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Resolved Question: does she like me or him?

my friend cut the tip of his finger off and so i was over at his house for 3 days makin sure he takes his meds and is doin what the doctor said. today, his sister had a friend over and my friend thinks he is god's gift to women so he thinks she likes him. i didn't know who the girl was until she walked through the door and realized that I've seen her before. recognized me from " 4th period in 6th grade" which was 3 years ago. so the entire day we sat there talking about what we have been doing since then. i thought for sure (still think) that she would go out with him just because he's a huge flirt, he was getting his niece to be a messenger, like a 2nd grade crush and all she did was say "you're a loser, stop messing with me, leave me alone".but maybe she is doing exactly what little girls do when they crush and pretending that she hates him although she likes him. either way, that relationship will last for about 4 days until he finds someone else. but apparently my mom said that she smiled when she saw me. i didn't notice it and i still think that my mom is just being a mom, what does she know. she always says people like me and i never see it, i think its in her head. i just want to know who she likes because me and him are best friends, and i don't want to start an argument over a girl, but me and her have way more in common and already have a history. also, his sister would break them up, your not supposed to date your siblings best friend! but anyways, what do you think??i left out that she we sat on the bed listening to music and played truth or dare, but i don't think that has anything to do with the question, or maybe it does? more

Resolved Question: WOMEN!! How Do You Unleash Your Sexy Side?

My friends and I are planning a night out somewhere snazzy, where we can wear sexy dresses and make up and drink posh wine and listen to great music. Being single for 6 months, I wanted to go out there and have some harmless flirting, but I'm a little outta practice (the last guy I dated, for 8 months, I was casually seeing for 2 years, so I've not had lots of practice there haha). Any tips from you girls on how to give the guy 'that look' without looking like a prostitute? ;o) more

Resolved Question: was he flirting or is it all in my head?

I cannot tell and I could use some advice, because I don't want to be played. Here is what went down in a nutshell: I went to a new restaurant down the street from where I work with my supervisor. The waiter was around my age and attractive but I didn't think much of it at first. However the waiter was very friendly with me, I'd say more so then with my supervisor (who was a woman). After checking my ID for an alcoholic drink he made sure to tell me that he'd never want to doubt me, and then started using my first name whenever he'd talk with me. At first I didn't really respond much, thinking it was a little odd but later on he pointed out my name on my keychain and said he had the same first name. I was getting the hint, I think. I said something like, "yeah, the downside is we're always the first to get pockets and drunk calls, etc". and we both laughed. It was my first time there and I mentioned that in passing when I sat down, so I ordered exactly what he suggested to me at the time, which made him smile. Once in a while I began to check him out as he walked by, I can't be positive, but I think he noticed, once I think he smiled about it to himself. As we were done, he began to tell me that "if I enjoyed what I had, I should come back for more." I finished his sentence and agreed that I would. My supervisor paid and left the tip. Since it was my belated birthday lunch, the tip wasn't that great but not that bad. You'd think if he had been fishing for tips it might disappoint him. But on the way out the door he made sure to call out to me (and me alone) by name and said he hoped I'd be back. The bad news is I went back at once point and seemed to make a mess of things. I went back on my own. the place was pretty full. I should have sat at the bar, where he stopped by at once in a while, but I was too nervous and sat at these more secluded, 1 person tables. To be honest I was nervous. I did not want to make anything obvious, just be a but more flirty this time to see where it goes. But he wasn't my waiter, and I wasnt about to make any obvious moves when he wasn't even waiting my table. I finally got up the urge to smile and do the head nod thing. He smiled back and said "You're Aaron, right?" I found that a little funny since just earlier this week he had said we shared the same first name. then he asked me what my plans were for the weekend. I totally blew it and with a full mouth mumbled something about a root canal. He didn't respond much to that and went back about his business. DId I blow it beyond fixing? Was he ever really interested in the first place, or am I just imagining things? Should I go back and if so, how soon is too soon? more

Voting Question: was he flirting or was it fake?

Resolved Question: Is he gay? Is he interested?

I went to a new restaurant the other day and out waiter was really friendly towards me, more so then with the other person I was with (although she was a middle aged woman, and my supervisor). Right away he was chatty with me, which I found more flirtatious than anything. I have had chatty waiters before, but you can tell when they are flirting or not, and he seemed interested in me, at least, I'd like to think so. He started calling me by name almost immediately just from reading my ID. And then told me how he also shared the same first name. We talked about how unfortunately, that meant we were the first to get pocket calls and stuff like that and he laughed. I admit, I'd check him out whenever he'd walk by and I'm pretty sure he noticed and it made him smile. It was my belated birthday lunch, so my firend/surpervisor was paying and left a lousy tip, but after all of that he still called me by name and asked for me to come back. Earlier on he said if I enjoyed what I had, that I should come back. I think i blushed. There was a guy he was serving at the bar, he was talking with, but didn't seem as friendly with. What do you think? Was he really interested, or just playing me like a violin for a good tip, thinking that gays give better tips than anyone. I am not sure which it was and how and when I should make my next move properly. more

Voting Question: I need love. How can I find it? Guys only.?

I'm a young woman. I need more of it. I feel empty, alone, and like I am nobody's favorite person. How can I get a guy to love me? I only want guy's opinions only. Describe your dream girl. I am very shy and quiet though and I suspect thats a problem. I'm a good weight and I work out. I enjoy videogames, all kinds of movies, cartoons, and comics. I'm in my 20's. I do not go out often. I am rather naive and innocent for my age. People often think I am 16 or younger. I do not wear makeup. I dress plainly. I am willing to change that. I need tips please. Should I consider older men? Younger men tend to just want to screw around so I heard but I need love and not just someone screwing me. I want someone to hug me and actually care for me and not want to use me just because I'm a kind person and sort of a pushover. I'm 21 and I've never been kissed or ever had a boyfriend. I'm too shy to do anything. Even if a guy did flirt w/ me I wouldn't know or I would get quiet and shy and make him think I am not interested. I'm a loser. more

Resolved Question: how can a nice guy be a jerk?

Well I am a nice guy but some times it turns woman off so I had to learn the hard way not to be to nice to woman so I have learned that you have to be nice when you need to be and a jerk when you have to be. some woman say I am nice then when i try to be a jerk they tell me stop being a jerk I do not get it. This is what I have learned you have to be to get a girl. Do not be a doormat and stand up for your self. Be a challenge -- let her do some work to get you. You have to show her that she is part of your life, not all your life. I do have confidence some day I have more then others. I am down to earth and I am nice to every one until they make me mad. I do not like to be a jerk but I feel you have to be to get a gf now days. So is this how most woman want to be treated? I need some tips on how to be a jerk. Do not be a door mate and stand up for your self. Disagreeing with her in a fair way Teasing her and Making fun of her in a good way like if she likes some thing lame make fun of her. Get involved in your own life and your own interests. Make plenty of time for male stuff. When she tries to test you, don't give in -- tell her to grow up. Don't be afraid to say "no." Be unpredictable. Be a challenge -- let her do some work to get you. You have to show her that she is part of your life, not all your life. Be there for her when she needs you. Radiate confidence to girls Make sure you convey to the girl you are interested in that you have similar qualities and interests. Make the girl concentrate on the similarities that you two have, not the differences. Flirt with her and show her that you are easy going and can put a smile on her face effortlessly. What do you think? It seems it does not pay to be to nice to woman. btw i am 26 more

Resolved Question: I'm confused with this girl...?

I really don't know where I stand with this girl. * We're always texting each other the most pointless things, almost as if just to stay in contact with each other. * We're always calling each other 'hot', and joke about each other's 'clevage' sizes..if you call them that :P * She always says that we should 'make out'. * I admit, I steal glances at her, but I've caught her stealing glances at me; sometimes she'll look all flustered, sometimes she'll look away, sometimes, she'll look at me and wink. * If we're sat/stood next to each other, we sit/stand that close so that we're touching, she'll look at me acknowledging it, but neither of us acting upon it. * We tell each other that we love each other. * We have the flirtiest conversations, everything is laced with innuendo; she jokes that we should do 'this' and 'that', or we'll simply innuendo whatever we can. She jokes about coming round, and doing dirty things. * We have a '40' pact :P * She has called a few women hot. * She'll text me to say that she misses me, or I'll text her to say I miss her. * We talk dirty with each other. Somewhere along the lines I developed feelings for her, which I thought were one sided, then the other day.. We were randomly talking and I said that I was 'off the market' for a while, then she said "don't say that, I'll get upset" (in a joking way), so I say "why, cause you won't have a chance with me?" flirting along with her, then she dipped her head and said "I've always had a chance with you" in utmost seriousness. Then she'll talk about wanting to 'do' a guy, yet she still acts like this. I'm stuck.. 1) Do I play her at her own game? And flirt outrageously with her? 2) Am I just an 'experiment' for her, in which case, I'd want to distance myself from her before my feelings go deeper. I really am stuck, never being in this situation before, so any tips as to what to do would be appreciated, thanks. MT Thanks :/Thanks for the advice so far, trust me, I've thought about it many times; but it's when she says she's got a case of unrequited love with this guy, makes me wonder if she's straight. If it wasn't for that, I would've made my mark on her by now haha more

Resolved Question: Meeting someone for the first time offline?

So...I will try not to ramble :) I am going to this camp this summer and there is a FB group for kids to meet before. About a month ago I met ___. We have been texting EVERY SINGLE day since then and talk all the time. I am a very independant woman, never interested in games and havent been interested in a relationship in a while. We flirt a lot and I have never met anyone more similar to me. We will meet at camp next month and I need tips, comments, anything! I want to find out what he wants from me there and I need some ice breaking tips. Hope you can make sense of that :) THANKS! more

Resolved Question: Can you please give me some tips for behavior - look into details plz?

How to keep more or less good relationship with co-workers, strangers, but not let them to know any personal thing and how to avoid men or women flirting you/bothering you more

Resolved Question: these are 12 trick on how to seduce a guy :) (not a question)?

1. Set the right environment It would be a good idea for you to create a romantic environment. Make sure you are in a place where there aren’t too many distractions such as people, loud music and a mess. The best place would be a candle-lit dinner at your home with soft music playing in the background. 2. Confidence Men love it when women show just how confident they are about themselves. Straighten up those shoulders, put your nose in the air and walk like you are full of confidence. Be warned, you do not want to overdo this one and look arrogant. 3. Eye contact Eye contact is numero uno on this list. Your eyes will let him know just exactly how you feel. So lock those beautiful eyes on him while you talk. Maintain a steady gaze but do lower your gaze occasionally to his lips and look back up. Whatever you do, remember, it is rude to stare. 4. Play hard to get I never really understood this one, because when you’re playing hard to get, what if the guy gets under the impression that you are not interested? I guess moderation as always is the key. Men enjoy the chase. So play a little hard to get but don’t ever be so cold or rude that he loses interest in you. Just make things a tad harder. 5. You’ve got the looks Slip on that sensuous dress and let those locks fall down your shoulders. Wear those dangerously high heels and put on some make up. Bring out your best features such as your lips, neck or eyes. Don’t try too hard though. Find a perfect balance between your own subtle self and a femme fatale. 6. Modulate that tone Nothing is more seductive that a sensuous, gentle tone. And no you don’t have to talk dirty. Just whisper something in his ear such as “you look good in black” using a seductive tone. The guy is not only going to be flattered, but you will be getting those brownie points. 7. Flirt Oh yeah, it is definitely good to flirt! Tell him how good he looks and sound genuine while you do it. Blink your eyes and get that vulnerable, yet hard to get look. Slightly touch him on the shoulder while laughing. Don’t ever overdo this though. 8. Smell good Put on some seductive perfume and you will lure that guy in. Make sure you do not put on too much. You do not want to smell like it’s your substitute to a shower. Here’s a nice little trick that my grandma taught me. If you have rose perfume, then put some rose essential oils in the bathwater. Put some powder on that smells like rose, lotion and then perfume. Spray it in front of you and then walk into it. Ah! Divine! 9. Stroke his tie If he is wearing a tie, stroke it. Strangely, men look at their neckties as an extension of their… yeah. Hey, I didn’t invent that, I don’t know why guys think what they think half the time. By stroking and admiring the tie, you will be sending over some sexual signals. 10. Display your cleavage If you are in a private place, then display some cleavage. And by some I do not mean be like Jodie Marsh. A little peek-a-boo with the girls will get him just a wee bit excited…exactly what we want ;) 11. Show me some leg girl! Ofcourse nothing turns on a man like bare, toned legs. So don’t be afraid to put on that short dress and high heels and strut your stuff. Never show off both cleavage and legs at the same time. There is such a thing as too much exposure. 12. Use your mouth And last but not the least use your mouth….Err not what you’re thinking. I mean lick your lips subconsciously, sip your wine seductively, eat your dessert just a little too slowly and look like you’re really enjoy it. Basically, draw attention to your mouth and you will send your message across! Those are 12 tips on how to seduce a guy and I bet they’d charm his pants right off :D What about you? What tips do you have? What do you like the most off of my list? more

Resolved Question: Girlfriend has jealousy issues, how to deal with her double standard?

Perfect example is the other night, we went to a strip club after being at a regular bar. She was tipping girls like crazy but admitted she can't stand to look when I tip a girl. Then the other night a noticeably hot girl arrives at a small house party we are at and she gets totally bent out of shape accuses me of staring at this chick. Ya, I checked her out but didn't flirt or talk to her. And I have no problems with her checking out or commenting on a guy but she hates for me to say anything about women unless I'm being rude. more

Resolved Question: Help. Sidlined by little who.s at work...tell me how to get respect back and get boss to fire these sl.ts?

I'm a 43yr old woman. I've worked in the same diner waitressing since i was 18. I've always been an essential part of running the place & my input has always been invaluable and respected. I had a say in who was hired, and i gave work to lots of my mates. My mates are 'hard grafters' rather than 'useless eye candy'. Anyhow, my old boss retired the place to this new owner. Hes this young 37yr old hotshot. i've stayed on but now i feel totally sidelined. First of all he has totally revamped the place, all modern, and i just dont like it. I hate the colour scheme, i hate the furniture, i hate the whole thing full stop. Its totally different to what me and the old boss would have chosen. I expected a huge input into the new bosses plans, after all i have been invaluable to the running of the place. I made suggestions and brought in colour cards from my home. Now hes doing all the hiring and has taken to hiring 'hot tottie', ie girls aged 20 - 22, blond, busty and basically little trollops who spend more time wriggling their bums than doin work. He lets these little pieces of *** away wtih murder. On the days he is off, I take charge and i'm tough, no amount of flirting or bum wiggling does it for me thanks. It seems to me all they have to do is flick their hair and flash their boobs and they get anthing they want from him, shorter hours and more money. Then again they wear shorter skirts. The dinder is basically a sea of blond hair, big boobs and *** wriggling. Customers are tipping these brats heavily and the place is now so busy, every day i'm pouring sweat. I got a payrise but it doesnt reflect my importance to the business, my years of wisdom. HIs hiriing of little w.h.res has brought in a huge sleasy clientelle.....alot of males. I'm just not happy here, the place has lost its tradtional ways. Lots of older customers dont want to come in now. Even the music on the systems gone all modern. Ive expressed my concerns and hes been quiet blunt, telling me he values my input and that we will have to 'agree to differ', but yet just ignores my input. Now i'm accused of bullying one of the brats as she was dressing way too inappropriately on a shift two nights ago. To my horror this new guys taken me aside and says the customers didnt have a problem wtih how she dressed and her till was way up and thats all he cares about. I'm sorry, having your top so low you can almost see n.ipple spells to me inappropriate adn sending out wrong signals. I'm planning on making this little jerks life difficult, i'm not going anywhere and i know all my rights. I want more money and respect...tell me how more

Resolved Question: Help..accused of bullying a ta.t at work..new boss hiring eye candy , not grafters?

Resolved Question: Where should I start looking for women my age? (i'm in college)?

I have just freed from myself from a parasitic relationship (a girl which was flirting with me just to get homework), so once again I am open and as naive as ever and have still never had a true girlfriend. I'm 19 and in college and my classes really don't have women my age or ones that are particularly interested in conversing (I'm an engineering major ;_;), so I have taken to wandering around my campus (a lot of girls say hi to me, so I can respond with "whatsup" and start a conversation), but I don't know when to ask for a phone/I'm too scared to be labeled as a creep and if I do get in contact it's hard to continue a bond when we aren't in the same classes and finals are coming in the next 2 weeks. Are there better places to meet women my age or should I just keep cruising around waiting for someone to show me the way? The other problem with myself is I don't really want to go to the college parties where everyone is drunk, doing drugs, getting in fights because the alcohol supply is running low with police coming to investigate at least 5 times unless there is some extremely high reward (I don't want a one night stand). Ideas? tips? anything? Also I am bit shy. more

Resolved Question: Is it still wrong to be involved...a year later?

A year ago, two of my buddies and I went to Vegas for some fun and leisure. We met two married women on a birthday vacation who live in the same city as us, Vancouver. We hung out with them one night and just laughed and drank the whole time. One of them gave me trip tips about Vancouver Island since my parents were coming to visit and I wanted to bring them there. After coming back from Vegas, my friends and I kept in touch with these two women. We all became very good friends. We even hung out with them and their hubbies. One of them I had a strong attraction to. I subtly flirted with her, but I knew there were boundaries. We became close because she talked to me about her absentee husband and I talked about problems with my girlfriend. Eventually, I became her best guy friend. She didn't know I was falling in love with her. Since I was, I told her we could no longer be friends but I never told her why. I knew her for about four months before the friendship ended. It has been a year now, and I still am in love with her. I saw her recently in the neighbour hood and she told me she split up with her husband in January. We talked and I told her I always valued our friendship though it was short lived. I also told her I was attracted to her and I would never want to cross a line even though there were no signs she was willing to cross it with me. I asked her to go to dinner with me as we are both single. Her ex has a new girlfriend, and she is very ready to move on. She told me she had feelings for me to but couldn't show or act of them. Now we're back in each other's lives. I want her back in my life as a friend and even more. My days are filled with texts and calls from her. Am I doing something wrong here? To me, it feels right. more

Voting Question: Can anyone help me? I'm so confused...?

I was looking up tips on how to tell if someone likes you online and I found these: -They show interest in almost everything you say. A young man/woman with a crush is probably the best listener in the world. They'll ask questions about you, they'll "Ooh!" and "Ah!" in all the right places. This is a definite sign. -They get nervous when it's just the two of you. If they unexpectedly run into you, or find themselves alone with you, it will probably be a little awkward for them. You'll notice. It can be charming. -They give you things. Sometimes it might be a gift, or flowers, or money. Other times they might just loan you something dear to them that they wouldn't loan anyone else-a favorite jacket, book, or CD (don't take advantage of them, it'd break their heart). -They flirt. There are so many little intricacies in flirting, it's hard to pin-point each and every one, but some examples include: notes, smiling or laughing, picking on you, physical touch, showing off, or trying to make you laugh. All of those sound exactly like what my crush does. Could it be possible that he likes me as well???? Please be as honest as possible Thank youum....he isn't an online thing.... I go to school with him... more

Resolved Question: Please please please help me (I sound desperate, I know, but I'm really confused and annoyed)?

Resolved Question: Lesbians; how important is a girl's style of dressing in your ''gay-dar'' evaluation?

I went out on the town yesterday, for a bachelorette. We all wore matching tee-shirts. (I am usually quite feminine, I have NEVER gone clubbing in a tee-shirt before ! LOL) It was the only thing different about me, make-up and hair and jewelery was the same, this is also my usual group of friends to go out with. Usually, I might get subtly approached by one, maybe two woman, with a lot of flirting and ''testing the grounds'' first. Last night, I got openly propositioned by three different women. And they were A LOT more direct in their advances. This has never happened before. So apparently, wearing a tee-shirt (I guess I looked more tom-boy ?) tipped everyone's Gay-dar rating of me from ''maybe'' to ''definately''. I am quite surprised, especially since the shirt was obviously something I didn't choose to wear since there were eigth identical others... who didn't get approached ? more

Voting Question: Is my penis girth too big for my new girl?

I met a new girl, for which I´ve fallen in love with, and I think she also likes me since she often makes compliments and starts flirting with me. The problem is that she`s not very tall. (ca. 160cm) couple of weeks ago I measured my penis. My length when erect is ca. 14,8 cm. and my girth is ca. 15,2 cm! (Diameter ca 4,8 cm) now I read a study that the average penis length here is 15,9 and girth 13,5. So I´m a bit shorter but thicker than the average. Could it be that my dick is too big for this girl, since I read that smaller girls are also "smaller" built? I really like her and I´m quite sure that she fancies me. So could you please give me any tips except long foreplay etc.? Would you consider my penis as too thick/short for the average woman? And please no comments like "the technique is decisive"! (I´m writing in english too get as many answers as possible) Thanks in advance!!! more

Resolved Question: I need help, why is it that I am soooo lost in the subject that is women?

I am a 17 year-old guy, who is blonde, 5'11, strong, acne-free, not ugly, smart, I have been told I am extremely funny, nice, and have beautiful eyes. I am not usually have more self-esteem but recently I am feeling not as great. 90% of the people I meet immediately attach themselves as my "friends" because I am very friendly, but a little more than half my friends are girls, everyone (including them) thinks I'm a lady's man and that I flirt with everyone, when in reality I am just being friendly and polite. I have dated a couple girls for only a few dates, and one for two months, but I am big chicken during the relationship, the girl I dated for two months I didn't end up kissing, I want to date but recently I haven't found anyone that I could date. Do I sound date-able? Is it sad that I don't have my first kiss yet? Any tips on dating/ meeting girls? I am also not looking for sex just purely a relationship, nor do I drink, smoke, or do drugs. Thanks for reading all this dribble XD more

Resolved Question: what can i do? i suck at dating.?

OK, so I'm looking for advice from people my age (16-20) i have only been in 2 relationships and they kinda just happened.. but I've been single now for too long. and i wanna get out there. but i have no idea what I'm doing. and I'm proud enough to admit it. when it comes to women, i cant approach them and just start flirting.. i feel all outa place. and I'm looking for tips to help me. and when i do get to talking to a girl, it seems I'm doing good, then bam! they get with somebody else.. so ladies. I'm asking you what you like a guy to do when he first meets you. and guys, i would like any tips you know that work, AND NO ASSHOLE stuff. i never disrespect anybody, unless they disrespect me. more

Resolved Question: How can I improve my characters/what do you think of them?

So, I've hammered out the rough details of my characters. They're sort of modernish outlaws. Can you give me some constructive criticism/tips/opinions? Thanks! (: Lilly “Wildfire” Williams Female. 27. Bradley “the Kid” Payne’s girlfriend. He always said he never had enough time for her because of the gang. She had accepted his life of crime, but when he started leaving her for long periods, she decided to woman up and join the gang. She is very good with guns as a result of self defense training she needed when she was Bradley's girlfriend should any enemies of the gang come after her. The other members of the gang are doubtful of her at first but she’s pretttyyy bad azz.. Bradley “the Kid” Payne Male. 30. The “ladies’ man” of the group. Finally settled down with Lillie but still flirts a little bit. Kind of the “ditz” of the group. Maybe more “damsel in distress.” He is very strong and good looking though, so he can do the grunt work for the group. More concerned with hygiene than the others. He met up with one of the other members in prison and they formed a "gang" Sam “Shootout” Caldwell Male. 32. The violent one. He is not afraid to kill anyone who gets in his way. He is rash, and doesn’t think before he does. Not as smart as the others, but hates to be reminded of it. On the other hand, he is an excellent outlaw, good at getting in, getting the loot and getting out. He’s sort of short, which makes people underestimate him. Joeseph “Storm” McDaniel Male. 34. The leader of le group. He is the smartest of all, and is excellent at planning. He has got the typical outlaw look, rugged, etc. He tries to be non violent as possible, trying not to kill anyone in the process of their crimes. Of course, he may slip up once or twice, but he really is good, except for the, you know, crime part. more

Resolved Question: What sort of personality traits attract a man to a woman?

Ok, so I am 26 years old and I would like to have a boyfriend at some point in my life. the problem is that men don't seem to be attracted to me. I go out with friends and they all get hit on but me. I posted a question yesterday asking if it had to be something with my looks (it took a lot of courage and it was quite embarrassing doing that but i had to know). people on here gave a few tips here and there on how to improve my make up nd all that but in general i received a lot of compliments. So if the problem isnt necessarily to do with my physical aspect, then it must be something i am doing that is keeping me from finding someone. I do accept that I am quite shy and i have trouble talking to men i am attracted to, but mainly because i imagine they will not be attracted to me since no one seems to be so i expect to be reject or embarrassed so i close up. But i think if guys approached me and they looked interested it would also be easier for me to kinda loosen up and just flirt. I mean i am shy and reserved and people say i look serious, so i guess that can be it. But that is just who i am, i cant go from that to being the life of the party, so can anyone suggest things i can do to appear more open and friendly without having to completely pretend to be something i am not? more

Resolved Question: do men like cheap women? why? i notice sometimes they do but not when the woman comes on strongly. i want SEX?

but any tips on getting laid by very hot guys for an average-looking girl who has tried dirty-talk and cleavage-revealing and outrightly asking a hot guy for his hp no. only to be rejected by him. i am decent looking. he flirted with me and brushed his arm against me and called me dear and all so i thought i got myself a hot guy. how to lure hot guys into bed? i am virgin btw. more

Voting Question: How do i overcome a somewhat irrational hatred of women?

First off dont get me worng, i am 100% heterosexual, my hatread and resentment is more of a response to my crappy dating life and sucess with women; its more of an extreme case of jadedness. Im 21 and have never been on a date, never been kissed, nothing, no sucess with women what so ever; never even had a girl flirt with me. Im shy and that makes it worse since women hate shy guys and guys with low confidence. I have never had a reason to be confidnt because women have never been interested in me. Since shyness is genetic im screwed there. Im also scared of rejection, and dont handle it well, especially given that many women are just plain mean when turning a guy down. Thus over the period of the last 6 years or so, i have gradually developed an increasing resentment and hate of all women and of the society that tells women never to show interest in a guy. I hate them for contributing to my misery, for not giving me a chance, and its starting to eat me up inside. People tell me "just stop", but it took me 6 years to become this hatefull, how can i just stop like that? dont get me wrong i dont express my hatred and i have no desire to harm women or anything, but this hate is starting to eat at me; i just cant see how i can stop. I honestly am looking for some advice, i dont want to hate ant more. Any one have any tips? preferably not smart alec ones? PS I dont have insurance so counceling isnt an option; iom not going to nor can i afford 100 dollars an hour.This might be obvious, but i also cant make small talk for crap and rarely know what to talk to women about. i not into music, and it seems music is like 99% of small talk. more

Resolved Question: Husband "keeps" things from me...losing trust!?

Wrote on here before about it. Here is the long of the short of it..Been married 7yrs have 2 small children. Husband and I have NO intimacy..he claims he's tired...it's OK if in fact, that's true! Few years ago, I found out he was lying about where he went with a friend..(Strip Club). Normally, that would be OK (not happy but OK)..but since we do not have sex or any intimacy, it made me feel uncomfortable about it. Then more recently, he bought a motorcycle and took out a large loan (I knew he was buying a bike CASH) he neglected to mention the loan which we cannot afford at this time. Yet again, today, I was able to access his email. (mistaken BTW) because we switched phones and he did not delete his account. I found a couple "flirty" messages with another woman. Apparently they worked together at this power plant he was working at (it was a new construction power plant that recently EXPLODED)..anyway, I did not notice any "cheating" signs other than, his mention of wanting to have dinner with just HER (She sent a message saying, should it be the 3 of us or just us 2)...his reply was "the latter") Eye brow raised. Also, they have cute pet names for each other and my hubs is NOT like that...He calls me honey but that is it...he is stiff normally. Well, for her, he calls her "cakes" and he is called "princess" dont get it but whatever. Also, they talk about going and eating Sushi together...(HE HATES FISH and SUSHI) so again, what the heck is going on?? I get that people flirt, I FLIRT!!! BUT, it is known..I am very friendly and call people sweetheart and honey...its who I am...but HIM, NOT AT ALL! Not sure how to handle this. Not sure if this situation is cheating or him having a playful friendship that he just neglected to mention. If I have a pal at work, he knows about it! Just wondering why she was never mentioned! He claims the women who worked in his "trailer" on the site, were "fat, trashy women"! Horrible talk but its what he said...so why does he say in his email "I'll buy u lunch today HONEY"...and "lets have sushi dinner soon, the two of us..and catch up over rice and drinks!!!!!" Why am I not aware of this????? How would any of you handle this? FYI - I have called a couple therapists but so many of them are booked up. I did get a referral today that I am hoping will call me back but I think until I talk to someone, I am going to sit on asking him about the emails..... Tip: I'm 30, would say very pretty, average size (12-14), blonde, and very low key, no nagging, etc...He is 43....this woman is 46 and I found a pic of her on facebook and seriously, if he had somethign with her, Id be shocked...based on looks...Im not sure what the deal is...I get that looks are not everything, but its sort of what makes me think, he is not cheating...just would not make any sense.... 2 hours ago - 4 days left to answer. Additional Details So to add some details: After talking to a friend about it...I kept asking my husband about the sex part...trying to be sincere and say, Im just wondering why its not happening. Instead of trying and initiating sex...so, my new theory was to instead of waiting for him to do things...I decide now if I want something to ask him for it. So, if I want him to do the dishes, I'd ask him if he would do them...or if I feel we should have sex, I may initiate it. About a week ago, he came home from being away for a week and we actually did do it. The sad thing is, I do believe him when he says he is just tired. And I know its again sad, but after seeing this womans pic, I just dont get the attraction..I see maybe a funny lady flirting with my husband but why its a secret is just beyond me.... 2 hours ago Her email to him about 15days ago (again no idea why she calls him princess): Hey Princess! > I hope you are doing OK...Miss Ya! > Cakes His response: Hey Cakes! Yeah im doin > alright. Im actually in Alabama right now taking a training course. Hows it going there? Hows Kenny doing? hers again: I hear he is doing a tiny bit better every day....When are you coming home??? We NEED to do Sushi....!!!!!! Hope you are having fun there in Alli-bami...whereabouts are you? His reply: Hey Cakes, Yeah Im here till Saturday in lovely Birmingham. What a **** hole! LOL. Def gotta do sushi This is before Alabama Her to him: Sent: Fri, January 29, 2010 11:35:47 AM Subject: Sushi Are you still getting us lunch 2day...sweety? His reply: US? Yes I am buying your lunch honey! hers:Were you thinking the 3 of us were going, or u & I could go to have a drink & rice and catch up? His: ummm the second What do ya'll think?To those who have already read this: Yes, I did post this already but wanted to add the "emails"...so people can see the messages..and I ran out of space so I couldnt add it to my other posting. Not trying to clutter boards, just like anyone else, searching for answers!Well, I confronted him on it. He said Princess is ME..that she saw a wedding pic and said I looked like a princess. (not sure why she calls him that but OK)....he calls her cakes cause everyone does..patty cakes..(again what he said). He said he does not eat sushi...and that he has rice but all the people in the office would get sushi and he hated it, etc. then he got all mad saying I am always looking for things and he feels like a prisoner. I guess he dont get that when you get caught lying even once, it breaks trust. Now I just dont know what to do. He thinks the yahoo answers is crap cause I said well, Im not insane, other people would be upset too..(he said when he called her honey, he was being sarcastic)...Ever just feel so lost and have no clue where to go? I just lost my grndmother a month ago (she was like my mother) so I am just all emotionally drained at this point. I tried calling therapists but many are booked...still waiting on one so I pray they can help! more

Resolved Question: Husband lying (keeping info) from me. Any ideas?

Wrote on here before about it. Here is the long of the short of it..Been married 7yrs have 2 small children. Husband and I have NO intimacy..he claims he's tired...it's OK if in fact, that's true! Few years ago, I found out he was lying about where he went with a friend..(Strip Club). Normally, that would be OK (not happy but OK)..but since we do not have sex or any intimacy, it made me feel uncomfortable about it. Then more recently, he bought a motorcycle and took out a large loan (I knew he was buying a bike CASH) he neglected to mention the loan which we cannot afford at this time. Yet again, today, I was able to access his email. (mistaken BTW) because we switched phones and he did not delete his account. I found a couple "flirty" messages with another woman. Apparently they worked together at this power plant he was working at (it was a new construction power plant that recently EXPLODED)..anyway, I did not notice any "cheating" signs other than, his mention of wanting to have dinner with just HER (She sent a message saying, should it be the 3 of us or just us 2)...his reply was "the latter") Eye brow raised. Also, they have cute pet names for each other and my hubs is NOT like that...He calls me honey but that is it...he is stiff normally. Well, for her, he calls her "cakes" and he is called "princess" dont get it but whatever. Also, they talk about going and eating Sushi together...(HE HATES FISH and SUSHI) so again, what the heck is going on?? I get that people flirt, I FLIRT!!! BUT, it is known..I am very friendly and call people sweetheart and honey...its who I am...but HIM, NOT AT ALL! Not sure how to handle this. Not sure if this situation is cheating or him having a playful friendship that he just neglected to mention. If I have a pal at work, he knows about it! Just wondering why she was never mentioned! He claims the women who worked in his "trailer" on the site, were "fat, trashy women"! Horrible talk but its what he said...so why does he say in his email "I'll buy u lunch today HONEY"...and "lets have sushi dinner soon, the two of us..and catch up over rice and drinks!!!!!" Why am I not aware of this????? How would any of you handle this? FYI - I have called a couple therapists but so many of them are booked up. I did get a referral today that I am hoping will call me back but I think until I talk to someone, I am going to sit on asking him about the emails..... Tip: I'm 30, would say very pretty, average size (12-14), blonde, and very low key, no nagging, etc...He is 43....this woman is 46 and I found a pic of her on facebook and seriously, if he had somethign with her, Id be shocked...based on looks...Im not sure what the deal is...I get that looks are not everything, but its sort of what makes me think, he is not cheating...just would not make any sense....So to add some details: After talking to a friend about it...I kept asking my husband about the sex part...trying to be sincere and say, Im just wondering why its not happening. Instead of trying and initiating sex...so, my new theory was to instead of waiting for him to do things...I decide now if I want something to ask him for it. So, if I want him to do the dishes, I'd ask him if he would do them...or if I feel we should have sex, I may initiate it. About a week ago, he came home from being away for a week and we actually did do it. The sad thing is, I do believe him when he says he is just tired. And I know its again sad, but after seeing this womans pic, I just dont get the attraction..I see maybe a funny lady flirting with my husband but why its a secret is just beyond me....Her email to him about 15days ago (again no idea why she calls him princess): Hey Princess! > I hope you are doing OK...Miss Ya! > Cakes His response: Hey Cakes! Yeah im doin > alright. Im actually in Alabama right now taking a training course. Hows it going there? Hows Kenny doing? hers again: I hear he is doing a tiny bit better every day....When are you coming home??? We NEED to do Sushi....!!!!!! Hope you are having fun there in Alli-bami...whereabouts are you? His reply: Hey Cakes, Yeah Im here till Saturday in lovely Birmingham. What a shit hole! LOL. Def gotta do sushi This is before Alabama Her to him: Sent: Fri, January 29, 2010 11:35:47 AM Subject: Sushi Are you still getting us lunch 2day...sweety? His reply: US? Yes I am buying your lunch honey! hers:Were you thinking the 3 of us were going, or u & I could go to have a drink & rice and catch up? His: ummm the second What do ya'll think? more

Resolved Question: Do you have a good comeback for me, next time this happens?

My girl friend and I were at a night club in Vegas and she left to go to the restroom. While she was gone a beautiful young woman came up to me and started flirting (she's obviously a hooker) her name is Bambi and she asked me if I'd like to come up to her room. Just for fun, I asked her how much she charged, she says "$125 basic rate, $100 tips for special services". I say "wow, I was thinking more in the range of $25". Bambi laughs at me and calls me a hick. Later that evening Bambi sees me and my girl friend and she walks up to me and says, " see what you get for $25". more

Resolved Question: Should I feel bad, what should have I done?

I was at a night club in Vegas and my girl friend went to the restroom. While she was gone a beautiful young woman came up to me and started flirting , she was obviously a hooker because she asked if I'd like to come up to her room. Just out of curiosity, I asked her how much she charged, she says ($125 basic rate, $100 tips for special services). I was shocked, so I said (I was thinking more in the range of $25). She laughed at me and called me a hick. Later that evening the hooker sees me with my girl friend and comes up to me and says (see what you get for $25.). more

Resolved Question: How is my story so far? (May be long)?

I was planning on writing a story, but i didn't have much time because i am doing a bunch of stuff right know so i only had a few minutes to type...yeah. Sorry if it sucks, its what happens when you don't spend a lot of time on it! Maybe its because my mom is a serious history junkie, or maybe it has to do with the fact that my nerdy mother named me after a goddess, but whatever the reason I have always been close to the gods and goddesses. (Okay, I guess really mean one goddess which is Calliope.) Still, when you are in a dream expecting to see some famous hot guy flirting with you, seeing a goddess in it instead is kind of a shocker. In my dream, I was wearing a lacy white dress (more like a piece of cloth but whatever) that drooped in a low V-neck and probably just about covered my butt. (Don’t know how I ended up in that) Wind blew the smell of flowers and hay into my nose and the grassy meadow seemed to go on for forever. It was like a magical, not real, peaceful land with a random snow white blanket laying in the middle of the flowers and green, soft grass. I pretty much dance/walked over to the blanket and with a elegant gesture sat down on it, enjoying the pretty dream scene. Expecting to see some hot famous dude walk out of the trees surrounding me, I tried to sit in a nice way but the skin tight dress pretty much prevented that. “Hello, Athena, daughter.” I yelped like a scared puppy and turned to see a beautiful woman with hair the color of her gold dress and soft, light brown eyes. Her pale skin made everything even more magnificent and less real. “Calliope!” I said this as more as a statement then a question. Well she’s defiantly not Orlando Bloom, I sighed to myself. It frightened me when her voice changed from its calming, mystical voice to cold, angry and worried. She held the tips of her fingers close together, but she seemed to keep her gorgeous face calm. “Four will become one, blood will be spilled and shared, and dark enemies are closer then you may think. And remember Athena, home is were the heart is.” I jolted up in my sleep, trying to catch my breath. I wiped a drop of sweat of my eyebrow and grabbed my small alarm clock off my nightstand, 7:00. “Crap!” While scrambling out of my night clothes and getting into my school ones, I banged on the wall the separated my room from my moms room. “Thanks for waking me up!” “You should have set your alarm clock!” My mom croaked back. My mom kind of had a pretty bad addiction to alcohol, but when she wasn’t drinking she actually was a good woman who adored history. I rolled my eyes and ran down the stairs. I quickly grabbed a banana out of the fruit basket in the kitchen and jumped into my black XB. I sped to school, hoping I wouldn’t be late for my first day back from spring break, the “prophecy” going over and over in my head. I thought it over and the only think I really got out of it was that I was close to wasn’t what they seemed. Shaking my head, I walked into the school building and to my surprise only a few kids where here. “What the-.” Then I caught a glance at our huge clock and angrily ran my fingers through my hair. “Really?” I asked myself, pissed at the fact that it wasn’t even 7:00 yet. Mom must have forgot (again) to change it back when the power went out a few days ago. “Athena!” I jumped at my name and turned to see my best friend Evelyn looked shocked yet happy to see me. “Damn, your early! For you at least.” “Mom was drunk all week and forgot to change the clocks back.” I crossed my arms over my chest and started walking over to here, when I remembered the prophecy. “Dark enemies are closer then you think.” But I wouldn’t believe my petite blonde friend was of any harm. “No offence or anything, but that chick need to get to rehab.” Evelyn walked with my while I looked around for my locker. “Your telling me?” I raised an eyebrow and started unlocking my locker which I had just found after the long spring break. Evelyn shrugged and leaned against the row of lockers. I was busily looking for a library book I had lost and my mom was pissed because she would have to pay for it if I didn’t find it. Don’t get me wrong were are fairly upper middle class, but my moms cheap, and i mean Mr. Krabs cheap. (Hey, who doesn't watch Spongebob once inn a while?) more

Resolved Question: How is this story so far?

Holly spun around in her rotating chair as she waited for Barbara, her hairstylist, to put more red highlights in her hair. They were beginning to fade. Frowning at her almost brown tips, she picked up an old People magazine and began to flip through the pages. In the seat next to her, Palma was getting her hair cut real short. A guy with spiky black hair and black makeup snipped away at her blond hair. "Are you sure you wanna do this?" Jen asked, getting her nails done with Dominique on the other side of the store. "Yes," Palma said. "I want to have an edgy rocker chick look." Holly smiled. Palma had the facial structure for a short hairdo. She looked like she could be one of those foreign models. "It looks cute so far," Holly offered. "Are you getting pink tips too?" "Yep," Palma nodded, but was told to hold still by the guy cutting her hair. Holly nodded and continued to read her magazine. She had so much on her mind. There was a party later that night, her ex-boyfriend wouldn't stop sending her text messages, and Maris was acting weird again. She thought it was because her impending boyfriend Lucas was flirting with other girls. Whatever the problem was, it was getting to Maris. Just then, Reese and Maris skidded into the beauty salon. An old lady in a wheelchair looked at them as if they were crazy. Maris smiled an apology as she glided across the room towards Holly. She slid in the chair next to her and crossed her legs. "Um, miss?" a young redheaded lady said to her, her arms crossed. "That seat is for paying customers." Maris rolled her eyes and hopped out of the seat. "Sorry," she said curtly. The woman gave her a long hard look before walking away. Maris sighed. "People are so rude." "I know." Palma whispered. "That woman was a bitch!" Holly was used to coming across rude people. Everywhere her and her friends went, there was always some adult scolding them for something minor. It was generally because they were either too loud or not doing anything productive. Holly looked down at her cellphone. Another text message from Peter. Not even bothering to read it, she deleted the message. She wanted to block him, but she didn't have the heart to. "I hope he's not getting obsessive." Reese said, looking down at Holly's phone. "He's cool and all, but why does he keep texting you?" Holly agreed with Reese. All this time Peter had been ignoring Holly, but now that she broke up with him all he did was try to talk to her. Holly was confused. "Who knows." she shrugged. Reese messed with her hair in the mirror for a little while before asking a short blond woman to wax her eyebrows. The woman led her over to the sinks and beckoned Reese to sit in one of the chairs. Finally, Barbara came over to Holly's section with a huge smile on her face. She was a short brunette with a pageboy bob. She was no older than twenty-three. Her and Holly had known each other since Holly was eleven. She had been doing her hair for years. "So what are we doing today, Holly?" she asked, cupping Holly's soft hair in her hands. "My highlights are starting to fade so I need new ones." Holly said, showing Barbara her pale red highlights. Barbara nodded and opened one of the drawers. She took out a comb and began to run it through Holly's hair. Holly set back and enjoyed the feeling of Barbara combing her hair. So many things were happening. She couldn't stop thinking about Peter and it was obvious he couldn't stop thinking about her either. She looked out glass door and saw people passing by the shop. They all looked so happy and problem-free. Unlike her. She needed someone to make her life fun and exciting. Someone who was funny and knew how to make things interesting. Someone who was fun to be around with. Where is Andy when you need him? She thought. When they left the beauty shop, the girls walked around downtown for a little while. They browsed through the boutiques and almost stopped inside a store that sold designer sunglasses. None of them had the money to buy them. Holly shielded her eyes with her hands as the sun hit her face. It was warmer than the other day, but it was still a little breezy. Elisha walked a little bit too close to Holly and Holly gave her a look. "Please?" she asked, taking Elisha's aviators off of her face. Elisha tilted her lips as if to say "Oh, shucks! Aren't I just the worst?". "You wanna walk by the river?" Maris asked. "It's a nice day for it." Holly loved going by the river. There was so much memories there. When her dad used to take her and her siblings there for picnic and events. Where she witnessed her wedding and boat race. Where she nearly fell over the boat when her dad took her on a boating trip. "Let's do it." she said, smiling. Palma jumped up and down with eagerness. Her new cropped hairstyle looked amazing on her with her Kiss tank-top and multicolored skirt. Holly admired the pink tips in her hair. She was worried Palma more

Voting Question: Trouble with women. Any tips?

I am a confident and i think at least moderately attractive guy. I'm good at sports and a talented musician but i have issues picking up chicks. If i try the cool guy act the girl doesn't seem to interested to chase and my flirting is good but when i actually try to ask girls out i almost scare them away even though i am not even coming on to them i'm just casually asking them out. Weather this happens at school or random places. Or if I like a girl or just am looking for a quick hook up i can't seem to find a medium point that attracts women. Anyone got any pointers or tips for me. more

Resolved Question: I want to pour my heart out to her?

We met just last week. I went crazy for her. And yes im not infatuated with her. My feelings for her are strong. But just last night I called her because we had made prior plans to meet on Thursday. So she said "when did i say I was going to hangout with you" I said "I hope you will hangout with me". Then she said "hey we are just friends right?" I began to cry but she didn't know i was on the phone. I like this women allot. And I'm sure shes freak out that I like her so much. But before she runs off. I want to pour my heart out to her. She gave me signs before that she liked me too flirted with me. We are gonna meet today as friends.. What is the best way to pour my heart out. Please don't say "don't do it" Any tips more

Resolved Question: Why does it seem that men are turned off/intimidated by a confident woman?

I am 25, over 6' tall, independent, college educated, hold 4 jobs at the moment, and trained in the art of public speaking, which means I am comfortable talking to just about anyone. The majority of my friends are male, so it is very easy for me to converse with practically any man I meet. I am not a big flirt, floozy, or a girl that other women have to worry about their boyfriends or husbands being around. I have no problem walking straight up to anyone, male or female, and starting a conversation with them. This seems to get me in a little bit of trouble when the man is single. They automatically become nervous and extremely shy, even when I know that that is not their personality. My problem is now this; no matter how much I am or am not attracted to a guy, I can talk to him regardless and because of that, the ones I do like seem to stray away from wanting to talk to me. I am not on a man hunt for a boyfriend, I can talk to anyone regardless of the attraction, and could be strictly friends with a man I am attracted to and they would never even know it. Is that the problem? Are these men possibly attracted to me but cannot gauge me so they automatically back away from me? My guy friends have told me in the past that if they had had something to lose when we were starting our friendship they would never have spoken to me. I don't get it. I thought confidence was sexy?! I know that cockiness is a turn off and I am definitely not that. I am like a duck floating on the pond, cool, calm and collected on the surface and paddling like heck underneath. All of this has made dating an absolute nightmare for me. The ones who want to date me have nothing to lose, in a negative manner, and the ones I am attracted to have everything to lose so they just take themselves out of the game before it even begins. Are there no confident single men left? Men, what is your take on my situation?. Are you confident enough in yourself that you would approach a confident, independent woman like myself? Any tips for me? I am holding out for the one guy who risks it all to talk to me, so I am praying that their is one out there. Do you believe that he exists or am I am merely waiting for a fairytale? more

Resolved Question: Do white men GENERALLY think Latina's don't like them?

Do white men GENERALLY think Latina's don't like them? haha, seriously! I keep on seeing some questions regarding white men and Latina women. For example, "do latinas like white men?" Of course we do. Or at least I do. While I know that not every white man is willing to date outside his race, I also know that not every Latina would consider to dating outside her culture. I'm a Latina but I was born and raised in the US. I think white men are so attractive and Asian men are such sweethearts ^^ (I've dated Asian before, btw) Now I live in a different community (predominantly white) and I would just like to know if anybody has any tips on interracial dating. I'm a very open minded person (: -how can i find out if a guy is willing to date outside his race besides just asking him straight out? (i'm kind of shy to just ask somebody straight out like that) -How do I let others know that I am interested and willing to date outside my race/ethnicity? -Like I said before, do white men GENERALLY think Latinas are not willing to go out with them? -Do Asian men think the same as the above question? THANK YOU FOR YOUR ANSWERS (: ps. I've noticed that white men flirt differently than Hispanic men. Has anybody noticed this too? Why do you think so? ^ has anybody else noticed that? PSS. I'm in college btw. more

Resolved Question: Do girls WANT to be asked out?

Okay, that was a bit vague... As I grew up, through a series of events and circumstances that I'm really just to lazy to explain, I've become convinced that asking a girl out is rude. Asking a girl out merits a slap in the face, showing your intentions to a girl is completely wrong (both socially and morally), and...I just don't get it. I'm wrapped up in the idea that anything more than friendly conversation and light flirting is being a sexual deviant...so relationships just...sort of happen. I'm really tired of being single, I have the ability to be confident and charming, and I KNOW that I'm good looking, but I can't bring myself to make my intentions known to a girl and really FLIRT with a girl-let alone ask one out! I've recently moved onto my college's campus and practically every other girl I see walk by is so beautiful I could melt, and I'm sure they think I'm good looking to, but I can't wrap my mind around really pursuing women. Hypothetically, if a cute guy that you've met, and chatted with a couple times, but don't really know very well asked you on a date, would you reject him? How about if your good-looking guy friend asked you out, but you've never really thought about him being more than a friend, would you still go for it? I'm having a pretty hard time, so any answers and tips would be really appreciated. more

Resolved Question: Help with my boyfriend who might have many other girlfriends please?

my ex boyfriend asked for me back and i accepted after he convinced me that he will be faith full to me. He's an italian boy and he is very feisty.He acts as if females are all dogs and cant be trusted. i always see him flirting with other girls on his facebook and i know he talks to other girls. Sometimes i notice that he will diss even the most prettyiest girls because they dont speak to him for a long time or perhaps he dosent think they are worthy enough he knows im a virgin and i dont know if that makes me any different from the other girls he talks to point is im infactuated with him.i want to be the one he takes seriously.im also interested in his philosophy with women.does it sound like he is looking for love? and please tell me what i can do to make sure he picks me as his girl or any tips u can share thanks more

Voting Question: Best ways to flirt with an older woman.....?

what are some good tips for flirting, and starting a relationship with an older woman than me, who has kids, and has been divorced? more

Resolved Question: I need some help flirting?

I am disabled & have some mobility issues in my arms & hands. So flirting can be difficult as I can't just reach out & put my arm around a girl, or reach and take her hand. So I'm looking for some good tips on how to flirt & let the woman know I'm interested in her.Based on some responses, I guess I needed to be more clear. I have use of my arms and hands, just have some things I can't do. Thank you to "YUM" for giving a real response more

Voting Question: How can you tell if a girl you want to ask out is gay?

I'm a bisexual woman. However, I have horrible 'gaydar' and sometimes find myself trying to flirt with girls who may or may not be romantically interested in me because I'm a girl. I'm average looking and tend to find it easier asking out heterosexual guys because it always seems like there are a lot of them out at bars and clubs (the usual pickup joints). Basically my question is, are there any tips for girls to ask out other girls? Or at least to establish if they would be open to dating or hooking up with a girl? I'm a little afraid to straight out ask someone..."Hey are you a lesbian?" especially if she isn't. Some people get really offended when you think they are gay when they aren't. more

Resolved Question: Any tips on being a virgin for life?

I'm not joking, I don't want to be in a relationship and want to avoid it at all costs (don't ask). I don't plan on having sex in my life, it's a life choice. The thing is I plan on going into stock broker and eventually into investment banking. Outside of business contacts or talking about work or needs I will avoid small talk with women at all cost. Any other tips you can offer? Please don't ask for reasons why, I asked this question and want answers. I do realize it is much easier as a man seeing as women do not approach men, but how can I avoid social situations that could end up in flirting or exchanging of numbers? more

Resolved Question: Do guys like hard to get?

I try to not flirt hard and take things slowly but sometimes I get the feeling boys get bored and move on. What am I doing wrong? I thought boys like something to work for? Any tips? How do you want your woman to act? more

Voting Question: feelin lonely, any tips for a male on getting into a relationship?

i am a 21 year old college student, ive been told by many people (and i believe myself) that i am quite good looking, im a nice guy, ive always hung out with, ill say "cool kids," (im not a nerd is what im trying to say), i have goals for my future, i have always been a little shy, but as of the last couple years i have come out of my shell and i am able to talk, and i am confident in every aspect of my life, EXCEPT THE GETTING GIRLS PART! i love my life, i go out often, i am social, i have many friends, and i always thought the girl thing would just fall into place. Back in the day in middle school when girls were first discovering that i was attractive, i did not have to try to get girls to like me. I had a long time girlfriend because i would simply choose the girl i liked from the # of girls that liked me. Now here i am many years later, and i have not developed any "game." i got used to not having to try, now i dont know how to try. i talk to women, i can hold great conversations but they never seem to materialize into a hook up, or a relationship. my friends have always told me that im better suited for a relationship b/c im such a "good guy." i would love to have random hook ups and all that, but really im just tired of being alone. Most people seem shocked that ive never dated anyone in high school or college b/c at first glance i may look like a "player" or something. i am in a college town, i feel like i have the potential to get a women whenever i choose, but yet every night i go home empty handed. Obviously girls are no longer going for me, i have to work at it, but i dont really know how. i feel like i flirt, but what do i have to do, to have a woman truly want me like they used to? i am sorry for rambling on and i hope i didnt sound like a douche bag in this, i just dont know who i can ask! more

Resolved Question: How to let a scorpio male you are serious about leaving?

How do I show or let a scorpio male if he doesn't change I am done? He seems to not take my words serious.. It's all about him and what he wants. I need more from him, he doesn't satisfy my need for attention and affection and I'm starting to want to be single. Please any tips, suggestions. I am a sagittarius and he is scorpio. Tired of all the BS and being unhappy. P.S. He also has been screwing up big time like flirting with my friend in front of my face while he was blasted drunk, and another incident of him trying to talk to another woman I found out about before that. I am seriously on my last straw. His words don't match with his actions. The list is becoming very long. He's been messing up royally and not even trying to make it up or show me better. Guys I have been with before at least try to make up for it. Not used to this type of treatment. He doesn't tell me how he feels either but he supposedly loves me and I am his everything? So.... a guy text me and gave me a pic mail and he saw it. I was trying to make him jealous or let him know in a way I'm not happy because me talking to him doesn't do crap. But the text seems to only make it worse and him more distant and acting like he doesn't care about trying to please me. Can someone give me some insight on this please????? What the heck can I do to really open up his eyes before its too late and I will not want nothing to do with him anymore. We live together also more

Resolved Question: Should I just give it up?

Ok my friend wanted to meet a friend of his that needed a boyfriend so I asked her out and promised the friend I would take her out 3 times before i would make the decision to fully date her or not. When I picked her up I brought a dozen pick roses. She said she hates roses and like tulips. I open the car door for her and she says I am an independent woman I can open the door myself. When we got to the restaurant she just kept talking, and talking, and talking. I probably said 4 words the whole night. Well midway in the dinner her ex walks in. He comes to the table flirts with her and decides to leave with him. She said I was not her type and I was to nice of a guy to be with her because she felt like she would corrupt me. Well still in shock I stayed in the seat for about 10 min when MY ex comes in with the guy she cheated on me with. The reason she said she cheated on me was because I am waiting till I am married to have sex. She sits down at the table and her ex walks off saying "I'll leave you two to talk". She has the nerve to say "Still alone I see you should kept me when you had the chance." Well I answered "I would rather be by myself than with you" she said "face it you will never find a girl like me". The thing is I have met a girl that lives in another state that I really like we have everything in common its just the distance. Well then I said "Correction I will never be with a girl like you again. So for that I would have to leave 100 mile radius." She says "How dare you say that to me" then I said well how about this. At this time you can probably guessed what happened. I took my dessert and smushed it in her face left a tip and walked out. After all this I just cant get what she said out of my mind. Should I just give up looking for the right girl? by the way is it just me or is that one hell of a story? more

Resolved Question: How to tell a woman wants you?

How can i tell if a woman is into me, Whether it be for a relationship, a fling or purely physical(sex)? *She likes to flirt alot, but does seem to flirt with me quite a bit more then others. *She lets me make dirty jokes with her and doesnt take them the wrong way. *Takes my belongings and puts them in her clothing and simply giggles and backs away slightly when i approach to remove it xD *Shares personal information with me, and takes part in many conversations about sex and other related with me. *Is constantly changing the way i say things to turn them into sexual remarks and pursues to laugh with me about it *Comments about how "if this, if that" she would have sex with me *Is very social with me ie: takes me to lunch, clubs, pubs, and parties alone and/or with others. I dont see her very often, maybe 1-2 times a week, but she seems to be doing these things quite a bit when im around her Any comments? And any tips on how i might be able to get subtle hints from her? or How i can indirectly ask her for a relationship/sex? We are very close friends so i do not want to do anything rash and ruin our friendship with each other. If she does want sex, what would be the best way to confirm this? or the best way to start off in asking her for it/enticing her more

Resolved Question: How can i tell if an older woman is into me?

How can i tell if a woman who is 10-12 years older then myself is into me, Whether it be for a relationship, a fling or purely physical(sex)? *She likes to flirt alot, but does seem to flirt with me quite a bit more then others. *She lets me make dirty jokes with her and doesnt take them the wrong way. *Takes my belongings and puts them in her back pocket and simply giggles and backs away slightly when i approach to remove it xD *Shares personal information with me, and takes part in many conversations about sex with me. *Is constantly changing the way i say things to turn them into sexual comments *Comments about how "if i was older" she would have sex with me *Is very social with me ie: takes me to lunch, clubs, pubs, and parties alone and/or with others. Any comments? And any tips on how i might be able to get subtle hints from her? or How i can indirectly ask her for a relationship/sex? We are very close friends so i do not want to do anything rash and ruin our friendship with each other.I dont see her very often, maybe 1-2 times a week, but she seems to be doing these things quite a bit when im around herIf she does want sex, what would be the best way to confirm this? or the best way to start off in asking her for it/enticing her more

Resolved Question: Best way to forget a loser?

He is a loser. I finally accept the reality - I knew he liked to be romantic with a few women at the same time. I got totally pissed when I found flirting texts first, then love email to a few ex. He promised to stop contact. He did stop but still kept their contacts. After giving him second and third chance and two long years, the last thing that happened was he rang massage parlour. He moved out for a "break". Then he started contacting all these ex again, saying he wanted to continue and how much he had them in mind. I just wish they know how many people he is writing to at the same time. And he is telling me I am too important at the same time. It sucks. So I have decided to move on from this mistake. However, what bothers me most is firstly I still have feelings for him, or the good time we spent together; secondly, I am very very annoyed about making this mistake, or annoyed about being such a stupid woman for so long. I always consider myself smart, confident, and attractive. But this really drives my self esteem very low currently. I know time will heal everything - but i really want to fast track this. I keep myself busy and keep on reminding myself not all men are like this and I will find one that understands how to respect himself and his loved one. The biggest doubt I have though is I probably will never meet one again. Please I would like to get some tips on how to fast track the process of forgetting this man, without the need to find another as finding another one is just too hard given my current status (hurt and grieving). And it will be great if people who have similar experiences but have finally found happiness, or guys who know better can give me some confidence and tips about future....Much appreciated!I have decided to not to make a judgment over him, or the lifestyle he chose to be in. He may find himself more suitable for an open relationship. As long as he is not making judgment about me, or my lifestyle...For those people who struggle with monogamy, as long as they make it clear that it does not suit them to everyone they are after, and not making judgment about monogamiest being controlling, insecured...I respect their choice... more

Resolved Question: Need some good advice and tips.?

For the past few years Ive found my self attracted to women. Im just entering my 20's and more then ever ive been curious about women and sexually experimenting. I even dream about Intimate things with another girl at least 2 times a week. Its a huge turn on for me but on the other hand so is a guy. Ive never done anything with a girl before but im interested in giving it a try. How would I go about pursuing another female partner who is also interested in experimenting and nothing serious? Also how do i know if a girl is flirting with me? And what do i do to pass the clue that im interested? The last thing i want to do is pick up wrong signals and in the end the girl to turn out to be completely straight, that would be so awkward. Thanks! more