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Obama transparently to governors: Let's 'kick the press out...and we ... - Los Angeles Times

Most of the nation's governors are in Washington these days for their semi-annual get-together of best-practice seminars, fiscal groaning, federal begging, self-pitying and lucrative chances to be on something other than local news back home. (See ...

He fears cohabitation - Boston Globe

So I have what seems like a "He's just not that into me" problem on my hands. The complicating factor? I know he loves me, and we've been dating for FOUR years... but he won't move in with me. I met Jack in our freshman year of college, and we became ...

dear prudence - Slate

Emily Yoffe: If I had the opportunity to go to dinner at the nice restaurant, the last thing I'd want to do is to have to attend to ... I am quite happy being a helicopter mechanic. Prudie, would you please get the word out that asking a service ...

Pic of Boozin', Smokin' Jesus Stirs India - CBS News

Learn about the people, economy and history. (AP) Authorities in a Christian-majority state in India's remote northeast have confiscated all copies of a school textbook that carried a picture of Jesus Christ holding a can of beer and a cigarette, an ...

Richard Soo talks about Sacred Falls tragedy - Honolulu Advertiser

The trail is narrow. Yesterday's rain turned the reddish brown earth into mud. Wooden frames show the hiker which path to follow. The lush thick green of the rainforest surrounds us. Its leaves and mangroves cover us like a blanket. Rays of sun are ...

U.S. software engineer piloted plane in domestic terrorist attack on ... - Network World Fusion

Digg Well, because during the Vietnam War I was fortunate to serve 2 years in the U.S. Army at The Pentagon and upon graduating college, I was fortunate to work in both World Trade Center Towers . These great buildings were my personal domain and I ...

How To Make Your Own Horror Board Game (Part 1) - Wired News

An idea for a GeekDad project came to me recently: how about I make my own board game to play with my daughter. My daughter is 13 and, like her Dad, loves horror movies. In particular she is really into stories about vampires and werewolves (Team ...

The Chosen One - CNN Sports Illustrated

IT WAS ordinary. It was oh so ordinary. It was a salad, a dinner roll, a steak, a half potato, a slice of cake, a clinking fork, a podium joke, a ballroom full of white-linen-tablecloth conversation. Then a thick man with tufts of white hair rose ...

Roethlisberger Rape Case, Cover up, He's White? - CBS Sports

Thank you very much. It’s a privilege and an honor to be in the white intellectual ghetto of the West. We wanted to do a couple of things before we started. The first is that, based on the fact that SNCC , through the articulation of its program by ...

Alexander M. Haig Jr., Commanding White House Aide, Dies at 85 - New York Times

Alexander M. Haig Jr., the four-star general who served as a confrontational secretary of state under President Ronald Reagan and a commanding White House chief of staff as the Nixon administration crumbled, died Saturday at Johns Hopkins Hospital in ...

Open Question: How do i get my fiance to listen to me wanting my first child thru his planning?...?

We've been together 7 years. I have 2 degrees and right now i'm not working but i want to try for my first child (he has 2 from previous but they are grown) I am 27 and ready. He cannot see my desires and always brings money into the picture. This to me sounds like someone who doesn't want kids...because my mother said fianances cannot play a part and you cannot plan children it never works that way. She doesn't agree with him. So i want to know how i get him to understand my point. Thanks. more

Open Question: How do you tell your parents your thinking about having children?

I am 24 years old, about to be married and have been with my current partner for 8 years. I have always talked to my dad about most things and I don't see why this should be any different but I don't know how to approach the subject with out my dad going mad. He has always wanted me to do well for myself in the sense of my career etc and he didn't have any children until he was in his thirties. I myself on the other hand if I am honest don't want all those things I have a decent job in accounts but although I would like to move forward to a point I don't ever want to go as far as being FD. I am happy with the life that I have got and family means the world to me. Both me and my partner would like to start trying in the next year but I am scared of telling my dad as I don't want him to think my partner is pushing me into it (he isn't by the way he has always wanted kids from day one but has never pushed it and whenever we have talked about it he has always said he would wait until I was ready.) I know the ultimate decision is mine and my Dad would have to accept it but I don't want him to be disappointed in me when as far as I see it it should be my choices and if I am happy then that should be all that matters?! more

Open Question: Why is my sister so jealous?

Well, my boyfriend is a high earner and I am opening my own fashion boutique. We are planning on moving out together and we saw a nice apartment in london. Everyone said it has a nice feel to it, cosy and a good place for children when we're ready. My sister says it looks wierd, all she just said was it's OK, it's OK, like as if she wasn't interested. she asked me whether or not I was ready to move out with him. I've been with him for quite some time now and when my business kicks in I will be able to pay rent, at the mo, it's my boyfriend that's chipping in. my mum even told her that she's being rude that she's not taking any interest in my moving out. her friend asked her where we're moving to and my sis said Islington with a disgusted look. Even when she sees someone on TV that has a nice apartment, she says it's not fair, when her best friend went around the world, she says she's sooo jealous, another friend of hers landed a good job, she told her that she was jealous. How can I get her to be happy and interested for me, she hasnt said that once to me. Ok, I don't mind if she doesn't like the feel of the apartment, that's her opinion, but she hasn't said anything good about me moving out into this apartment. She's a Scorpio and I heard that Scorpios get envious easily. When she got a new car for her birthday I was happy for her, I didn't get jealous. I said congratulations, you deserve it. I even said to her rationally that my boyfriend worked hard to get this apartment and worked hard for our relationship, as I'm older I told her wisely that when she gets a partner she'll be happy and I would be supportive of her with her decisions. She then hugged me and said sorry but she still keeps being moody about me and my decisionsI care because sometimes she brings me down and it hurts my feelings. OK, if she is jealous I don't care about it, just don't bring me down and make me unhappyI've tnold her that too more

Open Question: Faith schools in UK to be allowed to judge on what they teach regarding Sex Education?

THis really only applies to UK parents...though other opinions are welcome. In the UK is is compulsory for state schools to teach sex education....issues such as abortion and homosexuality are taught by law..today it haas been announced that religious schools such as Church of England, Catholic or Muslim schools...will be able to only teach what they deem appropriate for their religion. Do you think this right? Personally I think that these issues need to be taught by the parent...nobody else is telling my child about such sensitive issues...only I know when my child is ready to understandd them. I am very open minded and have gay friends, straight friends and am not at all old fashioned...but I dont want my 6 year old to be told stuff like this yet...she goes to a private school though and private schools dont have to teach sex education....but if we went o a non-faith school then I would have to put up and shut up whilst the government decided what she should and should not know...this makes me SO angry....I dont think thgovernmentet has ANY place teaching this stuff....what do you think? If religion based state schools dont have to teach it then why should non religious based state schools teach it?SILVER MIST>...yes...what about the kids who'se parents dont tell them anything...that is not my fault....why should we cater to the ignorant alone? more

Open Question: Was late a month on child support am now current but have court for contemp. have no job the whole time.?

I am just worried and woundered. What happened was i missed a payment of my child support and ended up with a court date for contempt of a court order.. I have not had a job for the past year that i have been under the order to pay but i have still be paying i owe $0.00 but i have court this morning and am worried about going to jail because i was in contempt for not paying before even though im all caught up now. Like i said i have no money to my name i have to do odd jobs to get the money just to pay the child support. It is a longggg story why i do not have a job strangly enough it is the babys mom's fault who i am going to court for this monring. Basicly i was joining the army, then wanted to see my son on christmas last year got pissed cuz she said cussed her out. her dad is a cop so i ended up with a phone harassment charge. went to court got found guilty appealed it and then spend 8 1/2 months on bail then was geatting ready to leave for the army again and here comes this court case. Your inlistment stops when u have a court case. i know it doesn' tmatter just know someones going to wounder why im not working. Any ways will i get sent to jail today for being in contempt a month ago even though i do not owe 1 cent now? more

Open Question: how do i make my hunter horse a better eq horse?

i am currently training my 5 y/o quarter horse for big eq all on my own. I've been working with him for 2 months and when we started he was trained for quarter horse u/s stuff. So he had his head down veryyyyy long and low, moved very slowly, and hadn't learned to accept the bit yet. Now he is a very nive hunter horse. and this weekend i will be showing him in 'hunter prospect' at a local show... but id like to get him ready for the chsa children eq medals. My friend who has lots of experience doing the big eq shows, told me to work him at home in a happy mouth elevator to make his neck more arched, and since he has a soft mouth she said this would be a good bit. Then she said to use a baby jointed happy mouth pelham for showing. Any ideas if i should do this? Here is a video of him recently... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xf03j97VOx4 If the video doesnt work please let me know.Equitation is actually judged on both... Its mostly on your eq. but its also on your horses frame. If it was judged only on your eq. then you would be able to go into the maclay championships with a western horse in a english saddle, ride your butt off, and win. But you cannot... you've got to have a nice horse, with the right equitation frame... which is not as long and low as a traditional hunter frame. more

Open Question: I have 2 men that are the father of my children, I spend time with both. What's right or worng?

I have 2 children with my X-boyfriend that i was with for 13 yrs, I left him 6 yrs ago and moved on with someone else that i got engaged to and had a child with. For the past 3 yrs we have had our share of problems and are now no longer together becase he says he needs "TIME". My x-fiance says he wants to spend his life with me but just needs a little time to get things out his system, meanwhile i told him i will not put my life on hold!! We still see each other because of our child but also spend quality time together and are still intimate. My X-boyfriend that i have my first 2 children from is still in the picture becasue of our kids, we are not together or intimate BUT we do hang out occasionally with & with out our kids. PROBLEM is...... My x-fiance get's mad, upset and bent out of shape when i hang out with my other kid's father and the kids together (even with the child i have with him). He thinks I am trying to get back with my X, and really get's more pissed off when i bring his son around him. Well, I am not committed to anyone and am just living my life, everybody is happy...myself and kids....what am i doing so wrong?? So what me and all my kids & my X-boyfriend go out to dinner, or i will go to his house and hang out for a couple of hrs while the kids play. It is my X-fiance who tells me i am wrong to bring his son around my other kids father and that i have no business being with his son at his house. Of course i get accused of doing something and i'm not!! I am not interested nor do i have feelings to be with my X, we have a good friendship and that is good for our kids. I am interested and have the desire to hopefully spend my life with my now X-Fiance but god only knows when he is going to be ready to be with me. I am not gonna put my life on hold, sit around twiddle my thumbs while my X-fiance is hanging out with other women. Now i do not EVER bring my children around just someone i met. The only way my kids will meet another guy is if i ever got into a committed realtionship. I dont just bring my kids around Random people. So i dont see no wrong in bringing my other son around my X...but my X-fiance has a problem with it and tells me i am wrong. Am i wrong??? more

Open Question: what do you do when you want to marry your girlfriend but know everyone will not approve?

Me and my girlfriend of now 7 months i have proposed to and we want to have the wedding in 2011, and however move in together this year. what do you do when you know that everyone, your parents, friends, family, spiritual advisers (pastor and ministers), just everyone will not approve of it. most will say that neither of us is ready for marriage, or to live together and that we are moving too fast. We were good friends well before we began dating for 2 years, in the time i got with her she was 6 months pregnant, with the child of a father that isn't there. all of these things would factor into them not approving what do you think should be my response and how do you reccommend we proceed. we know what we want, we love each other very much and are very happy together much happier than we have been with anyone else. we just want to be together. also for consideration i am 21 she is 18. more

Open Question: Could I be pregnant? When should I look for my period?

Alright, I feel a little stupid asking this. I am knowledgable of the ways to get pregnant in most manners of speaking...but I'm so darn paranoid right now I can't think straight. I'm still a virgin, but after dating for about 3.5 years, it's really hard to keep the boyfriend happy about that. So I've been trying to compromise, to keep him content for the time being. So things heat up, we're naked. I've been working on trusting him with my body, so really I'm just interested in kissing. Though he claims I was squashing him so he moved 'it' and it ended up bumping me about twice in the spot...before I finally moved away. He claims he wiped himself off, and I'm on the pill due to complications I've had with cysts and what not. We only touched for the matter of about a second or so when he bumped me. I immeadiately ran downstairs and went to the bathroom and then wiped myself out, trying to make sure. What are the chances that I could get pregnant? I know there's ALWAYS a chance, but I sorta need a bit of reassurance that it's not the end of the world. I'm sure it's at least a lot less likely than the normal manner...right? Also! Since my period SHOULD be next week, would it show up that soon, or would I need to watch for the next one? It happened just tonight...which is probably why I'm freaking out so bad. Yes, we've both agreed we'd stick together and take care of any child that comes our way,seeing as we plan on having one in a few years. But at this stage in our lives, we're just not ready for it. And...seeing as how paranoid I am now..I'm probably going to listen to the 'just don't do it' advice until I'm ready. xD Please, any help would be appreciated. more

Open Question: Class Election Help please?

We are holding a fake election in our class, can you tell me if this is enough: I assure a cheery “Good afternoon!” to our dearest Mr. Fagert, along with the rest of the class. Because nobody in my group wanted to be in the election for governor, I am standing in front of you today, ready to tackle whatever comes my way. First of all, I would like to address my following concerns and issues before I continue: Illegal Immigration, State Spending and Taxes, Education, Texas Trans Highway, and last, but not least, my choice: Smoking. Illegal Immigration, a word that already has a negative side to it. Many people have invaded our country, leading into a vicious attack. One of the ways these horrible people sneak in is through the border. Yes, that line between Texas and Mexico. Illegal Immigration started about 30-40 years ago. To prevent our state, along with the rest of the country, from being in the hands of violent trespassers, I have a few suggestions. 1. I know you’ve probably heard it at least 300 times, but WE NEED MORE BORDER SECURITY! This helps ensure our state’s safety. 2. Instead of focusing more on closing/securing the border, we need to do one thing and make everyone present right now a legal citizen. Now I’m not saying, just go to each house and make everyone legal. We need to start scanning fingerprints, passports, and history backgrounds of each person, then decide whether to make a legal citizen or not. This will make the process faster. Today, we all know we are falling into a recession. We’ve fell into the hole, and we haven’t climbed out yet. Well, Texas has a part in that too, hence the name the United States. Currently, signing a bill on June 19th 2009, our governor passed a 2 year budget of 182.3 billion dollars. Now, think about it. If we cut taxes on many businesses, won’t we have more money to spread among all you and to provide more for more important issues? IF I become governor, I hope to do just that. Education: Though the kids right there (point) may groan at this. We have to face the truth- We need it! Without education, no one would invent I-Pods, cell phones, CHOCOLATE, or even, those new Apple Tablet I-Pads. We need to enforce kids with more fun stuff to do. The kids of today, I have to admit, get soooo bored with the curriculum sometimes! I suggest the following: 1. laptops for those who can’t afford one, this is for studying uses, and for entertainment at times 2. We need teachers who can understand children’s stress nowadays! And Mr. Fagert, you’re a perfect example of what a teacher should be: Semi-Sweet, a little strict, but overpowering kindness. We all have heard of or have known a person in a tragic car accident. Well, maybe there’s some way we can prevent most accidents from occurring? 1. I suggest encountering a group of people called “Traffic Patrol”. Many accidents happen because of street light failures. To put it in simple words, you know, when you’re stopped at an intersection, and there’s a green light at both places? Yikes. Instances like these are the cost of valuable lives. Traffic Patrol can be stationed at different areas of Texas. Basically, they get paid (not from your taxes) to see if traffic lights and stop signs are accurate. If something isn’t working, or is misplaced, they immediately are to enlighten a company, who will fix it later. 2. We need to be stricter about using cell phones while driving. You know how many people die of using cell phones when driving? Enough to make companies like Geico and Allstate a killing! With me as governor, I promise to enhance a better driving environment. Smoking is the number one cause for Cancer. We all know cancer is a serious thing, yet we know that smoking is bad… How come people can’t connect these two facts together and try their hardest to quit? Well, maybe because most people who still smoke don’t know this. How much did our government spend on smoking education last year? None. If you elect me as governor, I promise to ensure that smoking is bad, and provide a tragic-free state. Well, you’re all probably sleeping in your chairs, so I’ll finish my speech here. And remember: Vote for *****! more

Open Question: Adoption has crossed my mind, Is it only for the rich or for couples?

I am a poor but a loving woman. I have a job that keeps us.I'm in my mid 40's and I have an adult son( student). Is it crazy of me to have adoption cross my mind? Is it only for rich people? I take care of children. How rich do you have to be...I don't mind if the kid is even 5-6 years old and has some problems..It's not that I couldn't have another kid of my own. It just never seemed to matter much to me . I always was struggling as is to get my education to take care of my little family. Was busy with finding a perfect significant other...do you think that I should try get pregnant? I don't care about getting pregnant...there are plenty of ready made children waiting to be adopted. I always struggled to have my quiet corner, peace of mind, college degree, nice living conditions, two cats...I have it now, even a steady boyfriend. But, there is something else, now...should I just spend some money on a gym membership and forget the whole crazy thought?I have a degree in Child Development, and had worked at a day care for over 14 years, then I went and got a degree in Education and I've been working as a teacher for some time nowIf I chose adoption I would never change my mind no matter how hard it would get..I'm simply not that type.When I read all the beautiful caring answers of every one here, it leaves me wondering if what is right for people in one country is also suitable for another country...Is it the same degree of difficulty to adopt a child in any given country or say, is it easier to adopt an Asian kid or a child from Africa? or its all the same? more

Open Question: What vehicles are available with 3 rows of seats?

I have 3 children who are under the age of 6 and in our state they must be in child-seats until they are 8, we may be moving soon to a state where that age is 13. So I need a vehicle that has enough room to hold all 3 child seats. I currently have Radians so I've managed to get 2 forward facing and 1 rear facing in the back of my Altima but my older boys argue across the lap of their sister and someone always ends up crying. I'd rather they not be able to reach each other. I am not really all that keen on Vans. I'm the Martha Stuart type behind closed doors but not ready to announce I've been "broken" (lol) to the world just yet so I'm not really sure I want to buy a van. Although if I do have to buy a van I do like the features of the Dodge Caravans. I like to floor storage a great deal as we travel a ton. If I were to buy a Van it would have to be a Dodge Caravan or nicer. I don't mind SUV's infact I really like SUV's but I don't want to have to flip down a seat in order to get into the back of one so it would need to have captains chairs like a Caravan. I also would want one that got decent gas millage. I have nothing against crossovers except I need a pretty good bit of storage room behind the 3rd row as I'll need somewhere for my Labrador and English Bulldog to ride when we go on trips. The Lab sheds so she can't ride on the floor in the front. I've yet to see a crossover with very much room behind the 3rd seat. I find the H2's very attractive but that 8.6 -12 mpg for gas isn't nearly as attractive as the vehicle. - Any ideas are appreciated! Thanks!Don r: I am sorry but this isn't the age of the caveman anymore. Just as beating your slave or even owning a slave went out of style, and beating your wife went out of style, beating your child is quickly going out of style as well. I'd bet in 50 years it will be hard for the newest generation of parents to believe, even shocking, that anyone ever spanked their children at all. - I'm pretty sure even nowadays hitting your child in the face is considered abuse. My children are well disciplined but all children will argue in close quarters. You can't expect children to be on their best behavior for hours at a time in the cramped back seat of a car where if they even move their arms an inch they are bumping into each other. - As for the dogs.. that's awful that you'd expect me to board my dogs for 4 or 5 days out of every month and during three 2 week vacations a year just because it might cost a bit to buy a larger vehicle.My dogs go everywhere with me. They aren't optional, their part of the family and where we go overnight they go too! I have a hard time believing you got to "top-contributor" by being so harsh. Unless you've got tons of friends or tons of accounts that voted you into that place. Or you spend all of your free time online answering questions that you apparently know nothing about. I hope you are just having a bad day. If not and you are truly the pessimist you portray yourself to be, then I feel very sorry for you. more

Open Question: Can someone help review my college essay?

so im applying to Temple University. I really wanna get in here! my grades are ok and my sat and act scores werent so good. So i was hoping my essay would b the reason id get in. can someone review it please? Tell me any questions,comments, mistakes whatever that i made. Please type an essay of 2000 characters (approximately 300 words) that tells us more about you. Imagine you have graduated from Temple University. You are preparing to attend your 10-year reunion, and the alumni office has asked you to write a one-page essay about your personal and professional accomplishments since graduation. What would yours say? My life could not get any better. I've become the man that I have always wanted to be. I have an elegant wife and three beautiful children. Being part of the Class of 2014 has been a handful of experiences. It has been one of my greatest accomplishments. I have majored in civil engineering with a masters degree. My partners, who are long time high school friends, were there with me from day one. Even though we have went our own ways, we always kept in touch. Finally we came together and decided to start our own company. They would become the pillars to my company's great success. My work is famous all around the world. I have created numerous structures that will be known for many years to come. Bridges were my specialty. My designs are a one of a kind art. It's structure is jaw dropping and it amazes the eyes of the viewers. I have designed more than 100 buildings in twelve different cities, most of which are breath taking because it has never been seen before. My work has even gone international. These places would include Argentina, Greenland, Norway, Ethiopia, New Zealand, and many more. The years I have spent here were hard, but very educational. I have become the man I am today, well prepared and always ready to face the world. The challenges I encountered here has made me a stronger and better engineer. Temple University prepared me to face the life ahead of me with my head held up high and ready for any obstacle. Temple, having a great reputation, has placed me on top of any firm or company I applied for. Learning here has been more than a privilege. I have applied everything that was taught to me by the best educators I have known. more

Open Question: Saddest Story a guy has to share.. TRUST ME I need advice?

I have been hanging out with this girl for about a month now and we hit it off pretty well. We said that we were going to take things slow because we were both being cautious with each other. She was in a bad relationship in her past that made her hate commitment. HEr boyfriend cheated on her and lied to her and she felt terrible and she vowed to never e hurt again so she doesn't want to be in a relationship and even says things like im not getting married. Than comes me along a calm dude who thinks life should not be gone through alone and I try to connect with the emotions of a girl who i personally think wants to have somebody to call her own but honestly has trained herself to not be with anybody already preparing herself for failure. We have our differences but it seems like she wants more. The other day she told me she had a dream about me and that she had my child. I am way to young to be thinking about marriage. A stable relationship all i need to keep me grounded something fun, she said she wants us to be fun and easy but i feel like she wants me to use her. That i cant do, She believes that her freedom and independence is important that she wont let anyone in until shes ready. I have done everything i could, read the signs if their have been but i really dont know what to do. I am not going to use her like she thinks i am. I dont want her to look back and finally let somebody in and i am on that list of guys that lead her to her ultimate love. I wont do it. I want her to remember that i was the oen guy through it all liked you for who you were and was ready to give you my love but u didnt want it and i refused to use you. I like her and i can see a relationship but i need advice, I think she really does like me and i think it could work but i need advice how do i handle a situation like this,she is older than me but i don't care, age is nothing but a number im a junior and she is a senior were both in college more

Open Question: My kids have been receiving medicaid benefits in Texas will my ex have to pay it back?

My kids have been on medicaid for about a year now. My ex is required to provide insurance for our three children. He changed jobs last year and during his initial probation with the company his employer did not offer insurance for a three month period. So that's when I decided to apply for medicaid. Once insurance became available I told him not to worry about it since they had medicaid. Their medicaid has expired and i'm not planning to re-enroll them. I am ready to modify his child support since it hasn't been since 2004. Will the Office of the Texas Attorney General require him to pay back all the dr visits etc from when the kids were on medicaid? more

Open Question: Help! My 7 year old son is driving me crazy?

I love my son with all my heart but he is a very difficult child and I don't know what to do anymore. My son was diagnosed with severe adhd last year since then he has been put on medication and I have changed his diet as well. Things were going pretty good for the most part other than typical child stuff until a couple of weeks ago. His Dad and I have never been together since he was born he lives will me full time and goes to his Dad's every other weekend. His father and I have an excellent relationship all the way to extended family even which I think does help. However about 2 weeks ago my son started arguing with me about EVERY little thing there is. Examples: I will tell him we only have 10 minutes left before we got to leave for school you need to hurry up and finish getting ready. His response is something like fine I just wont eat then and gives me attitude and storms off even though he has been up for 30 minutes and eating for 20 of those minutes so it is not like he is really not getting to eat. That is just one example but seriously he has been arguing about just about everything lately. He tries to tell me what to do even though I have told him that I am the parent not him and that is not going to work. He has yelled at me and tried guilting me to get his way by saying I don't do anything for him or care about him and when I tell him he is wrong and give him examples of all the things I do do for him he continues to argue with that. I feel like I have tried everything and I really don't know what to do anymore. His Dad and I talk and come up with punishments together that stick at both houses but it doesn't seem to matter. His Dad says if behavior continues maybe he needs to go stay with him for a while since he threatens me to leave whenever he is mad even though when I say fine if you want to go I'll take you he starts crying cuz it's not what he wants he just says it to hurt me. I have taken away privileges like video games, t.v., being on his sports team right now cuz I am not going to reward behavior. I have tried time outs, reward charts I don't know what else to do. I really don't wanna give up and send him off to live with his Dad. That is the LAST thing I want to do but I need some advice I feel like he is a teenager already and he is only 7. I have tried talking to him and asking him if there is something bugging him or if he is mad at me for something and he says no. I ask him why he thinks he can treat me this way and he says I don't know. We have tried counseling with him when he was first diagnosed adhd and after 5 or 6 sessions the counselor told us that he still wasn't not talking so at this point there really wasn't anything he can do. Thanks, any advice would be appreciated. more

Open Question: how to start a video game developing career in toronto,Canada? currently gr 11 willing to move once i graduate?

i have had agreat passion for video game developing ever since i was 6 playing fifa 1995 I still remember saying "i wanna make video games" even thought i had no idea how then, not just playng video games but the whole concept of c++ programming, at the moment i am trying to teach myself c++ with free internet material. I am taking a programming course but we are learning alice which in my opinion is simply something that we musnt learn, because it seems that all were doing is making animations for children, which lowers the morals of students like me who have no interest in other careers, and want to learn the basics of the more developed languages to be ready for college/university, Any tips would help me greatly thank you in advance more

Open Question: What kind of pacifiers and bottles to your children prefer?

I'm 32 weeks pregnant and starting to get everything ready for our first little one. The only thing we didn't get from the baby showers were pacifiers and bottles. There are so many different brands! Before buying one of each to see what she'll take, I'd like to get other parents opinions and see what works for them. I am planning on breastfeeding, but will need bottles for when I pump. Thanks!!! more

Open Question: Ovarian Drilling to aid weight loss?

Hello I am due to have an Ovarian drilling procedure next week to reduce the size of my ovaries. My initial concern was my lack of weight loss after a nutritionist told me I was following a correct diet and was exercising a lot my doctor ran some routine tests to see if I had a thyroid problem. It showed on my hormone levels that I had Polycystic Ovary syndrome which wasn't much of a concern to me as I already have two beautiful children and feel blessed enough with them however due to other medical problems in my family I was concerned about my weight gain and really need to lose some weight. After an ultrasound showed my ovaries were rather large I was referred to a consultant who told me they were ready to burst and needed immediate ovarian drilling to release the cysts. So far the only research I can find refers mainly to Ovarian Drilling and the effects it has for fertility, has anyone else had this procedure only to aid weight loss please? If so how long was it before it made a difference? I am not being conceited here I need to lose weight for medical reasons. Any advice would be appreciated thanks.Sorry I think people are misreading my question, I am not asking for diet advice, a nutritionist has already told me I am eating healthily enough, a doctor has found the reason I am not losing weight and I am having an ovarian drilling next week, I was just asking if anyone else has had this procedure for the same reasons rather than for fertility treatment? Many thanks. more

Open Question: i cant lose him.....what should i do?

He is my only best friend…..he is a nice guy……we are been friends since the last 2 years….. he is everything for me…...i give him the same preference I give it to my family members…..i care for him a lot… when he has any problem I be always with him giving him support……i am ready to give him my lyf if he asks me…(it sounds silly and stupid but i have that sort of nurturing feeling towards him)….i love him a lot……I never knew before that I am this sensitive….. Recently there arose a situation where I had to confess in front of him that I love him..…… he told me that he is not at all interested in having a commitment….he told me that he wants only friendship from me….he told me not to think much about this…n also said that this really doesn’t matter and it’s not a big deal to carry…….. when my friends took my side and spoke 2 him he told them that he is already committed to a girl who is his child-hood friend.. ( but he told me many days ago that he stopped liking her.....n is not at all interested in her....and after conforming about that I told him my love towards him......) and again blamed me for planning his future with me....n said that i have no right to plan his future with me and said it very rudely that he is able to plan and asked me not to interfere.....then I don’t understand the thing why didn’t he tell all that when i was showing all the care and love…….he just took it previously and why he hasn’t accepting that now? How should I take this guy???? Did I do anything wrong in showing all the care I have??? Will he ever come back?? more

Resolved Question: How can I convince my mom that we'll be ready for a baby?

This is going to be long, so bear with me :) My boyfriend and I have a 3 year old son. Money is not great right now, but we're getting along. I would like to start trying to conceive around the beginning of next year. First I want to quit smoking, lose a little weight, finish college, etc. My boyfriend and I are getting married in July and he has been trying to find better paying jobs. I am an only child, and my mom has a really strong opinion about only having one child. If I even talk about having another baby in the future, she basically ignores me or shakes her head. I have explained to her that there are several things I would like to do before we even try, but she doesn't listen. What is your opinion? How can I make her understand that this is MY life? more

Open Question: Does anyone have suggestions on how to conceive?

My fiancee and I are ready to settle down and start our family off, but the problem is, I can't get pregnant and I don't know why. I have gone to a doctor and asked to find out whether I am fertile or not, but the doctor thought I had appendicitis. So I never found out if I was fertile or not. This is worrying me so much as I really want to have kids in my lifetime. I know I need to change my diet and start to exercise more, but i am living with a friend who doesn't eat and therefore I have to go to my soon-to-be in-law's house to eat and it's stressing them as much as me. I am only 18, but I feel as if I am completely 150% ready for a child. So, please, can anyone help me? more

Resolved Question: Would you persue an increase in Child Support for a Dad who is usually there for child?

I have had child support set for four years now. A couple of years ago I let my daughter father stay on my couch until his apartment was ready. I found out that he was making 4.50 more an hour than when child support was set. I never persued an increase because he was there for his daughter. Now, I am back at work and my daycare expenses take more than half the childsupport every month. I have to report any changes in income which will start a review whether I want to or not. I also have to say....for the past 8 months he went from keeping her twice a month to once every two months but when he gets her he also sometimes takes her sister (who is not his child). This is a hard decision...I want to be able to raise my child without being in a battle over money. Thats never been my style. more

Open Question: Is this speech enough for a "Government Class Election Speech"?

Open Question: Characterization of the literature: "As I Lay Dying by William Faulkner"?

Who is the most heroic character in this book? According to these character descriptions? I am not quite sure because the book is hard for me. Can anyone clear the characters up for me? ********following from Sparknotes Addie Bundren Though she is dead for most of the novel, Addie is one of its most important characters, as her unorthodox wish to be buried near her blood relatives rather than with her own family is at the core of the story. Addie, whose voice is expressed through Cora Tull’s memories and through her own brief section in the narrative, appears to be a strong-willed and intelligent woman haunted by a sense of disillusionment. Unable to bring herself to love the coarse, helpless Anse or the children she bears him, Addie sees marital love and motherhood as empty concepts, words that exist solely to fill voids in people’s lives. After she bears a second child to Anse, Addie first expresses her wish to be buried far away, stating her belief that “the reason for living [is] to get ready to stay dead a long time.” The little value she does find in life, from her brief affair with Whitfield and her love for her son Jewel, ends on a morbid note. Jewel treats Addie harshly while she is alive, and only once she is dead does he “save [her] from the water and from the fire,” as she always believed he would. Addie invests her life and energy in a love that finds repayment and comes to fruition only after she is dead. As a corpse, Addie is equally important to the novel, hindering and dividing her family as much as when she is alive. Many of the incidents after Addie’s death reflect this feeling that some part of Addie is still living. Vardaman drills holes in the coffin so that the dead Addie might have air to breathe, and when Darl and Vardaman listen to the noises of the decomposing body, Darl claims that these sounds are Addie speaking. Even the stench of Addie’s corpse captivates a large audience of strangers. The notion that there is continuity between the articulate human voice of the living Addie and the putrid biological mass that is the dead Addie is among the most emotionally powerful ideas presented in the novel. Darl Bundren Darl, who speaks in nineteen of the novel’s fifty-nine sections, is in many ways its most cerebral character. Darl’s knack for probing analysis and poetic descriptions mean that his voice becomes the closest thing the story offers to a guiding, subjective narrator. Yet it is this same intellectual nature that prevents him from achieving either the flashy heroism of his brother Jewel or the self-sacrificing loyalty of his brother Cash. In fact, it prevents Darl from believing wholeheartedly in the family’s mission. Darl registers his objection to the entire burial outing by apparently abandoning his mother’s coffin during the botched river-crossing, and by setting fire to Gillespie’s barn with the eight-day-old corpse inside. Another consequence of Darl’s philosophical nature is his alienation from the community around him. According to Cora Tull, people find Darl strange and unsettling. He is also able to understand private things about the lives of the people around him, as he does when he guesses at Dewey Dell’s fling with Lafe or perceives that Anse is not Jewel’s real father. At times, Darl is almost clairvoyant, as evidenced by the scene in which he is able to describe vividly the scene at his mother’s death, even though he and Jewel are far away from the scene when she dies. Other characters alienate Darl for fear that he will get too close to them and their secrets. It is perhaps this fear, more than Darl’s act of arson, that leads his family to have him committed to an insane asylum at the end of the novel—after all, Dewey Dell, who realizes that Darl knows her sordid secret, is the first to restrain him when the officers from the asylum arrive. Jewel Bundren Because Jewel speaks very few words of his own throughout the novel, he is defined by his actions, as filtered through the eyes of other characters. Jewel’s uncommunicative nature creates a great distance between him and us, and a great deal of room exists for debating the meaning of Jewel’s actions. Darl’s frequent descriptions of Jewel as “wooden” reinforce the image of Jewel as impenetrable to others, and also establish a relationship between Jewel and the wooden coffin that comes to symbolize his mother. Whether or not Jewel returns his mother’s devotion is also debatable—his behavior toward her while she is alive seems callous. Even as Addie lies on her deathbed, Jewel refuses to say good-bye to her, and harshly asserts his independence from her earlier on with his purchase of a horse. Jewel’s actions after Addie’s death show, however, that Jewel does care deeply about her, as he makes great sacrifices to assure the safe passage of her body to her chosen resting place, agreeing even to the sale of his beloved horse. Similarly, Jewel’s cold, rough-spoken beha more

Open Question: Am I wrong in asking that my Wife does more housework?

I know what most women say & THINK: A mans job is from dusk until dawn but a woman's job is never done! HAHAHA!!! It's true! She never finishes anything! Ok, she does sometimes. But LONG after starting... She starts a lot of projects. But FINISHING them... Ugh... Example: I've been asking her to sew a new zipper on one of my only pair of pants for about 4 months now. The same pair that took 3 months for a new button! Just an example. I AM capable of sewing a zipper or a button on, but I also don't spend as much time laying around watching TV and playing on the computer as she does. I'm constantly on my feet taking care of OUR stuff. But when it comes time to hang the Christmas lights, or anything SHE wants done… Do I procrastinate? Honestly, sometimes, yes… But that’s because I’m doing the brunt of everything else! And it still doesn’t take me HALF as long as it takes her to get motivated! She says I don't have to do the things I do and it's due to my OCD or my “sickness” or my “condition” that I HAVE to do them and that I get upset when they're not done. Well... It's either I do it, or it doesn't get done. It's due to my OCD that I don't wanna' live in a pigsty? She has a cop-out for everything! Oh yeah… and she’s constantly “not feeling well” for some reason or another. Maybe if she moved around a little more! Then she complains that I ask her to do something and complain before giving her a chance to do it! HA! I complain a WEEK LATER after I'VE taken it upon MYSELF to do it! I constantly wear wrinkled up laundry to work that's been sitting in the laundry basket for a week just so I could “GIVE HER ENOUGH TIME” before I do it myself! I’m tired of it! Is it OCD to want CLEAN laundry put away before 2 more full loads of laundry are ready to be washed again??? Honestly, our relationship would be SO much better if she did her fair share of the housework! HELL, OR MOST OR EVEN ALL OF IT! I DEFINITELY DO ENOUGH WITH OUT ALL THAT CRAP AS WELL! Staying home with baby (2 years old as of next week) IS a full-time job. I GET IT! I know because on the weekends I do that job too! Or the RARE day that she goes and does something by herself, I wake up with my son, change him, clean his bed if his diaper has leaked, make him breakfast, clean up the house, do the dishes, do the laundry, make him lunch, and by THIS time, the entire house is spotless! And I can keep on top of it ALL DAY EASILY WITH NO STRESS! TOTALLY RELAXED! SO I KNOW IT CAN BE DONE! And other women do it so don’t give me that excuse women! I’m tired of hearing that one! “You don’t know what she goes through.” “You try staying with the baby and getting everything else done!” IT’S EASY COMPARED TO ALL THE STUFF I TAKE CARE OF WITH NO HELP FROM HER OR ANYONE!!! Part of life is doing things you don't want to do. We have PLENTY of fun. But come on! Getting her to do something she doesn't want to do is next to impossible! Ok. Let me start by throwing out that I MUST have a mild case of OCD. It's not to the point where I'm scrubbing every spot I see or vacuuming constantly (far from it actually). But I DO like to have a clean house! Whoa! Now I know this is a LOT to ask for, but at one time as a child I thought I deserved what I wanted out of a relationship. Or at LEAST a fair compromise. A little more history there: I grew up in awfully poor conditions so a clean house means a lot to me when I go away to work all day! I just want to come home to a clean house! Dishes: DONE! Laundry: DONE! IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK?!? I've been at this breaking point SO MANY TIMES! Half of the time she cleans until the argument is over. The other half of the time it just gives her more of a reason NOT to and to yell at me for complaining. Here's the scoop... ME: work full time (40-60 hrs per week), keep the cars maintained (by myself, not at a shop), do all the yard work including picking up dog-poo, at this moment we have 8 puppies who's stinky nasty bed I clean out every other day, run all the errands including taking our son to and from the babysitter for the rare occasions that we go out, take care of all of the bills/rent/finances, keep the garbage/recycling taken out, AND do at LEAST half of all the other chores such as making meals, doing dishes, laundry, general pick-up, etc... If not more. She: Works AT HOME part-time (or as much as she wants to) selling vintage clothes online that she buys from thrift stores, takes care of our son during the day while I'm gone, watches t.v. and plays internet games such as UNO and alien shooters or is online NOT working for at LEAST 4 hours per day, and does about half of the other chores such as making meals, doing dishes, laundry, general pick-up, etc... Now, some weeks she does about half of the general upkeep & work. But the other weeks, I do the majority of it while still taking care of all my responsibilities. OVERALL, I DO MORE THAN HER IN ANY GIVEN DAY! And when she DOES clean, haAnd when she DOES clean, half of the time she doesn't finish or she goes back and forth between the computer and the t.v. and cleaning. And it takes her FOREVER! Why not just get it done and relax??? Am I just totally sick here or what? more

Open Question: Why am I still not pregnant?

My boyfriend and I have been trying for a year and a couple months now, but still nothing! My doctor has done all kinds of blood test to make sure I'm healthy and ready to carry a child, she said my health was almost perfect. But since my BMI is a little over I could lose about 10 pounds. I've been eating healthy, running/jogging a mile 4 times a week. I do not smoke or drink alcohol. I don't drink soda often, maybe twice a week tops. My period is very normal I have not missed one since I first got it when I was 12, the only thing is sometimes it comes up to 5 days late. I was on birth control for 3 months about 2 yrs ago but I stopped. I don't know what's going on!!! My boyfriend and I enjoy sex a lot, we have it very often but still nothing! What can help? Plz anything!I take biotin... could that be a problem? more

Open Question: I am 29 weeks pregnant My bf has been annoying me?

I love my bf but latley he just irritatese me idk what to do I try to be nice but i just get tired and my back aches and sometimes i just feel uncomfortable. I get stressed out easily and i know its not good. It seems ike im always complaining like i make sure he brushes his teeth it simlpe things i just ask and he gets mad like i keep asking him if he scheduled a drivers test but he hasnt. He could have taken his ged test but he didnt think he was ready. When he comes to my house he kinda just lays around he makes a big dea that he works and that hes tired he takes a nap when he gets home. he does alot for me like he buys me stuff but he also waste his money sometimes too. like i want him to step up and show me he is responsible. I worked before i got pregnant but had to take a leave I am planning on getting a new job when my baby is born a better one to support it. I have to take him for child support because I get food stamps and have a medical card wich wil also cover the baby i explained it to him and thought he was ok but now hes complaining he wont be able to pay his bills =. I realy want everything to be okay and work out If he cant step it up doesnt improve though idk what to do. Do you think he wil improve and mature and be more responsible after the babys born..He also does not know what i feel like i want him to be more supportive.I would like to live together as a famiily but right now neither of us can afford it. He is not realy willing to move closer to me wich if he did i woud live with him. we live in different countys he lives an hour from me. He realy never had anyone to push him to do things and that what i try to do but he gets ,mad i just want whats best for us and the baby more

Open Question: I am 19 years old, and just found out I'm pregnant. I don't know what to do. Help?

My boyfriend and i have been together for about 2 years. I've been on birth control for almost 5 years, and yesterday, i found out i am pregnant. He doesn't think we are ready to raise a child, and neither do i. I know this is our fault, but neither of us makes enough money to raise a baby. My mom just had a baby, and my family is completely supportive. But my boyfriend and i don't live together, and we don't have good stable jobs. I'm not even working, I'm getting ready to take another year at a tech school to be an ultrasound tech. I know i'm responsible, but he doesn't want me to keep it. And i can not decide. My mom got an abortion at 19, and she still has regrets about it. I am such a good hearted person, i don't think i have it in me to kill a baby. I just need some advice... more

Resolved Question: How do I get family to respect my wishes for the labor/delivery of my first child?

I'm due in 2 months with my first child. It is the first grandchild for both my parents and my husbands parents. I DO NOT want anyone buy my husband in the room with me during labor and delivery, and I DO NOT want anyone even waiting at the hospital. I want the time to myself. I don't want/need anyone barging in until I am ready. I want the time to bond, and to try to nurse my baby for the first time without my parents or in-laws being there. This is about me, and yes some might consider me selfish. But I really don't care. Thankfully, my parents completely understand and respect my wishes. My MIL, however, works at the hospital I will deliver and says she doesn't care, she's going to be there waiting. My husband keeps saying he's not sure things can or will work the way I want them to because his mom will see when I'm admitted. How do I get her to understand what I want and NEED? I'm feeling very disrespected by her and I'm starting to get angry about it. I honestly would even consider delivering at another hospital just because of this. (I don't want to, I like where I plan on going, but I would...just to maintain my privacy) more

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Resolved Question: What would be your priorty?? Opinions NEEDED, please!?

Because my husband is not an Australian Citizen etc (still living here under his visa) his priority is gaining residence here before our child comes into the world which will cost $2,500 (au) but i am due to have a baby in 3 months and my priority is getting baby things ready cos we haven't even bought a single thing expect for a box of nappies. He told me not to put anything on lay-by or buy anything cos I should help him with 'his priority' first but the thing is, i know that babies can come early too and i'm worried that this may happen and we won't have a single thing! We don't even have a house and getting baby things is stressing me, cos it's my 1st priority but i'm not allowed to buy anything cos of my husbands 1st priority.. What should I do? We're both on really low incomes? Stressing here. I've already started putting baby clothes on lay by but i just feel alone that he won't help me because he doesn't see it as a priority too right now.. more

Resolved Question: Which name should I go with, and BQ?

As you can see from my username, I am almost ready to welcome our first child into this lovely world, and there are several names I like. Problem is narrowing them down. We didn't find out the child's sex, so we came up with both boy and girl names. Please tell me what your favourite/two favourites for each gender. Please be polite, and even if you hate them all, just choose the "most tolerable." Thank you. Girls: Willow Astoria Tertia Sailor Nora Sage Poppy Matilda Boys: August Terrance (Terry) Theodore (Theo) Geoffrey Edmund Sawyer Jasper BQ: Suggest middle names for the girl names Sienna and Winter. more

Open Question: How do i tell my boyfriend no about sex?

i am 16 and he is 18 i know you guys willsay thats rape and wat not but i dont consider it rape..he tells me all the time he wants to get with me weve been together for 5 months but im soo not ready i wanna wait till id be old enough and have children which means marriage! how do i tell him i really wanna wait????and we make out but i always stop it but i do wanna keep going i stop it cuz i dont want it to get to where i have to telll him no how do i tell him no nicely but still make out with him? more

Resolved Question: Was this aggressive or intentional crossing of boundaries?

Let me say first I am not going to date this man anymore. I am interested in the why, not in advise on what to do. So I am not putting this in the dating section. I have been dating a man for a few weeks. He has always been in control and a gentleman who respected that i do not want to move too fast in any aspect of a relationship. We went out last night in separate cars. I am not yet ready for him to know where I live with my two children because I don't know him well enough yet. He asked if he could come to my place last night and I told him "no". He accepted what i asked and did not press. He left the , I presumed for home. I took a bit longer to set off to my home. When I made the left turn onto the main road he was parked along side of the berm, and proceeded to follow me. I ignored him, wanting to see what he would do. I of course did not drive to my home. He followed for at least 4 miles before turning in a different direction than myself. He is new to the area and probably ended up pretty lost after that. Anyway...here is what I really don't get. He was not trying to hide the fact that he was following me. I am trying to figure out why he followed me and even more so...why he did it with no effort to hide the fact. He even waved at me at one point. And no..I don't want to ask him. I feel like he would tell me some BS, and I don't want to talk to him anyway. What he did frightened me...even if he was obvious about it. But was he intending to cross boundaries? Thanks for your input. more

Resolved Question: Please Help- Pregnant, needing to get out of an un-healthy relationship!?

My Question is this… It’s A LOT of explaining to get there, More like a STORY. I’m at a crossroads and I don’t know what to do, where to go for help, or where to find the answers I need. I’m hoping that someone out there has the advice and answers I need. I’ve been with a guy who has a kid off and on, mostly together for almost 4 years now. His son is 7, and he is 27, five years older than me. He is a nice enough guy to know. For us it’s a love/hate relationship. We are either Best friends who share everything together, loving to hang out, or worst enimies. We got back together in June after we were apart for 8 months. In August he lost his job and my dad offered to let him rent cheap off him in a place he owns literaly down the hill from our house. So-we move there… During his period of job hunting, I supported him with a really good job I had gotten while we were split up. I was doing really well for myself. I had a decent job, got myself a nice newer truck. I got a nursing scholarship to start this August of 2010. I was great! I was happy! I could go out whenever I wanted, hang out with whoever I wanted. I felt attractive, and wanted. I was staying single, talking to whoever I wanted. Now- he got my new number one of my “so called” friends who gave it out to him. And called me. This is where I made my biggest mistake- I talked to him, and agreed to see him. Why? Okay- because even though I was doing really well for myself- their wasn’t a day that went by where I didn’t think at least once about him. So- yeah- great- it was like falling right back to where I was in love with him. But it quickly started changing- I was working over 55+ hours a week, not able to come home at times untill 4:30 in the morning. (I worked at a sportsbar) And then would come home hang out with him, and get some sleep before waking up and going back into work. I quit spending any free time going for some drinks, and staying home visiting with him. Soon enough he found another job working day shift hours. His son started school and I- who usualy didn’t go into work untill after 10 am was the one who got him on the bus and still has up untill this point. After awhile I became exuasted. It was really hard for me to work so late and wake up and get his son ready for school and drive him to the bus stop because he goes to school out of our district. My boyfriend quickly convinces me that my job is no good for me, and it’s tearing me down with all the drama that went on and all the hours I worked, and that I needed to quit and look for something else. He told me that I shouldn’t worry because I had his back and he would have mine financialy. He was making decent money again. So all I had was my truck payment and my insurance. He paid my dad cheap cheap 200 bucks a month rent. We hadn’t had tv or anything like that yet. So I did. I quit my job, and soon regreted it. He treated me like I was crap. Telling me he could treat me however he wanted untill I paid for my truck, and that it was his truck untill I made payments again. WTF?! He only paid two payments before I found another job. I talked to my dad and told my dad I really wanted to leave him. That I really care for him and his son. But that it was too much for me to handle and I didn’t know what I had been thinking getting back with him. Well- two days later made the date of being one week late on my period. I was pregnant… My boyfriend was happy, and I was very sad. I did not want it, and I couldn’t believe this happened since I was always being safe. I mean- yeah safe or not- sex is sex, and it can happen. But yeah- my luck…. So there I was just got a parttime home health aid job making squat money enough to pay my truck payment and BAM- I have a baby coming. Long story short- I’m 5 months pregnant now- I have done everything I can to make it work. Everything… I feel nothing but used and worthless to him. Like I’m only there to be his personal child care person so he can get to work in the morning. And since he is the one who makes the good money- I made to feel that I am obligated to continue on this way. He never wants me, he never touches me, he never acts like he cares about me. Now I have been trying to work with him for months- and we have had some arguments about it. He got me an a engagment ring that he gave to me one day before Valentines day. And really shitty too- like he just whipped it out at my parents house when everyone is running around all hectic and was like “Maybe this might cheer you up” “Are you going to marry me or what?” I felt retarted- I said “Excuse me?” And he said “Will you marry me?” I wanted to say no- and yes at the same time. His little boy is standing right next to me looking so intent on what I’m going to say… So I say yes- I guess so. I havn’t even been engaged a full week and we got into a huge fight. I finaly couldn’t take it anymore! I asked him what was wrong with me??? Why he wouldn’t show me any affection. And more

Resolved Question: Has anyone got experience of their husband cutting off their mistress without wanting to? & how it worked out?

My husband had a long ongoing affair, which I guess you would call a proper relationship, not a fling or one night stand. He gave her up when I discovered the affair. He then went back to her a few times to try and maintain a friendship. I knew, and it was crippling to me but my family begged me not to end the marriage over this and it was 'a phase'. Eventually he stopped chasing her, took me on holiday, and we carried on. They lost all contact and he changed his email address and phone #. I then found out he opened a new email account after our holiday, just for her. I closed this after telling him I knew. Now, this year, into our 14th year of marriage, I find out he has been talking to her again. This time I spoke to him and told him I knew. He met her and told her he was cutting her off - THIS TIME FOREVER. He then left her there and has not been in touch since. This was last month. Now I am worried that it's only a matter of time before he goes back, and that he was somehow "obligated" to cut her off. What happens when a man cuts a woman off when he might not really WANT to but HAS to? Don't say "leave him and then you'll never have to find out!" Not that easy. No children but a very long history and he's the only man I have ever dated and then slept with. I need to add: he is ready to work on us now, so please no "he'll do it with someone else" answers please. He never did anything wrong in 13 years, except this 1 woman. more

Open Question: Is it mental abuse? What can we do?

My dad and my mom have been married for 27 years, and my dad has always had a bad temper, but now it's worse. If ANYTHING goes wrong he goes into a rage. He doesn't physically hurt us, but if we run out of paper towels or if a cat throws up or anything like that he yells and cusses and slams doors and throws things. It wasn't always this bad, used to only be a few times a month or so. When my oldest brother moved out to go to college, it got a little worse, but when my second oldest brother moved out, (I am the only girl and the youngest child of 3), it got a LOT worse. When ever they come to visit he acts on his best behavior, but as soon as they leave he goes back to normal. Not only does he throw these terrible fits, which I think are partially caused by the fact that he drinks a lot of beer, but he is always telling my mom and me how we wouldn't have anything with out him and how we can't do anything for ourselves and we should be more thankful to him. I've also seen him telling a lot of other people how worthless we are. In public he is perfectly nice and kind so people believe him and think he is one of the greatest people ever. He also is mean to my mom about how she works at a job that pays very little money. And he likes to do things like "joke around" by telling me I am a dumb ass when I don't know the answer to a question on Jeopardy that he knows. But when I try to tell him that this hurts my feelings he just gets mad and screams at me. My mom has tried to talk to him about these fits but he always either throws a fit because we are criticizing him for something that he doesn't think he does and tells my mom that she does the exact same thing (she doesn't at all), or if he's in a good mood, he might only get a little angry and say he'll do better but then be back to normal a few days later. We'll this morning his was taking me to work (I work at his appliance store on weekends) and he was already mad because I didn't get ready quick enough (I was like 2 minutes late) and then when I got in the car the windshield was icy and he went into a rage again and when he got a pot of water for the windshield he was screaming and cussing and then he slammed the cooking pot into the back of the truck as hard as he could. When we started driving down the road (we live in a very small town so there were no other cars but many curves in the road) he started going 65 mph, 20 mph above the speed limit. and then as he went further he apparently got madder and got up to 75 mph. My mom and I were just talking about how bad his fits were yesterday and how it's gotten so bad he now throws 2 or 3 fits a day. When I got home I told her and she got really upset again and started crying. We don't know what to do. There is nowhere for us to go and even if their were my mom doesn't make nearly enough money to support even one of us. Worst of all, no one believes us. Everyone thinks he is so good and kind and that because he says we are worthless we must be. My brothers are the only ones who even know a little about his fits besides us and they don't realize how bad its gotten. My second brother doesn't really care about anyone but himself so we decided to call my oldest brother who is very smart and whose opinion I usually respect. He said my dad's fits used to really scare him when he was little and that he believed my mom that it had gotten worse but that we were really overreacting and that he was tiered of all this bull shit with my mom being "the victim" and that nothing my dad does could ever be considered abuse. Since my dad doesn't know he has a problem and since every time either of us says anything critical of him he goes crazy, I don't think we could get him to go to a councilor and suggesting it would probably make things worse. And like I said, we have nowhere to go and not enough money to live on without his support. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. What can I do that would make this better? Are we really just overly-sensitive?Oh, forgot to say that when my grandmother (mom's side) died, my mom inherited some money and my dad started treating us better. Now the money's gone and he is mean again. more

Open Question: What is happening to me?

* * * * * IF YOU ARE NARROW MINDED AND IF YOU ARE PLANNING ON LEAVING A USELESS COMMENT LIKE "get a life" OR "whatever" THEN PLEASE DON'T READ FURTHER...THANKS * * * * * I'm just curious to find out if this is normal and if not then if the same thing is happening to someone else, (if so then any hints?) and if there's a website. My symptoms are: * really good night vision * I get a feeling before something happens (like a loud noise) * quick reactions * I can always sense someones emotion * nearly everything electronic that i use brakes or goes wrong (even when my friend and i were using her phone as a radio, no matter where we were, if she went anywhere near me then it'd stop working) * I suffer from really bad migraines caused by light (but I'm on pills that stops them happening so often) however i still flinch accidentally from bright lights, a lot more then my friends. * I look like a 10 year old even though I'm 14 (some even say i look younger and no matter what i do, i still look like a child!!) * I often feel the need for something else (like hunger or thirst, but i don't feel it in the same way) * i am skinnier, have a higher stamina, and more flexible then some like me (who doesn't do must exercise) should have * my friends always ask if it's a full moon when i am full of energy (it often is, or very close...why?!) * if i go anywhere near someone who is feeling very strong emotions, or if i am in danger then my palm burns, literally! The first time it happened i spent ages running my hand under a cold tap, and when it burns some people have commented on how hot me palm is!! * i hardly ever feel the cold, if i am cold i rarely feel cold to everyone else in the same situation as me, and they're always saying I'm really warm * and whenever i get into a fight (i never go looking for one), or if i get a feeling that there's going to be a fight, people always leave me alone if it gets physical once I'm ready for the fight. (by the time they leave me alone, my palm is burning and I'm 'tuned' in with something, i don't know what though. it's never gone beyond this) *I don't know if this actually happens, if it's very weak, or depends on the situation and my mood, or if it's my imagination, but sometimes i can feel like an aura around things (living things and sometimes electrical stuff that's using a lot of electricity) I can also sense my aura and blend it with other auras. I have never experimented with any living creatures and no one but me, and now you, knows about this. i was just wondering if i was going mad, should ignore all of this, or experiment more and try to become more use to using the things. Oh, and i have just spent the last few months trying to ignore this! Thank you for all of your help xxxxxWhat does twilight have to do with this? Yeah, i may be going through puberty later so i don't really care about the growth, the migraines are explainable as it happens to loads of people. But seriously, what does twilight have to do with this? I hate that series!Oh, and i don't turn into a wolf lmao :P thanks though... i think... more

Open Question: Did I have an extramarital affair?

I reconnected with an old school chum over a year an a half ago and for about a year, sporadically, we kept in contact. I used to invite her over a lot at first, we'd drink together and she'd stay over (in another bedroom) while my husband was away working. On the first night, she told me she was in love with me. In fact, I guessed it, and this was after I asked her all about her private life, which I wanted to know about very badly. I think I always knew. And I always had similar feelings, even if I find that hard to admit even to myself. I didn't say anything to her because I felt I would have been betraying my marriage, and I am not gay. In fact, all I said to her when she acknowledged she was in love with me was, "I'm married, ____." I don't believe in bisexuality as bisexuals are really gay people who because of society say they like the opposite sex and couple up with them. I told her this was what I believe. We talked very personally, about sex often as I was wanted to know about her life and how she has sex, even if it's not my kind of sex. That doesn't make me gay. We slow danced twice one night before Christmas. She asked me to and I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Plus, we were drunk. And then she took me into her arms as I was turning out the lamps before bed and I stayed in them for probably 2 or 3 minutes, relaxed in them. Also, she had her hand on my inner thigh once, for a long time, and I didn't tell her to move it. I was drunk. And she rubbed/massaged my legs and feet another night, but it felt so good that I didn't tell her to stop. And the last time she stayed over, some 6 months after we reconnected, we had a 3 hour emotional blow-up about everything. Things were going in a direction that was not good for me, after that, so I basically stopped talking to her for a good six months until I was drunk one night after watching Grey's Anatomy's season premiere last year and I msged her on Facebook and wanted to call her at 1 am to resolve some things. I was drunk again. And when she called me the next day, I avoided her. Did I cheat, or was I just curious about her? I am 100% heterosexual, and I told her this. She is gay. I don't think it was an affair. It was all her and her feelings for me that created this. I was just being nice and didn't want to hurt her. I love my husband. Thanks. Oh, and for more context of our history and everything, a couple of years before I had a child and got with/married his father, I asked her to make love to me, a decade before this all happened. She didn't, then. Wasn't ready, she wasn't, and then I moved on. And then this happened almost ten years later. more

Resolved Question: How do I Foster Parent a teen with special needs?

I am a Family Childcare Provider. I accept children with Special Needs. B has been in my program since he was 14 years old. He is now 18. He is a VERY sweet guy but I have been concerned about his home life almost since he first started in my program. His step mom is very controlling and according to B also verbally abusive. Like I said I have been VERY concerned about B but I never had "evidence" of abuse to report to the authorities. Two weeks ago B showed up with bruises on his face and neck. His story didn't match the bruises so I HAD to make a report. (I am a mandatory reporter.) The situation is being investigated and B's parents have decided they don't want him in their home anymore. I have been asked to be his foster parent because he isn't able to live on his own at this time. (His dad wanted to set him up in an apartment by himself but the case manager convinced him B isn't ready for that yet.) I know I will need to continue to teach and care for this sweet young man, but how do I PARENT him? Do I treat him as a child and become his "mom"? Do I treat him as a tenant? He and my son have the same dx and almost the same IQ, but my son has had treatment and B was only medicated. There is a HUGE difference in the boys abilities. How do I handle that? Any positive advise will be much appreciated. Please NO rude answers, this is a REAL issue!We are in the US. I am in the process of being certified as an adult foster care provider. The state of Oregon just changed the defination of "abuse" for adults with Developmental Disabilities and the way his dad and step mom treat him is now considered abusive. His case manager is the one who approached me about fostering him. more

Open Question: will he come back????what should i do?

Open Question: Would you feel offended if your teenager moved out as soon as she turned 18, but still was on good terms w you?

If she wanted to move in with her boyfriend who was respectful, successful, and supportive and owned a lovely home, or get a little apartment of her own instead of continuing to live with you, would you feel hurt or offended? I may hold off on college for personal reasons, but am ready to be independent and living like a child with my parents anymore. I can completely pay for my own expenses. If I moved in with my boyfriend it would be because of our relationship, and not because I need a man to take care of me. My relationship with my parents is for the post part solid, and I think our relationship will actually improve once I'm independent. How would you feel in this circumstance?BS 2010 ~ All my friends moved from their parents house to dorms rather than into their own place. 18 is still a teen...... An adult, yes, but still eighTEEN. : ) more

Open Question: Would you feel offended if your teenager moved out the day she turned 18, but still was on good terms with you?

Open Question: Is this amount of blood normal?

Before you say Im a skank and I should have closed my legs or I need to die! I don't care about negative responses to this. I use birth control and condoms but for some unseen reason I keep getting pregnant! I'll just ignore them or report them. I just had an abortion this morning. The thing is It is my 3rd one. The first 2 I was between 7 and 9 weeks but this time I was only 5 weeks along! Im not cramping and Im only bleeding a little bit where as the other 2 times I bleed a ton and cramped like woah! Is it just because of how early I had it done this time? I cant find the answer anywhere... and am really in need of help! By the way its the same guy... we are not ready for children and i am not at risk for any diseases! more

Resolved Question: Is he too young for me or is it okay?

okay so i am a lonely chick who just wants to ahve a guy who loves me and cares about me. Someone who doesn't care what i look like and is fun to be around. Well i thought that the most mature guys who could be like that had to be older than 18... Well i am 15 and turning 16 this April. Anyways i was cheated on, broken up wiht, and broke up with the guys. One guy was 18 and he cheated on me with another chick and got ehr pregnant. Another guy was 24 i broke up with hm because he got too clingy and too desperate, had to know where i as and all. Too much. Another guy was 19 and he was too jealous and became a huge asshole whenever i talked to another guy. One guy decided that i didn't have sex with him enough so he wanted to leave me. All the others were too immature and acted like total idiots around everyone. they had no manners infront of adults and was rude around children never watched their language. And always acted a fool around the elderly. These huys are all fuck-tards. Well i got tired of getting my heart screwed with, so i gave up on datin, but i got lonely and just wanted someone who wanted to be with me just because. Thuis new kid moved into the house across the road from me, i mean i can look out my window and see his house. He rides my bus and he has the most beautiful eyes i have ever seen. Anyways he is sweet and said he will wait for sex till i am ready, and he said he has been hurt before, and doesn't want it to happen. So he understands what i want. He told me looks don't matter he just wants soul. He holds my hand, hugs me, kisses me tenderly n my cheek. Cuddles me when i hurt, and warms me up when i am cold. When i am sad he tries to make me laugh and whan i don't cheer up he holds me and talks to me, tries to see wahts wrong, how he can ake it better... Anyways i am really falling for this guy but the problem is is that i refuse to date guys younger than me. I am a souphmore in highschool and he is fourteen and in eighth grade. he turns fifteen in like June or July. I am already dating him because i really do like this kid... a lot... but do you think this kid is for real? or is he just too young and i should keep trying the older guys? Say anything you need to say t help me out here. more

Resolved Question: OMG! Did I really get two pink lines?

My husband and I have been ttc for 8 months. Last month our doctor said that due to my husbands sperm analysis being so poor that we would never conceive a child without IVF. I have been taking Clomid for the last three months and was ready to be done. However my husband was in denial and asked me to continue taking it for one more month. So I did but our hearts weren't into ttc. We only had sex once this month, I stopped taking my prenatals, and I drank wine on several occasions. I charted sloppily and completely stopped after I got my temp rise. Well this morning I am officially three days late and thought I might as well use up the last of the hpts. I could not believe it when that second pink line immediately showed up. This baby is truly a miracle! I know how hard the ttc road is and I just wanted to let everyone out there know that miracles can happen. The doctors can be wrong. Good luck to you all and may you also get your 2010 babies! more

Resolved Question: am i wrong? is it me who ruins the marriage?

have been married for 7 years now. have a child. husband has drinking problems. i asked him to quit drinking. when he is drunk he is a terrible person. he promised to change and be a better person for about 4 times now. all these time i forgave him and gave him those last chances. now i told him i am ready to divorce because i am tired of trying making our marriage work. i have already get used to the idea of being divorced. but now he says he will change because he doesn't want divorce. it has been 2 weeks now since he started to change himself. but this time i don't want anything. i don't believe him any longer. last time it took him 5 weeks to be a good husband and dad. and then there were 8 terrible months. we have just had a fight . and he told me i am not giving him a chance and it is me who is ruins the marriage. i am tired and lost and depressed. more

Resolved Question: About this married guy.............?

Hello Friends, I have a friend who is in trouble right now.. after realising that she has been betrayed for almost 5 - 6 years. She met this guy in some dating site. She was just 21 then. She got herself registered and she always enjoi'd reading the profiles with friend request. His was really impressive and she happened to meet him online. Once this guy made a surprise visit to her office and they met for the first time. She really liked this guy and started dating him. This fellow works for a good organization in Dubai and she is in India. After few days of meeting, he proposed her and promised to marry her when he comes for vacation the next year. She had no reasons to deny as she felt she would be happy with him. But every year, this fellow used to visit India as well as her, but there was never any talks of marriage. Meanwhile my friend denied proposals of marriage that her parents lloked for her hoping that this idiot will hold her hand one day. He used to come once a year and met her just 2 - 3 hrs a day. But used to talk on phone. He started putting the blame on his father that he might not agree and they cant get married. At the same time, he was also posing dialogues that she means a lot to him and cant live without her. Being her first love, she never wanted to leave him and was ready to wait for this guy as much as she can. Nearly after 5 years, she had a official trip to another state in India and it was during his vacation here. They both ended up in a hotel room and almost they had sex. The girl never met or seen anybody from his side except that she has spoken to one of his friends on phone. After 1.5 years of this incident, matter got worst because the girls parents ame to know about the hotel incident and when she pressed for marriage, he just dumped her saying that he cannot get married...My friend, foolishly, was waiting for him to come back to her. Once she happen to speak to that friend of his, who blurted out that my friend's lover is married almost 12 years back and he has two children aged 11 and 7.... These many years he was just using this girl and spoilt her name, future and life.. What do you she should do with this guy?? She is still in shocks almost lost in her foolishness hiding herself from the world. I am unable to see her like this and I wanted to punish him at the highest.... Suggest plz........................ more

Voting Question: I'm 41 and my wife is 26 she wants kids and I have 2 older children and don't want and cant have kids.?

Hello, well i'm 41 and my wife is 26 years old. she is in the army and has been for 9 years now. we have a great marriage and have tons of fun. I have 2 children ages 21 and 18 and have been divorced for 10 years now. she wants children now!!! and I don't and also I am fixed and can't have children. we have talked about a reversal but that was just talk and now we are fighting about it all the time. One of my big problems is I feel really pressured and I will tell you why, the army base that she works on is relocating a lot of people and by sept. of this year they will decide who will stay or leave. she knows that if she is pregnant they prob won't send her anywhere because they don't want her to help stand up a new unit and then start missing work. anyway I have told her 3 times I don't want to get a reversal and I won't do it, she tells me she will get out of the army if I don't have it done because she won't sell the house and move again... sounds like a threat to me?? she doesn't believe me and we have talked to a doctor about it a long time ago. well she has been calling them and about 2 months ago called me and said she set up a date for me to get the surgery done... I was pissed to say the least. so we talked about it and I said " if just setting up a date will help you keep your job that's fine but i'm not getting the surgery done", well they need money upfront and it is refundable so she paid them. well we need to tell them no within 6 weeks to get all of our money back and that time is here. I told her to call them and cancel and she freaked out??? she really thinks im gonna do this and im not. How do i get her to believe this?????? I don't want to have more kids I just stopped paying support and both my kids are moved out. she tells me all the time nothing will change if she has a kid and it will be fun, well I know better I went through it all ready.don't get me wrong i love kids and get along with every-ones kids but i just don't want to go through it again. sorry about the rant but this is the first time I have talked to anyone about this or ever asked for advise. I feel helpless. I would love to stay with my wife and keep doing all the stuff we do know. we do whatever whenever and I know that will end. do you think that it will ever work for us or will this be a life long thing that she will always hate me for? more