no sign of actually drinking it. “How are you feeling?” asked Hudson. “A little better, thank-you.” replied Reid, looking up and forcing a tiny smile. Hudson sat next to Reid on the couch, and was about to ask him to recite what happened, but Reid seemed to have read his mind. “I was talking to the media on the other side of the gates,” he began “they were asking about that God-awful rumour that had been splashed across the tabloids. Anyway, I had been out there for about ten minutes, when I heard the scream of Miss Riley. I ran inside…” He trailed off. “And you’re perfectly sure you didn’t see anybody at all running away from the house?” “Yes, positive. How could they get in anyway, the gates were all shut, the doors locked aside from the front where I had come out to meet the journalists?” Hudson shook his head. The same question was trailing about through his own mind. It sounded like a very bizarre riddle. Two days later, Hudson was sitting at his desk when his partner, Inspector Clarkson, rushed in reciting news he had received about a crazed stalker of Riley who had been given a restraining order in May the previous year. Although the man had not bothered Sasha Riley since the order was issued, and Hudson was quite doubtful that a stalker would go almost a year without bothered Riley and suddenly murder her, it was like a breath of fresh air to him. For the past forty-eight hours the investigation into the death was moving at a glacial pace, with a number of small false leads, which even had Hudson doubting whether this case was a solvable one. Clarkson and Hudson arrived at the home of Tony Gotzheim after winding their way to through the city and eventually finding themselves in a dreary looking neighbourhood, one where the houses front gardens were overgrown, the windows stained grey and shoes draped over telephone wires at every corner. Walking through Gotzheim’s front lawn he saw a dead-looking car parked among a bunch of other garbage that was beyond recognising. Knocking on the paint-peeled door he immediately heard footsteps coming down the corridor behind the door. The door opened, and before them stood a man who’s last shave was three weeks over due. His hair was greasy, eyes bloodshot, and the stench coming from him was less than pleasant. i'm not sure how to start this conversation between Gotzheim and Hudson.. any ideas? I'm not excatly sure how a derelict stalker would react to a murder investigation of his idol.I'm only in grade nine, so please no abuse. All constructive critisism will be appreciated (: more

Resolved Question: No Child Left Behind...What are the positives/negatives? What is your opinion on the act?

I am doing an opinionated research paper for my Schools in American Society class at Northern Iowa. I was wondering what you thought of the NCLB Act? If you have a chance, also describe what you know of the act and why you are for or against it. more

Resolved Question: My autistic child is in an inclusion class and the staff are failing her as a whole!?

I need advice on this matter to prepare for the next I.E.P meeting in a few days. This question is geared toward any of you out there that has any experience getting results in the favor for your child. Here's a little backround knowledge you may need to know to help me out. Last year she started out in a pre-k disabled class. It was suggested she go into an inclusion class this year. We just moved to Maryland and the school in particular, in my opinion, was not prepared for her. Because of the 'no child left behind' law, they are basically trying to force her placement to work. Besides the speech, occupational, and physical therapies that are already in place, are there any other services I could legally ask for that can be added to her I.E.P? Tonight she told me her teacher was mad at her, but I couldn't get any more out of her. I'm concerned and extremely worried, when they send a letter home informing me she misbehaved, they tell me they send her out of the class. I'm almost positive when the typical kids misbehave, they don't do the same with those children. Maryland has half-day pre-k programs which I feel is horrible because coming from Jersey, pre-k kids get all day programs. if it was doable to go back to Jersey, I would. What are the special needs children/families rights in the state of Maryland? Can I request she meet with a particular professional for different communication tatics? She has the vocabulary but she just cannot express matters, situations properly. I NEED to know what's going on with my baby when I put her in the care of others, and I'm basically talking about the staff at this school. Please anyone out there with any informative knowledge please respond. Thank you in advance. more

Resolved Question: Is Kobe Bryant ruining the lives of a small % of children in American?

if only their time was spend on learning how to read or learning to add and subtract #s instead of waiting at the Public Library for computers, they can really make something of themselves and be a positive contributer to society. I really hope Obama can do a better job on this than Bush, cuz Bush's "No Child left behind act" really left alot of kids behind. (sigh) what a waste!Alpha: Good to have you back friend, did you watch the Rockets vs Lakers last night? Man them Rockets sure took it to my Lakers good. You predicted a 21pts Lakers loss right?http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuCGT_dGD.e5NFz61FUk4GLsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081109190555AAyTsYV LMAO!!sorry if I am mistaken, but Lakers beat the Spurs 4-1 last year, and if I recall Duncan was on that team.......so...... ummm, never mind I am probably wrong since you are right all the time( ex: predicting Rockets blowing out the Lakers by 21pts.) more

Resolved Question: No Child Left Behind, does it really work?

What are the positive aspects of NCLB? (in your opinion/experience) What are the negatives? Do you see any problems with it? more

Voting Question: "Gum Bumping disaster UPDATE"?

Here is the stress… Okay so my best friend doesn’t have the greatest memory on earth, but it’s obvious she can’t exactly remember everything. Who can anyway? So, maybe I am giving her a little too much credit, the girl fails to remember every god damn thing whispered, yelled, promised…..And, I mean, if the girl was threatened to be buried if she forgot whatever info she needed to remember the girl would most likely end up buried. Yes, as sad as it sounds, the girl, well she can be in mid suffering of young-zheimer’s (no cells left), hm, I’m wondering if there is a such thing. Oh yeah, my friend has an eight year old child, “so and” because of her lowest of all lowest to the bone memory skills, homework that her child needs complete is one of many things forgotten. She (my best friend), because she trusts her child being an honest child, and because it’s hard not to admit ones child can be the exact same devil who behaves angel like during “mommy and child time”, yet, child in school has deals with Lucifer in secret, which “teacher” hopes daily, if not in nightmare, for Lucifer’s helper to possibly just skip school, today, tomorrow, or flip, god errr just any day, any day without “devil child” corrupting the entire class. Yup, not likely in this case, the kid is actually a pretty good liar with all intents of not getting caught. Hm, kids! The kid usually can truthfully answer questions, well, in spurts at least, and for plenty of the parts when truth is almost crucial, even if his behind is at threatening risk’s (yes, at all cost’s), so almost to say “like son, like mother”. I think the child use’s the “I forgot” excuse mainly because he’s smart enough to remember his mother’s memory is at peaks completely gone. Makes no sense…. Any-fruit-of-the-loom, my poor poor friend is constantly reminded by thee entire universe of her responsibilities to the point where the girl avoids expressing an inch of a itch, so BASICALLY nothing, the girl would bite here lip off holding everything thing mind shaking in, rather then, in turn having her as the main topic on the 10 O’clock news, “exclusive for those who love to tell others what to do in there lives, yes, positive advisory absolutely avoided without morals, special edition dramatics only” ,NEW, LIVE, and in your mouth as well as the whole world…All great vines here… Featuring: Intruders, those who fail to acknowledge there own advice, those who lack perfection, those who worry less of there own flaws, those who overly drama antagonize everyone else’s issue expect there own. Hm, uniquely this includes everyone. So the kid, the kid indeed lives up to the responsibilities of following thru with child’s homework, SO, the kid missed one out of nine in per week, three weeks in a row. WOW big deal! My dear forgetful friend knows of her child’s missing assignments, however, and seemingly, it’s definitely not life threatening, obviously, but since the 10 O’clock dramatics is staring her as main character over all every other topic on earth (NOTE:YEAH and of course everyone not knowing my friend has already settled it out with her own child, homework wise) , my friend at every end has to stand in front of anyone who has something to say, as if she has the slightest care as to what they “think” she should do with her own problems. As you can see, nerve wrecking is initially and stably functioning thus area. Ha. I love myself… I told her to rudely abort there wishes, excluding them from worlds of care and to, well, rather exempt there high hopes of molding people in to there identity of which falls crisis contradicting ever other words that flops thru there yellow blinging, NOTE, without actual bling thru there exaggeratedly tiny corroded teeth. ~Kudos Point being, can I get some Amens, I love you, you’re, you’re, well, just elite. The greatest, funny, disaster’s and complete catastrophic blank, uniquely the same, stupendous at all and no cost. A simple high five will do. A laugh? more

Resolved Question: Is Religion a Form of Mental Terrorism down by EXTREMIST?

THANK YOU for taking time to read this and answer my question. Terrorism - Is The unlawful use or threatened use of force or violence by a person or an organized group against people or property with the intention of intimidating or coercing societies or governments, often for ideological, beliefs of faith or political reasons. Now the QQuestion and what has occurred to lead me to it? Is Religion a Form of Mental Terrorism done by extremists? I would fall asleep with vision of bible story's read to me as a kid Terrorized me with visions of devils and demons, and of hell with its everlasting fire and worms that never die,and of a place called purgatory, where the souls are purged until they are clean to enter heaven. It terrorReligions that rely on guilt and fear to control the sheeple are not attractive to people who can think for themselves or fear true questions of introspection that permits metal growth. People are threatened with so called hell and fire if they even begin to think for themselves! It is so sad that so many religious people make God out to be this evil being that punishes people over sin!That's why they start with the young: teach them something that has no basis in fact, because they're more likely to reject it if they pick it up as adults than if they memorize it as children.Considering that parents start indoctrinating their children at a very young age ''be good, and you be fine''! But, if you don't you'll go to hell! Now, how is that NOT terrorism??It's just not religion, but people anxious from power? Wasn't the church at 1 point the only position of power controlling education not allowing anyone to learn how to read. I spent my whole childhood terrified of the dark, waiting for the devil to come and ''get me'' for the least infraction of the rules. I am positive that my parents were not intending to scare me to death, but the sad truth is that the result was the same! It is so ingrained into your subconscious, it can't help but flow over into your adult psyche, Religion is one of the most serious mental illnesses of today? Is it the inability to face the reality of life and the finality of death and they feed that fear with? or Is it more as mental slavery? Now the idea of extremism does extremism corrupt the ideas behind religion and its teachings? All extremism is evil, it is a form of obsession/greed. so that being said why are we categorizing Islam under terrorism in the media? doesn't anyone remember Timothy McVay bombing he was a national extremist? the true Terrorist is the extremist? so that being said the extreme left wing, the extreme right wing, the extreme nationals, the extreme Christian(crusades, abortion clinic massacres), Jewish(western bank, war of the temple), Islamic(Western bank, war of the temple). Obsessing about ones religion and Forcing in on to others through any media or self is terrorism on the conscious mind? God loves only those that are catholic, i mean Islamic, ooppps i mean Jewish? EXAMPLE so my RELIGION _____ makes me better then anyone else? and if don't believe, your going to hell, limbo, whatever? what kind of Envy an is that? isn't that a sin envy and pride, god is universal, in my opinion i think hate should be a sin.....i don't think god would want to teach hate, but acceptance of love. we preach religious freedoms, but do we practice love for others? Puritan Massachusetts i, kicking out the Catholics and Jews in the 1600s to 1800s, sent them to Rhode Island with nothing but what they could carry. where is there sense in that view point? what happened to respect or even rationality? do u feel like the media is making attack on Islam?Don't we need to fight all religious extremism Instead of one? I would love another perspective and opinion thank you for taking time to read this. p.s i do believe in god/creator, i just don't believe in organized religion. more

Resolved Question: Is Religion a Form of Mental Terrorism? ?

THANK YOU for taking time to read this and answer my question. Terrorism - The unlawful use or threatened use of force or violence by a person or an organized group against people or property with the intention of intimidating or coercing societies or governments, often for ideological, beliefs of faith or political reasons. Now the QQuestion and what has occurred to lead me to it? Is Religion a Form of Mental Terrorism done by extremists? I would fall asleep with vision of bible story's read to me as a kid Terrorized me with visions of devils, and of hell with its everlasting fire and worms that never die,and of a place called purgatory, where the souls are purged until they are clean to enter heaven. It terrorReligions that rely on guilt and fear to control the sheeple are not attractive to people who can think for themselves or fear true questions of introspection that permits metal growth. People are threatened with so called hell and fire if they even begin to think for themselves! It is so sad that so many religious people make God out to be this evil being that punishes people over sin!That's why they start with the young: teach them something that has no basis in fact, because they're more likely to reject it if they pick it up as adults than if they memorize it as children.Considering that parents start indoctrinating their children at a very young age ''be good, and you be fine''! But, if you don't you'll go to hell! Now, how is that NOT terrorism??It's just not religion, but people anxious from power? Wasn't the church at 1 point the only position of power controlling education not allowing anyone to learn how to read. I spent my whole childhood terrified of the dark, waiting for the devil to come and ''get me'' for the least infraction of the rules. I am positive that my parents were not intending to scare me to death, but the sad truth is that the result was the same! It is so ingrained into your subconscious, it can't help but flow over into your adult psyche, Religion is one of the most serious mental illnesses of today? Is it the inability to face the reality of life and the finality of death and they feed that fear with? or Is it more as mental slavery? Now the idea of extremism does extremism corrupt the ideas behind religion and its teachings? All extremism is evil, it is a form of obsession/greed. so that being said why are we categorizing Islam under terrorism in the media? doesn't anyone remember Timothy McVay bombing he was a national extremist? the true Terrorist is the extremist? so that being said the extreme left wing, the extreme right wing, the extreme nationals, the extreme Christian(crusades, abortion clinic massacres), Jewish(western bank, war of the temple), Islamic(Western bank, war of the temple). Obsessing about ones religion and Forcing in on to others through any media or self is terrorism on the conscious mind? God loves only those that are catholic, i mean Islamic, ooppps i mean Jewish? EXAMPLE so my RELIGION _____ makes me better then anyone else? and if don't believe, your going to hell, limbo, whatever? what kind of Hippocratcie is that? god is universal, in my opinion i think hate should be a sin.....i don't think god would want to teach hate, but acceptance of love. we preach religious freedoms, but do we practice love for others? Puritan Massachusetts i, kicking out the Catholics and Jews in the 1600s to 1800s, sent them to Rhode Island with nothing but what they could carry. where is there sense in that view point? what happened to respect or even rationality? do u feel like the media is making attack on Islam?Don't we need to fight all religious extremism Instead of one? I would love another perspective and opinion thank you for taking time to read this. p.s i do believe in god/creator, i just don't believe in organized religion. more

Resolved Question: An adult child of sexual abuse.?

I was abused sexually as a child. I also watched my mom go "OUT" with guys when we would leave the abusive parent. She thought she was no longer with him so she wasn't cheating. But we always went back. I figured out that she went "OUT" with other guys after a separation to make herself feel better. (We moved in and out 19 times in 2 years so it happened often.) My moms relationship was a total of 6.5 years with this man. My questions are: 1. Why does a sexually abused child (8-13 yrs old) become a sexually promiscuous teen and adult? 2. Why did I, with extremely low self esteem, seek out sexual companionship? 3. After watching my mom and not liking it, why did I do the same? I think it is because that was the only way I knew how to get positive attention and to make myself feel better when I was down. Am I partly right? 4. Can this adult who becomes a "swinger" with her 2nd husband for 18 years become a different and better person after divorce? ie: I was married to him for 19 years,morallyhim for 18 and away from him for 2 years now. I have met the most wonderful man that lives moraly, ethically and is athoset swinging. 1 man for 1 woman. Through knowledge and acceptance I have come to hate most of thoes 18 monogamyd the life I lived and what it did to my life and for whatever it will do to my life in the future. I'm honestly happy now where before I was pretending to be happy. I want monogomy, I thrive for it. My man now is worried that I will someday want to return to the behavior that I have willingly left behind. I truly understand his fears and I know that only I know how strongly I feel about not reliving the past. How do I make him understand that I hated me, my then husband, my life and so many of the people involved to the point that I have learned from my past and refuse to ever become that horrible nasty person ever again? How do we put my past behind us? I do have serious questions about both subjects. If you have advice or thoughts, please help me with all of it. more

Resolved Question: my colleagues in the NASW have made their endorsement. What are your reactions?

I think its a good choice, but i AM a social worker after all. What are your reactions to the NASW press release below? (I think I know what some reactions will be here ------ LOL) The National Association of Social Workers enthusiastically endorses Barack Obama for President in 2008. Senator Obama holds the ideals of the profession in high regard as evidenced by his support of important legislation such as the Mental Health Parity Act, End Racial Profiling Act, and Healthy Families Act. Senator Obama attended Columbia University and moved to Chicago after graduation to become a community organizer in the tradition of Saul Alinksy and in the hometown of legendary social worker Jane Addams. He spent several years working to transform the South Side of Chicago and once noted, “It’s as a consequence of working with this organization and this community that I found my calling. There was something more than making money and getting a fancy degree. The measure of my life would be public service.” In order to help find solutions to the problems Senator Obama saw as a community organizer, he went on to pursue his law degree from Harvard Law School and was elected the first African American President of the Harvard Law Review. He served in the Illinois Senate for seven years before becoming a United States Senator. Barack Obama is an ally to social workers and the clients we serve including women, children, and people of color. He has vowed to promote equal opportunity and end discrimination, empowering people to make positive changes in their communities and in their lives. He is a strong supporter of civil rights legislation aimed at closing the pay equity gap, ending racial profiling, and reducing hate crimes across the country. Senator Obama has promised to make health care affordable for all Americans and has pledged to protect a woman’s right to choose. During his term as President, Senator Obama vows to strengthen the Medicare system that many of our clients depend on and is opposed to the privatization of our Social Security system. He pledges to reform No Child Left Behind, solve the current school dropout crisis, and make higher education affordable. Barack Obama is an ally to the profession and it is our responsibility to ensure that social work issues stay primary in his campaign. As president, Senator Obama will be making important appointments that affect the social work profession such as Secretary of Health and Human Services and Director of the National Institutes of Health. These key decisions will have an impact not only on the profession but the entire nation. There are several ways to ensure that social work plays a prominent role in the next administration. One of those ways is to volunteer with the Obama campaign. You can make phone calls, attend campaign events, or work in campaign offices across the country. Find out how to volunteer for his campaign by visiting www.barackobama.com. We hope that you will visit our endorsement site at www.socialworkers.org/pace/2008election/endorse.asp and learn more about the ways in which you can become involved in this historical presidential campaign. You can also learn more about NASW PACE advocacy, and find out how you can make your voice heard. For more information contact naswpace@naswdc.org. *Senator Obama is not accepting contributions from lobbyists or political action groups, however he will be accepting contributions from individuals. National Association of Social Workers 750 First Street, NE, Suite 700, Washington, DC 20002-4241 If you no longer wish to receive e-mail from us, please click here.For the right-wingers chiming in ---- is the current level of venom necessary? I'm trying to avoid that atmosphere on this one (just a thought, ok?).wow --- I ask that the level of venom be moderated, and we get no more answers. yikes ...Rev. Ricky ---- your answering is troubling. The NASW is not a "black" organization ---- I'm as white as they come, by the way. And, the AMA a "black" organization? As I said, this is troubling...Rev --- you did mean the AMA, right?hmm, looked it up, you are right about the NMA (not AMA). don't know why it being an organization for African-Americans is important, though. And, as I said, the NASW is for all social workers, of all races. (although there is an association for African-American social workers ----- separate and distinct from the NASW) more

Resolved Question: What are the drawbacks to "No Child Left Behind?"?

I've heard a lot of negative things, but I would like some viewpoints...both positive and negative, if you like. more

Resolved Question: These are the 10 Dumbest quotes ______ ever said?

10. "Rarely is the questioned asked: Is our children learning?" Florence, South Carolina, Jan. 11, 2000 9. "As yesterday's positive report card shows, childrens do learn when standards are high and results are measured." on the No Child Left Behind Act, Washington, D.C. Sept. 26, 2007 8. "If this were a dictatorship, it'd be a heck of a lot easier, just so long as I'm the dictator." --Washington, D.C., Dec. 19, 2000 7. "I'm the decider, and I decide what is best. And what's best is for Don Rumsfeld to remain as the Secretary of Defense." --Washington, D.C. April 18, 2006 6. "There's an old saying in Tennessee -- I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee -- that says, fool me once, shame on --shame on you. Fool me -- you can't get fooled again." --Nashville, Tenn., Sept. 17, 2002 5. "Too many good docs are getting out of the business. Too many OB-GYNs aren't able to practice their love with women all across this country." --Poplar Bluff, Mo., Sept. 6, 2004 ...4. "Our enemies are innovative and resourceful, and so are we. They never stop thinking about new ways to harm our country and our people, and neither do we." --Washington, D.C., Aug. 5, 2004 3. "You work three jobs? ... Uniquely American, isn't it? I mean, that is fantastic that you're doing that." --to a divorced mother of three, Omaha, Nebraska, Feb. 4, 2005 2. "Brownie, you're doing a heck of a job." --to FEMA director Michael Brown, who resigned 10 days later amid criticism over his handling of the Hurricane Katrina debacle, Mobile, Ala., Sept. 2, 2005 1. "My answer is bring them on." --on Iraqi insurgents attacking U.S. forces, Washington, D.C., July 3, 2003Who said these? Do you know?To Fallen Angel, you are funny, thanks for the laugh! I didn't have a choice but narrow it down to 10, cause when I searched there were lists, 50, 25... So I had to search on 10, no space here for all of them! more

Resolved Question: Internet Debate Essay. What Do You Think ? Please Help ! ( Year 10 Coursework)?

It could be argued that the internet is the best technical development of our time. Since its creation in the late sixties, it has quickly become an important and beneficial piece of modern technology to millions of people all over the world. It is a global computer network, which provides a variety of facilities for communication, information and entertainment. With simple and immediate access to endless websites, available with just a click of a mouse, it may seem that surfing the net is the perfect cure for boredom. On the contrary, many people find themselves questioning this positive attitude towards the World Wide Web, when considering the risks and disadvantages that it brings, and the dangers that anyone may encounter whilst online. Amongst the most popular sites are social networks, such as ’Facebook’ and ‘Netlog’, where users have their own page within the network, and can communicate with each other no matter where in the world they are. People of any age, race or background can use these sites, which means you can talk to all sorts of people and learn about hundreds of different cultures and lifestyles. This is a great way to meet new friends or keep in touch with your old ones. ‘MySpace’ is a network where accounts and home pages are created by users, and pictures, music, blogs (online diaries) and videos can be uploaded. Bands, venues, individuals or even companies may have their own ‘MySpace’ and therefore you are sure to find something of interest amongst the thousands of accounts. ‘Msn Messenger’, the instant messaging service, is probably the most popular way for web users to stay in contact and have free, live conversations with any number of people. This means it is possible for many disabled internet users to talk amongst friends, without the trouble of leaving the house or the high expense of using the telephone. The disadvantage of this way of communicating is the lack of trust available between members, due to the fact that there is no sure way of knowing exactly whom you are talking to. People can lie about their identity, particularly their age, and paedophiles and stalkers may use the sites as easy access to their victims. Adults may lure children into thinking they are other children of a similar age and might convince them into meeting up with them in the outside world. This is called grooming and has been known to lead onto kidnappings, rape and violent attacks. Innocent youths may also fall victims to people of their own age, when accounts are hacked and abuse can be written through fake identities. It seems easier for teenagers to emotionally and mentally bully children of their own age whilst online, without the full contact of face-to-face conversation in real-life. Hateful messages can be sent through instant messaging, emails and even comment boxes on websites or someone’s personal page. This cyber bullying is a huge issue online and children can often feel unsafe within their own homes if they are suffering this abuse. Social networks may also have an addictive affect on users meaning they interact a lot less with friends and family. Users may even be left lacking the skills to have real conversations with people, without being able to hide behind a computer screen and keyboard. Then again, there is also the isolation that people who do not have internet access may face. They are unable to stay in touch with friends in the way that so may people take for granted. However, a final advantage of these social networking sites is that they are an advertisers dream. Businesses can easily advertise online, and popular sites such as these social networking ones are a huge opportunity to attract customers. Children, adults, parents and people of different professions and interests can be specifically targeted through certain websites, which are suited to them, in order to attract the most potential customers. A good example of this is through search engines, which make their money by displaying advertisements within the results of what the internet user has searched. Of course businesses can use the internet to their advantage in many other ways also. Records and databases can be held on the internet, and secured and accessed through passwords. The stock exchange can be viewed online and companies can check in on their competition by simply searching for them on the internet. They can research customer demand , or keep in touch with buyers, employees and other businesses via email or their own webpage .Finally, websites like ‘Monster’, which is an online directory where employees upload their CV’s, allow employers to find the most suitable staff, without having to hold hundreds of interviews. Another way in which the internet is highly useful is through its vast range of entertainment available. This entertainment can mean that it is no longer necessary to leave your seat in order to have fun, and therefore hundreds of people have a significant lack of exercise, which of course is a health risk. This has been linked to the increasing problem of obesity in both children and adults. On the other hand, the vast sources of entertainment are a major plus to millions of internet surfers. Video upload sites prove to be very popular with hundreds of thousands of viewers visiting Youtube everyday. Anyone can upload anything they like onto these sites from TV series, to homemade short films, music videos and any other creations. It is a great way to watch and create video blogs and learn about other people from across the world. It could even be said that the internet is better than a remote control. Online gaming is another aspect of the internet to enjoy. Hundreds of free games are available to download and play with genres to suit everyone. Puzzle, adventure, racing and even multiplayer games can be accessed quickly through many websites, the majority are free and simple to download or play though a flash player. Downloading is relied on by many people so that they can have the latest songs and films stored to their own computer and then sent to their phone or personal music and video players (Ipods or MP4s). ‘Limewire’ is a program that allows millions of files to be shared across the net and almost anything can be downloaded quickly and simply from this free source. This can mean that the artists and producers of songs are missing out on profits that they deserve. All this freedom of viewing on the net can be dangerous when there are no age restrictions. Youths may be badly influenced by violent images they see online, and unsuitable pornographic material is easily accessible to them at the click of a mouse. Most adults would agree that this needs to be more carefully regulated, but it is highly unlikely that age restrictions would ever prevent teenagers from intentionally viewing these sites, when they can simply type in a false age. This easy accessibility throughout the internet can be useful though when referring to educational purposes. Students have many websites available that are dedicated to encourage and enable studying, revision and coursework. BBC Bitesize in particular is a useful website which pupils of Key stage three and Key Stage four can use to assist them in learning. Teachers can also benefit from the online lesson plans on offer throughout the net and students can stay in touch with their tutors through email whenever necessary. The internet can also be considered as a brilliant learning aid because of its huge volumes of information covering endless varieties of subjects; it could be thought of as the biggest encyclopaedia in the world. Information that is usually unobtainable in local libraries is easily reached through search engines and students can read expert knowledge from specialists in the topic they need. Never the less there are still negative aspects to using the internet this way. It makes it possible for pupils to copy and cheat on tests and coursework using past essays and work that someone has uploaded onto the web previously. Some learners may become dependent on using the internet for help with their work and not able to perform as well under exam conditions in school. Some information gained from websites may be seriously outdated or inaccurate and therefore useless. There is also an unfair advantage on students that do no have internet access at home. Shopping online is another great way of taking advantage of the World Wide Web. You can purchase anything from a huge assortment of products from anywhere in the world; from clothes, gifts, memorabilia and anything else that you could possibly want. It’s the ultimate shopping experience, and shops you can find on the high street have their own online stores along with shops only available on the net. It is a much simpler way of browsing for whatever you may be looking for, without the bother of busy crowds. There are also often online discounts available, or some items sold on the internet are originally cheaper than on the high street anyway, and comparing prices online is easily done. Being able to shop online makes a big difference in peoples lives if they are disabled or seriously ill. Being housebound means that they do not get the chance to visit the supermarket or their local city centre on a regular basis, like so many people do, but that problem has been solved with home delivery. Anything they might buy off the internet can probably be delivered straight to their doorstep, whether it’s their weekly shop or something they’ve splashed out on. ‘Ebay’ is a massively successful online auction site where you can bid on items which other people are selling through the website. All you need is an online account and then you can start buying and selling pretty much what ever takes your fancy. You can make money by selling unwanted pieces in your home or save money by striking lucky in an auction, and having the winning bid on your requested item. However, things that you see on the internet may not always turn out to be what you expected when they arrive at your home. What you have bought may have been misrepresented online and you could be left disappointed with something you have no use of. It is also common to overspend without realising when buying online. Paying for goods via the internet is only possible by using a credit card and sometimes this means that you are not as aware of exactly how much money you are parting with, if you do not physically hand it over. Even more unfortunate is that your card details may not be secure and someone else could use your bank account without you knowing. Although using the internet is an essential aspect to many people’s lives, it does prove to have risks and consequences if used inappropriately or too often. Still, I have to disagree with the statement of “the internet is a monster out of control” because I find that the pros out weigh the cons by far. Without the internet certain aspects of life would prove difficult to me and millions of other people. The web is relied on everyday for purposes of work, school and play and as long as we approach it with more knowledge of the dangers, it can benefit us the many ways that it is intended to. more

Resolved Question: What would have happened if a caucassian had said this?

When New Orleans Went Under Way way too much truth here NO wonder the liberal main stream press never printed this It is true per Snopes.com Want the original article and comments Link at the end Plus this man can not run for office he has IQ above 12 or NOT on the take YET ! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- New Orleans Went Under--A Black Man's Comments Carefully read the whole article. You'll be amazed at this guy! I don't know the man who wrote this, but I looked at his picture and read it with my mouth hanging open. He says things here that no white man could ever write and keep his job as a writer . By Say a hurricane is about to destroy the city you live in. Two questions: What would you do? What would you do if you were black? Sadly, the two questions don't have the same answer. To the first: Most of us would take our families out of that city quickly to protect them from danger. Then, able-bodied men would return to help others in need, as wives and others cared for children, elderly, infirm and the like. For better or worse, Hurricane Katrina has told us the answer to the second question. If you're black and a hurricane is about to destroy your city, you'll probably wait for the government to save you. This was not always the case. Prior to 40 years ago, such a pathetic performance by the black community in a time of crisis would have been inconceivable. The first response would have come from black men. They would take care of their families, bring them to safety, and then help the rest of the community. Then local government would come in. No longer. When 75 percent of New Orleans residents had left the city, it was primarily immoral, welfare-pampered blacks that stayed behind and waited for the government to bail them out. This, as we know, did not turn out good results. Enter Jesse Jackson and Louis Farrakhan. Jackson and Farrakhan laid blame on "racist" President Bush. Farrakhan actually proposed the idea that the government blew up a levee so as to kill blacks and save whites. The two demanded massive governmental spending to rebuild New Orleans, above and beyond the federal government's proposed $60 billion. Not only that, these two were positioning themselves as the gatekeepers to supervise the dispersion of funds. Perfect: Two of the most dishonest elite blacks in America, "overseeing" billions of dollars. I wonder where that money will end up. Of course, if these two were really serious about laying blame on government, they should blame the local one. Responsibility to perform legally and practically fell first on the mayor of New Orleans. We are now all familiar with Mayor Ray Nagin, the black who likes to yell at President Bush for failing to do Nagin's job. The facts, unfortunately, do not support Nagin's wailing. As the Washington Times puts it, "Recent reports show [Nagin] failed to follow through on his own city's emergency response plan, which acknowledged that thousands of the city's poorest residents would have no way to evacuate the city." One wonders how there was "no way" for these people to evacuate the city. We have photographic evidence telling us otherwise. You've probably seen it by now: the photo showing 2,000 parked school buses, unused and underwater. How much planning does it require to put people on a bus and leave town, Mayor Nagin? Instead of doing the obvious, Mayor Nagin (with no positive contribution from Gov. Kathleen Blanco, the other major leader vested with responsibility to address the hurricane disaster) loaded remaining New Orleans residents into the Superdome and the city's convention center. We know how that plan turned out. About five years ago, in a debate before the National Association of Black Journalists, I stated that if whites were to just leave the United States and let blacks run the country, they would turn America into a ghetto within 10 years. The audience, shall we say, disagreed with me strongly. Now I have to disagree with me. I gave blacks too much credit. It took a mere three days for blacks to turn the Superdome and the convention center into ghettos, rampant with theft, rape and murder. President Bush is not to blame for the rampant immorality of blacks. Had New Orleans' black community taken action, most would have been out of harm's way. But most were too lazy, immoral and trifling to do anything productive for themselves. All Americans must tell blacks this truth. It was blacks' moral poverty, not their material poverty, that cost them dearly in New Orleans. Farrakhan, Jackson, and other race hustlers are to be repudiated for they will only perpetuate this problem by stirring up hatred and applauding moral corruption. New Orleans, to the extent it is to be rebuilt, should be remade into a dependency-free, morally strong city where corruption is opposed and success is applauded. Blacks are obligated to help themselves and not depend on the government to care for them. We are all obligated to tell them so. The Rev. Jesse Lee Peterson is founder and president of BOND, the Brotherhood Organization of A New Destiny, and author of "Scam: How the Black Leadership Exploits Black America." more

Resolved Question: Poetry Help Please help me?

The courage that my mother had Went with her, and is with her still: Rock from New England quarried; New granite in a granite hill. The golden brooch my mother wore She left behind for me to wear; I have no thing I treasure more: Yet, it is something I could spare. Oh, if instead she'd left to me The thing she took into the grave!- That courage like a rock, which she Has no more need of, and I have. . What is each speaker's attitude toward his or her parent? 2. WHich words, images, and figures of speech have positive associations? Which help to create a negative impression? 3. How would you characterize each poem's tone? For example it the tone sentimental? Playful? Angry? Resentful? Regretful? 4. What problem associated with parent - child relationships are explored in each poem? 5. What does each peom say about the parent? What does it reveal about the child ? 6. What is the poem central theme? more

Resolved Question: How would you feel about direct Corporate sponsorships of schools?

"No child left behind" what a joke, other Presidential issues has clearly put this PROMISE in the very back of the proverbial bus. So I pose the idea of direct corporate sponsorships pf schools by local buisnesses to "Adopt a school" on a TAX BREAK incentive. To me there is no reason for money to travel to DC then to get redistributed by some politician that is out of touch with "Main street school". One of the best ways for getting ideas and to foster a competitive edge is to look within. There is plenty of talent that is wasted because they are discouraged by urban blight and the empty promises of our leaders. If a local buisness could reach out with a piece of their extra profits,and to go out one to one and make a presence be felt, I would think that there would be a very positive response. I am sure that there is allot more detail to address on some thing like this, but in a nutshell, what do you think? more

Resolved Question: Pregnant and Bleeding. Help!?

LMP was June 14 cycles were kind of irregular but I was charting. Got positive hpt on July 8 or 9, they did betas the next day and the results 100. Next betas done a week later and were 1483. They did an ultrasound at what was 7 weeks from last period and they said I was only measuring 5 wks 5 days all they saw was a yolk sac but no baby/heartbeat. Next ultrasound (a week later dated me as 6 wks 6 days. said they saw a baby/flicker of a heartbeat (they didn't measure the bpm or anything). Scheduled for another ultrasound Aug 25 because measuring behind and then thursday started having contractions (have another child know what they feel like) doc told me I was dehydrated so I drank they eventually went away.Then yesterday I started spotting. Went to ER. Didn't do ultrasound. Said cervix was closed. Beta 17,899. Potassium levels low. Came home started spotting more small old looking blood dried clots. Left side started hurting really bad and I'm dizzy. Go back to ER? In pain. more

Resolved Question: ADHD child... problems with 1st grade & the school is not working w/me.?

my son had a terrible year. the teacher punished him for his ADHD symptoms (getting behind in class, or lost, etc..) and the guidance counsler promised help and info re: what the school can do to work with me and then blew me off for the rest of the year and didn't get me any info. The teacher called with only negative feeedback or no calls at all (no positives).. my son is struggling with Lang. arts and EXCELLING in math. I have him on Concerta and I (being ADD my whole life) have tried to be supportive and helpful. I need to push the school more... but they blow me off - left and right! when I ask for meetings, I get a call saying - let's just try this..."xxx" and then no meeting. over and over CHADD is around here, but I dont have the extra $$ to join, but I do need some advice and support. I want my son to enjoy leaving for school - not dread being singled out DAILY as the BAD KID that the parents dont want their kids to play with. HE is kind and generous & sweethe is a nice child. I know he isn't an angel, but some kids I see in his class HIT other kids, curse and are generally mean to others. HE goes out of his way to help kids, even the special needs kids in school. He is very well spoken and has good morals. So I don't think he is a "problem kid"... again - NO ANGEL - but not an agressive or thoughtless child. But he is always lonely and made fun off because he gets in so much trouble. for not paying attention or losing track or impulse control (calling out without waiting his turn to be called on), so he loses his recess consistantly (AWFUL PUNISHMENT FOR AN ADHD CHILD). I have BEGGED the teacher to find an alternative to taking his recess away - he needs to get his energy out in a positive manner. But she continues to take recess and he spends it alone - sitting on a wall behind the recess ladies ON DISPLAY for all the kids to look at. IT IS AWFUL help me more

Resolved Question: 2nd post-what do you think of this? Written by a black rev. about New Orleans.. The pic didn't copy-??

Carefully read the whole article. You'll be amazed at this guy!!! I don't know the man who wrote this, but I looked at his picture and read it with my mouth hanging open. He says things here that no white man could ever write and keep his job as a writer, and he speaks the truth. Wednesday, September 21, 2005 -Moral poverty cost blacks in New Orleans -1:00 a.m. Eastern By Say a hurricane is about to destroy the city you live in. Two questions: What would you do? What would you do if you were black? Sadly, the two questions don't have the same answer. To the first: Most of us would take our families out of that city quickly to protect them from danger. Then, able-bodied men would return to help others in need, as wives and others cared for children, elderly, infirm and the like. For better or worse, Hurricane Katrina has told us the answer to the second question. If you're black and a hurricane is about to destroy your city, you'll probably wait for the government to save you. This was not always the case. Prior to 40 years ago, such a pathetic performance by the black community in a time of crisis would have been inconceivable. The first response would have come from black men. They would take care of their families, bring them to safety, and then help the rest of the community. Then local government would come in. No longer. When 75 percent of New Orleans residents had left the city, it was primarily immoral, welfare-pampered blacks that stayed behind and waited for the government to bail them out. This, as we know, did not turn out good results. ! Enter Jesse Jackson and Louis Farrakhan. Jackson and Farrakhan laid blame on "racist" President Bush. Farrakhan actually proposed the idea that the government blew up a levee so as to kill blacks and save whites. The two demanded massive governmental spending to rebuild New Orleans, above and beyond the federal government's proposed $60 billion. Not only that, these two were positioning themselves as the gatekeepers to supervise the dispersion of funds. Perfect: Two of the most dishonest elite blacks in America, "overseeing" b! illions of dollars. I wonder where that money will end up. Of course, if these two were really serious about laying blame on government, they should blame the local one. Responsibility to perform legally and practically fell first on the mayor of New Orleans. We are now all familiar with Mayor Ray Nagin the black Democrat who likes to yell at President Bush for failing to do Nagin's job. The facts, unfortunately, do not support Nagin's wailing. As the Washington Times puts it, "recent reports show [Nagin] failed to follow through on his own city's emergency-response plan, which acknowledged that thousan! ds of the city's poorest residents would have no way to evacuate the city." One wonders how there was "no way" for these people to evacuate the city. We have photographic evidence telling us otherwise. You've probably seen it by now the photo showing 2,000 parked school buses, unused and underwater. How much planning does it require to put people on a bus and leave town, Mayor Nagin? Instead of doing the obvious, Mayor Nagin (with no positive contribution from Democratic Gov. Kathleen Blanco, the other major leader vested with responsibility to address the hurricane disaster) loaded remaining New Orleans residents into the Superdome and the city's convention center. We know how that plan turned out. About five years ago, in a debate before the National Association of Black Journalists, I stated that if whites were to just leave the United States and let blacks run the country, they would turn America into a ghetto within 10 years. The audience, shall we say, disagreed with me strongly. Now I have to disagree with me. I gave blacks too much credit. It took a mere three days for blacks to turn the Superdome and the convention center into ghettos, rampant with theft, rape and murder. President Bush is not to blame for the rampant immorality of blacks. Had New Orleans' black community taken action, most would have been out of harm's way. But most were too lazy, immoral and trifling to do anything productive for themselves. All Americans must tell blacks this truth. It was blacks' moral poverty not their material poverty that cost them dearly in New Orleans. Farrakhan, Jackson, and other race hustlers are to be repudiated for they will only perpetuate this problem by stirring up hatred and applauding moral corruption. New Orleans, to the extent it is to be rebuilt, should be remade into a dependency-free, morally strong city where corruption is opposed and success is applauded. Blacks are obligated to help themselves and not depend on the government to care for them. We are all obligated to tell them so. The Rev. Jesse Lee Peterson is founder and president of BOND, the Brotherhood Organization of A New Destiny, and author of "Scam: How the Black Leadership Exploits Black America more

Resolved Question: What do you think? Written by a black rev-About New Orleans & Katrina- his pic did not copy out of my e-mail?

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